Parenting Catch-all

Great news, Stele! Congratulations!

Congratulations!

Congrats!

Stele wrote:

Baby showed up at 251am. She's 5 pounds and in NICU for a bit. Meeting soon to find out more. All told 7 hours from water break to baby. Crazy fast.

Thanks for all the thoughts and prayers. You guys are my online family.

Congratulations, Stele!! Hope your stint in the NICU is short lived, and you get transferred out son! Thinking of you.

Re: kid car-seat freak-out

Our son (on the spectrum) would lose his sh*t if you tried to restrain him in ANY way. High-chair, car-seat, diaper change, crib, picking him up (after he could walk on his own) - anything... we had to change him, on the floor. I had to sit in a weird position, so I could put the arches of my feet on his shoulders, so he couldn’t twist out, and run off, like a smelly rabbit. The day he, partially, climbed out of his crib - he got his foot caught, and dangled... screaming - because he was stuck, we thought he was hurt, but sped off like a shot as soon as we freed him.

He's 15 now, and still won’t sit still... he paces at home, he paces at school. The only thing he sits still for is video games...

She’ll sit in a high chair just fine. We actually have one that attaches to the edge of a table, so we can take it with us easily. It’s fabulous. And she’s fine with diaper changes. It’s just that seat.

Congrats, Stele! Hoping for a short but super beneficial NICU stay.

Stele wrote:

Baby showed up at 251am. She's 5 pounds and in NICU for a bit. Meeting soon to find out more. All told 7 hours from water break to baby. Crazy fast.

Thanks for all the thoughts and prayers. You guys are my online family.

Congratulations to you and your wife Stele!

I know first hand that NICU isn't where you want to be spending these first days, but hopefully the stay will be short and sweet. Either way she's in the best place for her. All three of you are in my thoughts.

Baby Stele update.

NICU day 4. Weight dropped a bit early but went back up slightly last night. Never needed respirator. Got off heat lamp after first 20 hours and held body temp since. Started bottle Thurs and docs keep upping intake from 6 to 12 to 18 today. Baby is not taking full amount most meals so has nose feeding tube.

Bilirubin levels keep rising and she's jaundiced so she's under a blue light right now. Hopefully they stabilize tomorrow and the light goes away.

Gaining more weight and eating all her meals will be the priority. Overall she's doing well and is one of the healthier preemies here. Hopefully we won't be here into December.

Wife discharged yesterday. Going home without baby was super difficult. But she's doing very well overall.

Technical stuff aside, daughter is amazing! Holding her is this unbelievable feeling that no one can prepare you for. Have never loved anyone or anything so much.

And to put a positive spin on NICU I've been able to help out and give her bottles, which we hadn't planned on until 4+ weeks with breastfeeding. So it's cool to be involved in her nourishment.

Thanks everyone.

That all sounds super positive Stele. Glad to hear it.

2 and 4am feedings weren't exactly pleasant. But I also loved being able to bottle feed the little one while mom slept and recovered.

Mixolyde wrote:

2 and 4am feedings weren't exactly pleasant. But I also loved being able to bottle feed the little one while mom slept and recovered.

Not having this option due to breastfeeding puts a dent into what I can do to provide care. I mean, woe is me, tiny fiddle, etc., but my partner hasn’t had a full night’s sleep in months that I’m aware of.

Happy to hear Baby Stele’s doing well. I can commiserate on the feeling of going home without baby. You’ll be there for her.

And yes to that amazing feeling! There’s no way anyone can prepare you that I know of. It’s a package deal, too. To wit:

Yesterday I was on cloud nine with how sublime and wonderful and perfect and joyful it is to be with our baby. I was rocking her to sleep on my shoulder. The beauty of her spirit washed over and through me. She was asleep, breathing just audibly, almost purring.

The moment I lay her down she screeched like a harpy. I had lain her down at 1.73 degrees off optimal yaw. She cried for 15 minutes on and off, face red and puffy, tears and snot running.

Then she was fine and smiling.

What I did during the newborn period was take the kid whenever she wasn't breastfeeding. This still won't let my wife sleep the night, but at least she's only up for however long it takes to breastfeed. Once the feeding is done, I'm up.

Progress! Blue light came off Sunday as predicted. Bilirubin levels were down. Jumped a half point without the light but stabilized since then.

Better news, the IV came off early Monday. Doctors are ok with leaving it off.

Breast milk has been increased by 6 ML per meal every day. She's up to 30 every 3 hours now. My wife is pumping like a champ and staying ahead. They decided this morning to let her eat as much as she wants over a minimum amount. She sneezed out the feeding tube and got to keep it out for 3 meals in a row but then didn't finish one and had it back in. But she's finished the last 4 in a row since. Hopefully if it comes out again it stays out.

Also wife has been mixing in trying to breast feed at least once a day and this morning had some good success. Baby is smart and learning.

Best news of all: They moved her out of NICU and into pediatrics! Wife and I are spending the night with her tonight! It's the rooming in we hoped to get at birth just delayed by a week. Still very monitored over here but that's good. Looking forward to doctors rounds in the morning. She may not be here much longer!

Awesome news!!

That's amazing news Stele! Congratulations again to you and your wife. Baby Stele obviously has better things to do than hang out in NICU.

LarryC wrote:

What I did during the newborn period was take the kid whenever she wasn't breastfeeding. This still won't let my wife sleep the night, but at least she's only up for however long it takes to breastfeed. Once the feeding is done, I'm up.

