Pregnancy Catch-All

Pages

There's a parenting thread, a parenting confessions thread, a look-how-adorbz-my-lil-bean-is thread... but I didn't see any threads dedicated to pregnancy, specifically. I thought it'd be nice to have a place to tailgate before the main event, so to speak. So go ahead. Pass the pickles and let's all complain about our swollen feet.

(13 weeks into pregnancy #2 and I'm just so f'ing done with this absolute horsesh*t. Pregnancy sucks.)

I will tell my wife she should sign up on GWJ so she can complain about her pregnancy here.. the other day she was Female Doggoing about her belly button popping out..

TheGameguru wrote:

.. the other day she was Female Doggoing about her belly button popping out..

You mean she's not getting all the sympathy she can handle at home?

TheGameguru wrote:

I will tell my wife she should sign up on GWJ so she can complain about her pregnancy here.. the other day she was Female Doggoing about her belly button popping out..

Great start to the thread!

Durp sorry should have realized this was for actual pregnant women to post it.. Didnt mean to barge in. I'm just so excited to be a Dad.

Speaking of bodies doing dumb sh*t, I'm not excited to have needed maternity clothes again at nine weeks. WTF body. What the actual f. And that's even with me losing fifteen pounds due to the hyperemesis (which every doctor and midwife from here to eternity SWORE wasn't going to happen again, because second pregnancies are usually easier, and blahblahblahLIES)

Moral of the story: Our bodies, and the babies who temporarily occupy them, are jerks.

Congratulations!

My wife is at ~25 weeks now with our first child.

It's, uh, very gassy in the Prime household right now.

My wife is not on GWJ, but when I shared with her your post, K, she yelled "Amen, sister!" She is also on her second pregnancy and miserable. She hated her first pregnancy (and delivery) and has not enjoyed her second one. What makes matters worse is that, at her job, she is surrounded by women who love/loved being pregnant and cannot, for the life of them, understand why some women don't like it.

Congratulations and hang in there!

Hyperemesis? Ohhhh noooo. I didn't suffer from it, but know of a few who have. You have all my support and sympathy.

I needed maternity clothes sooner during my second pregnancy as well. Nothing EVER fit right when I was pregnant.

concentric wrote:

I needed maternity clothes sooner during my second pregnancy as well. Nothing EVER fit right when I was pregnant.

I hear ya. Even--no, especially--maternity clothes. Either it's a sack that makes you feel as sexless as a cactus, or there's elastic squeezing across your belly, as if that's gonna keep your belly in. WTF?

And maternity bras are just the worst.

They really are. I think that in general one of the harder things about being pregnant was knowing that all of the changes to my body were out of my control.

I didn't LOVE being pregnant, but I had a very easy pregnancy. Even with that in mind, I cannot believe how women are able to actually take care of another child while pregnant (lifting, constant motion, constant attention, no relaxation). I was SO tired when I was pregnant, and I can barely handle my 2 year old now without that additional challenge. I wish you a speedy couple of months!!

concentric wrote:

They really are. I think that in general one of the harder things about being pregnant was knowing that all of the changes to my body were out of my control.

YES. I really, really struggled with that in my first pregnancy. Not to take it to a dark place, but being pregnant reminded me a lot of past abusive relationships I've been in, not just in the lack of autonomy, but in the fundamental inability to escape. Sometimes it was downright terrifying.

DiscoDriveby wrote:

Even with that in mind, I cannot believe how women are able to actually take care of another child while pregnant (lifting, constant motion, constant attention, no relaxation). I was SO tired when I was pregnant, and I can barely handle my 2 year old now without that additional challenge.

I don't know how they do it either. For almost two months, I've been so ill that I've unable to care for my son. We've had to up daycare (which is expensive AF) and in the mornings/evenings, Sleipnir handles 99% of the childcare. It wracks me with guilt every day.

All I can say on this is women are amazing. If men had to do what you all do, there wouldn't be a population crisis anywhere. My wife said the same thing... she hated being tired and didn't like being pregnant. Her best friend was one of those "I loved being pregnant" people and it was always funny to hear my wife's comments after they had been out while my wife was pregnant. Wishing you a speedy and healthy pregnancy.

Kat, I don't judge you at all for relying on daycare! How good can you be if you feel like hell? The money part sucks, but making life easier...that's worth it!

I completely agree with DD. Being pregnant with a 2 year old was hard enough without what you are dealing with. I'm really glad Sleipnir is stepping up.

So, is this thread just for people who are pregnant, or is it okay for those who are pregnancy-adjacent (i.e. my wife is pregnant) to chat as well? No problem at all if this is not the place for me to comment, I don't want to intrude.

KaterinLHC wrote:

And maternity bras are just the worst.

Especially if you're like me and are relatively slim with pregnancy boobs that just went crazy. Nothing at the maternity stores fit right. At all. However, there is a specialty bra shop in our area that hooked me up (pun intended). They had bras for literally all shapes and sizes, including nursing bras, and expert staff so you can get the right fit. It can be pricey, but well worth it IMO. I highly recommend it to anyone with Breasts of Unusual Size or just in need of support!

mrlogical wrote:

So, is this thread just for people who are pregnant, or is it okay for those who are pregnancy-adjacent (i.e. my wife is pregnant) to chat as well? No problem at all if this is not the place for me to comment, I don't want to intrude.

