Discussion of instances oh racism, sexism, homophobia, transphobia, or any other form of discrimination you suffered, witnessed, or participated in, how it effected you, and how you reacted to it.
I was looking for a better place to post what happened to my family today, and I couldn’t find one.
NB. Stealing from my wife’s Facebook because she describes it better than I could. For context, my wife and I are white, and our son is black.
Chauvin has been found guilty.
This country still has so much work to do.
Don’t believe me?
My 4 year old black son was profiled in the baby pool today at Great Wolf Lodge.
A lifeguard supervisor stopped in his tracks to yell at JT for splashing Adam. No one else was within 6 feet of them. They were under cones of water that dump water every minute.
I asked him to clarify why he had to stop splashing his DAD. He said that Adam looked bothered by the splashing.
He later admitted that he didn’t put the 2 of them together because they don’t look alike.
Let’s put this in perspective. The lifeguard supervisor was more concerned about a 4 year old splashing a white man than he was about a 4 year old alone in a pool.
I spoke to an acquatic manager. He confirmed my account. Questionable human attempted to “apologize” but really just made excuses. I stopped him to remind him that not all families look alike and that he needed to stop making excuses.
I went to the general manager. He has turned the matter over to HR.
This is in addition to issues we have had getting them to let JT go down the big slides, even when I have told the lifeguard at the bottom that I was there & showed them what JT looked like. He didn’t look like the Mama Bear at the bottom, so the guard at the top wouldn’t let him go down even though guard at the bottom was giving him a good to go sign (he doesn’t even need me - it’s just a rule because of his height). The general manager said they will implement new policies to match kids with their adults that is not based on what anyone looks like.
So yes. My relief is minimal. I still want to hide JT and never let him out of my sight.
I’m not looking for “I’m so sorry-ies.” I’m looking for “I promise to raise my humans better than this” and “I will examine my own biases in my everyday life and improve.”