Anxiety -- How do you deal?

I know how bad my stuff is, but we’ve moved around so much that I’ve taken for granted how important routine and consistency can be. I’m learning that now.

I sleep under a weighted blanket now. It can't fix everything of course, but it wouldn't be hyperbolic to say it's been life-changing. So I'm glad you got one.

clover wrote:

I sleep under a weighted blanket now. It can't fix everything of course, but it wouldn't be hyperbolic to say it's been life-changing. So I'm glad you got one.

Thanks. It's definitely been life changing. So much so that once I figured out about that I looked into what people who used them did during the daytime. Apparently there's a whole world of weighted / constrictive vests that seem to help as well. I doubt they make them in my size.

DSGamer wrote:
clover wrote:

I sleep under a weighted blanket now. It can't fix everything of course, but it wouldn't be hyperbolic to say it's been life-changing. So I'm glad you got one.

Thanks. It's definitely been life changing. So much so that once I figured out about that I looked into what people who used them did during the daytime. Apparently there's a whole world of weighted / constrictive vests that seem to help as well. I doubt they make them in my size.

Tailors exist. Online tailors exist.

Jonman wrote:
DSGamer wrote:
clover wrote:

I sleep under a weighted blanket now. It can't fix everything of course, but it wouldn't be hyperbolic to say it's been life-changing. So I'm glad you got one.

Thanks. It's definitely been life changing. So much so that once I figured out about that I looked into what people who used them did during the daytime. Apparently there's a whole world of weighted / constrictive vests that seem to help as well. I doubt they make them in my size.

Tailors exist. Online tailors exist.

I wonder if they would just make one. Looking at things like this right now.

https://www.etsy.com/listing/4885468...

One thing that can give a similar benefit to the weighted vests is wearing a tight long-sleeved base layer (a compression shirt), but the thicker the better... like a light neoprene-type material or something where you feel a bit "strapped in" with it on. You might have better luck finding your size in something like that.

Does anyone here have experience with looping thoughts? I typed something up that I think might be appropriate for her, but instead I'm going to ask it in the meditation thread for now.

Music or videogames, pinball, drawing, movies in a dark room.
When that fails, I go off the rails and turn to masturbation and stuff like that, but it only works for a little while.

Any suggestions about specific brands of weighted blankets or things to look for in them?

MathGoddess wrote:

Any suggestions about specific brands of weighted blankets or things to look for in them?

For my part I just went on Amazon and found the best rated weighted blanket that was reasonably priced and this is what I ended up with.

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0...

If you click through the options for this particular manufacturer different styles of blankets will have different weights. The recommendation is to buy a blanket that's 10% of your body weight. So you might have to click through the different styles to find the one that fits your bed size and your weight correctly.

Now there are many other brands on Amazon and on the larger Internet, of course. And it does feel like the easiest way to buy one of these is on the Internet.

I can't speak to other brands yet, but the things I was looking for were glass beads instead of plastic filling (apparently this is cooler) and material that felt comfortable.

I'd never even heard of weighted blankets, but having looked them up and what they are supposed to do, I have to wonder if that's why I've always liked having a lot of sheets, blankets, comforter, etc. even in the summer, and have had a more difficult time sleeping with say, just a lightweight sheet.

bekkilyn wrote:

I'd never even heard of weighted blankets, but having looked them up and what they are supposed to do, I have to wonder if that's why I've always liked having a lot of sheets, blankets, comforter, etc. even in the summer, and have had a more difficult time sleeping with say, just a lightweight sheet.

Could be. My wife and I almost always used a giant comforter with the AC on. I think that was the case for us.

My wife has pretty bad anxiety (which has largely been controlled by medication but there's still some bad days). I got her a weighted blanket for Christmas. While I don't think it's a cure-all, she really enjoys sleeping under it. She also voiced concern last night for the summer when it gets hot as she uses no other blankets other than that. Looks like the fan will be on high for most of the warmer months If you get a blanket, make sure you read the reviews. The one I got her has sewn pockets in it so all of the beads pretty much stay where they are supposed to be and not end up on the edges of the blanket (some of the cheaper ones aren't made quite as well).

Very poorly! And only one person in my life is considerate towards my anxiety. Woo! Heh

BoogtehWoog wrote:

Very poorly! And only one person in my life is considerate towards my anxiety. Woo! Heh

Copycat! I said poorly on the last page!

(Hugs)

My husband is sympathetic and supportive, but it's been a crazy rough few days.
I'm reading a book of essays by Samantha Irby (We are Never Meeting in Real Life) and she wrote, "Not being able to deal with your life is humiliating. It makes you feel weak." which really resonated with me since I've been rather out of it since Friday.

The anxiety and depression get tumbled together in a self-supporting spiral. It doesn't help that I'm starting to see signs of perimenopause with hot flashes, strange dreams, and EXCITING mood swings.
I have a dr appt tomorrow. Will see what she suggests. Was able to eat today, so that's good, and just off the treadmill for half hour walk, so that's good.

Back to minute by minute for me....but there will be an end to this bout in a bit....just have to get through it.
Started a King's Bounty game and so that's taking some time and providing some distraction.

I think perimenopause was also responsible for a lot of my anxiety a couple years ago. I also experienced a very severe energy drop and could barely do anything even though I wanted to. Going through major life transition (which can be anxiety-inducing in and of itself) AND hormonal stuff is definitely not the greatest experience.