Originally thought it'd be a space for people who are, were, or will be pregnant, but I've got no problem with support staff (as it were) chiming in too. Just please don't complain in here about how miserable your pregnant partner is making you. You won't find a ton of sympathy from me.

chixor7 wrote:

However, there is a specialty bra shop in our area that hooked me up (pun intended). They had bras for literally all shapes and sizes, including nursing bras, and expert staff so you can get the right fit.

There's a specialty shop in our area, but they sell one type of maternity bra and that's it. Adorable. I have had some luck on the internet, though. Thank the Maker for Amazon.

Definitely not planning to complain! My wife is doing great. But it sounds my thoughts would fit better elsewhere. Good luck all!

Argh, that's frustrating Katerin. Amazon is a bacon saver for sure!

Also I just want to say thanks for starting this thread. My little is almost 6 months old now, but Mommy forums (I'm looking at you BabyCenter and The Bump) are probably second only to YouTube comments as the worst place on the internet.

KaterinLHC wrote:

There's a parenting thread, a parenting confessions thread, a look-how-adorbz-my-lil-bean-is thread... but I didn't see any threads dedicated to pregnancy, specifically.

*cough*

I also needed maternity clothes sooner this time around. Last time, I was wearing pre-pregnancy pants until six and a half months out. This time, I had to go and buy summer stuff, because my first set of maternity clothes were all winter stuff.

I'm so glad it's fall now, because I'm wearing the babydolls and leggings I have from three years ago.

Also, hyperemesis freaking sucks. I was barfing almost daily until AbsurdToddler was born. Seriously. They handed me the kid, and I had to tell Absurd to hold him instead, because I had to throw up.

However, there is a specialty bra shop in our area that hooked me up (pun intended). They had bras for literally all shapes and sizes, including nursing bras, and expert staff so you can get the right fit. It can be pricey, but well worth it IMO. I highly recommend it to anyone with Breasts of Unusual Size or just in need of support!

Chixor, where is this mystical bra place that you speak of? Nursing bra options for 42Gs are quite limited.

Dee, I went to one in Kansas City, but they have a location in St. Louis as well. Here's the website: http://www.clairdelunekc.com

They had 34G in nursing bras, so it seems reasonable they'd have your size too. Unfortunately I don't think they have a way of ordering online, but they might be able to give you some brand names to check out.

chixor7 wrote:

They had 34G in nursing bras, so it seems reasonable they'd have your size too.

Actually, it's not so reasonable. A lot of brands that have G cups will only go up to 38 or 40. They do have one nursing bra in my size, but I hate Anita. Thanks for the tip, though. I have one ordered from Intimacy that should come in a few weeks.

I didn't know about Dee's thread when I was pregnant or I would've complained there!!! My first pregnancy was fairly easy compared to others but I didn't like being pregnant. I felt like control and my body were being taken away from me.
As for my second... I was fairly miserable. I lost more weight in my first trimester from not being able to eat (I'd already lost so much while breastfeeding my first, people were trying to convince me to not BF, I had collar bones visibly showing, it got bad). And I was so so so tired from the pregnancy, I could barely saves you energy for my eldest. He was and still is very outgoing, and he hadn't gotten his diagnosis yet (both my boys are on the autism spectrum), so we didn't understand why he wouldn't want to walk and hold our hands (if have to carry him most of the time). My husband took over most of taking care of him on weekends because I just couldn't and he resented me, so that was awesome. And I had a really long commute at that time (~500km/week). Baby number two ended up in full breech so they sectioned me and that really really sucked (again, husband didn't get why I made such a big deal of being cut up since the baby was healthy).

Yeah, screw pregnancy. Hyperemesis is just adding insult to injury. You really have my sympathies, ladies. (Spoiler: I'M NEVER DOING IT AGAIN! )

Eleima wrote:

(again, husband didn't get why I made such a big deal of being cut up since the baby was healthy).

I'd have cut him.

sometimesdee wrote:
Eleima wrote:

(again, husband didn't get why I made such a big deal of being cut up since the baby was healthy).

I'd have cut him.

Pretty sure she still can; I don't think there's a statute of limitations on stuff like that.

My wife was on bedrest for a lot of her pregnancy with the twins. In the hospital under observation for a decent chunk of time as well. Our oldest was 20 months old when the twins were born, so there was a toddler to contend with during that time. Did I mention that we have no family within 1000 miles of us? Yeah, good times. Fortunately, I have a job that allows telecommuting and a good boss or things would have been really bad.

My wife developed allergies to rice and soy during her pregnancies as well. Boss' sister developed a severe allergy to mushrooms. The body undergoes such wonderful and sometimes permanent changes. It's a beautiful and spiritual time.

sometimesdee wrote:
Eleima wrote:

(again, husband didn't get why I made such a big deal of being cut up since the baby was healthy).

I'd have cut him.

I <3 you Dee

Is it weird that I was so glad I had a C? I mean, yes, pain, but my whole pregnancy I was freaked out about labor and delivery. Was so happy not to go through it. Plus, my fun parts!

I mean, yeah, there are advantages to having a c-section, but they're still a pretty big deal.

I had to explain this to my local pharmacy tech a couple of weeks ago. She's due with her first next month, so we were talking about pregnancy sh*t. I mentioned that I'd had Alex by c-section, and she said that meant I had no right to complain. I had to tell her, "they cut open my abdomen and extracted my child like a xenomorph from Alien." Any way you slice it (pun intended), childbirth is no walk in the park. In fact, walks in the park are usually contraindicated for a couple of weeks.

Pages