Same, I was on fetch-and-return duty as well, but I always ended up staying half awake during night feeding since we did it in bed.

So happy to hear, Stele! It’s not an easy time, to be sure. Our second was in the NICU for a few days. Happy you can all be together more now. Still hoping the best.

Glad to hear things have been improving day by day.
While totally understandable, sorry it's so tough on your wife to go home without the baby so far. Things were a little rough for my wife after my son was born and she was really conflicted about other people / societal expectations on how she was supposed to handle those days around the birth. She'll remind people these days she wanted to be a parent not pregnant and the parenting part will take a lot longer. Give your wife some extra support (and make sure you look after yourself too).

Good luck to the family!

Its a great news! Tinies are some tough fighters

Our daughter did born on week 26 weighting only 1.47 pounds, and was 12.6 inches. So NICU came like 2nd home to me.
Now she’s 1year and 4 months old lovely little girl. Worries of the hard start have now been forgotten.

My 2.5 year old has entered the phase where she never wants to go to her room to sleep. I was off work last week and maybe that disrupted her routine but it has been a fit every day when it is time to go upstairs for a nap or for bed at the end of the day. It probably doesn't help that she was also a little cranky from a preschool cold too. I am hoping she gets over this phase soon as I just feel bad when I have to pick her up and carry her upstairs while she is crying and screaming. Once we get up there she settles down and is fine but the dread just sucks.

Stele, I am glad to hear things are progressing well and you guys are almost into a normal routine.

Stele wrote:

Best news of all: They moved her out of NICU and into pediatrics! Wife and I are spending the night with her tonight! It's the rooming in we hoped to get at birth just delayed by a week. Still very monitored over here but that's good. Looking forward to doctors rounds in the morning. She may not be here much longer!

That's fantastic news, Stele. Glad to hear that mighty baby continues to be mighty. We're all pulling for you.

TLDR; YouTube channel recommendations for boys 9 and under.

Hey all. I'm sure there is a thread on this somewhere, but I'm on my phone and can't find the option to search the forums at the moment.

My boys have gotten into Minecraft this year and are also dabbling in YouTube. Being new to YT with kids, I don't want to let them loose and free to watch anything, but don't want to ban it as I know there is good/appropriate/friendly/fun content.

So I'm looking for help in what channels are safe. Must be kid friendly for 9 yr old and younger, no swears. They mostly watch things like Monster School, but would probably like streamers as well. I just don't know who are the "safe" content creators that I can trust.

What channels do you recommend?

My son stil devours content by “PopularMMOs” - they’re clean.

pottsyg wrote:

TLDR; YouTube channel recommendations for boys 9 and under.

Hey all. I'm sure there is a thread on this somewhere, but I'm on my phone and can't find the option to search the forums at the moment.

My boys have gotten into Minecraft this year and are also dabbling in YouTube. Being new to YT with kids, I don't want to let them loose and free to watch anything, but don't want to ban it as I know there is good/appropriate/friendly/fun content.

So I'm looking for help in what channels are safe. Must be kid friendly for 9 yr old and younger, no swears. They mostly watch things like Monster School, but would probably like streamers as well. I just don't know who are the "safe" content creators that I can trust.

What channels do you recommend?

Can my answer be none?
Youtube is an abomination that is only slightly better than the hazardous waste pile that is YouTubeKids.

Etho of Etho’s Lab is a YouTuber who has a long history of really clever Minecraft building. He’s also been clean for all the years (on and off) I’ve watched him, but I can’t guarantee he won’t occasionally say something off-color.

I also like Mumbo Jumbo. He’s done some fascinating redstone stuff and is also, I think, clean.

I would suggest checking out the GWJ Minecraft Multiplayer thread and server. They’ll have great resources and are great to play with. There are or have been families (like mine) who play there together. Just takes getting whitelisted, the details of which are in the first post. Excellent really.

My kids love PopularMMOs, PrestonPlayz, ThinkNoodles, and DanTDM for gaming related content that's clean to watch. A lot of them are doing roblox lately. The only thing you may need to watch out for is there are some games being played that may not be appropriate due to scarier content/jump scares. Roblox and minecraft are usually no issues but I have seen a number playing the Granny game (try to escape the house while creepy Granny tries to catch you).

I like GamingWithKev .

My son (11) is really delving into YouTube now, which makes me nervous. I finally made a rule that he can only watch on one of the big screens in the house: my PC or the television. No more iPad Youtube, no headphones.

I can't monitor him all the time, but when I check in it seems like he's largely stuck with harmless funny videos or streamers who aren't too bad. He's got a decent sense of what's appropriate and what's not, but curiosity is always going to tempt him to delve into places I'd probably rather he not go. I remember that age and wanting to explore the the things I was told not to. (Sneaking peeks at the forbidden D&D books at the bookstore!)

And the hard part is that I'm less worried about swearing and video game violence and more worried about subtle things, like displaying cruel or callous attitudes toward others or disrespect for things that should be respected--the softer stuff he's still learning. That's even harder to monitor without watching lots of it with him and talking it over.

YouTube kids is kind of a horror show. It's not well policed. We just used my wife's account, since she doesn't watch much youtube, and then subscribed to the YouTubers that we approve of. We still monitor what they're watching but it's less of an issue this way.