It's no really fuss at all boog, our ears and hearts are here to vent to and contemplate aloud to and whatever else as you need them. We'll take what you deem the worst of you because it means we get the rest of you too, whether you can see it or not the latter far outweighs the former.
Couldn't have put it better myself Krev.
((((hugs)))) Boog!
Just a thought but have you tried anything artsy-related before Boog? Maybe look at some evening classes or something?...possibly work towards putting some stuff up online for sale on sites like Etsy or Redbubble or similar? Or maybe writing, in some capacity?
Granted this is probably not the best idea for generating cash in the short term, but if nothing else, art therapy is often a good way of working through stuff. Relatively cheap, too!
Have you looked into state or federal medical assistance? I'm not sure what Medicaid covers for gender dysphoria, but it may be worth looking into for options. As this is causing you such pervasive side effects, you may be able to qualify for some type of disability assistance.
Note: I am not saying that calling gender dysphoria a disability is correct. I'm saying that if you can't manage the situation on you own, look into gaming the existing system to your benefit. Do some research, see if there are locations that would be more advantageous for your situation.
My now brother-in-law was diagnosed with Cancer while visiting my sister in Iowa (she was in grad school). Rather than go back home, he stayed in Iowa and the state paid in full for his medical treatments from start to finish (docs, chemo, and a half-orchiectomy).
If you haven't already looked at it, maybe browse around some local day care and / or babysitting options? If you are comfortable around babies there are a LOT of people out there looking for help.
Boog, I'm sorry that things are rough.
I'm not sure if this is a great suggestion, but one that may address both the dysphoria and the money. If you're still close to colleges where you're living now, working as a model for art/figure drawing classes could be an option. I hear it's decent money for the amount of time you are there, plus have heard several stories of how models' perceptions of their bodies changed for the better after the experience of seeing themselves as art. Might be a personal challenge you're not up to at the moment, but could be something to consider.
Hehe. I got a "here's your meal darlin' " from a waiter at a restaurant earlier. I should probably be annoyed at the use of that particular phrase but..I'll let it pass ...for now
...and that's the name change totes official now...just got the copy of the revised birth certificate through this morning. Yus!
Congrats!
I'm not planning on updating my BC unless the legal situation here starts moving in the direction that I'll need to for my own safety. :X I know it will create a lot of strain in my relationship with my mom (who, for some reason, feels incredibly invested in that. *shrug*)
Congrats, pyxistyx!
Gosh!
I'm not crying, YOU'R crying!
*oh, hey I just noticed I have a parachute. Noice.
Oh, yeah, btw. Added a teeny bit of colour to my hair. Gettin' more daring Also new-ish glasses.
...next thing to figure out is eyebrows (blarg!)
I am a huge advocate for "figuring out eyebrows." They really do frame a face and can make a huge difference in how you look.
I am a huge advocate for "figuring out eyebrows." They really do frame a face and can make a huge difference in how you look.
As luck would have it, one of the students that was doing contemporary art last year has switched to hair and beauty and is offering cheap treatments as part of her coursework which includes doing eyebrows, so I've put myself down as one of her test subjects
The CBBC show Just a Girl has been highlighted as inappropriate for children by select parents.
It's good, I think, to see such a mainline channel attempt to get children talking about this subject. If it's handled correctly, and parents are open to explaining, it could see children understand and accept gender issues better. It could lead to transgender children having a much easier time when making their transition.
I have not saw the show. So I apologise if it's actually awfully mishandled. Maybe it was also already news. I'm always behind.
This is more of a thing for the D&D Trans thread really, buuuut...
...yeah, not surprised it's Dacre and the Daily Mail drumming up controversy again. They're real big fans of "OH WONT SOMEONE PLEASE THINK OF THE CHILDREN" journalism. Also, they're big on the whole Transphobia thing. I still hold them accountable for the suicide of a trans teacher a couple of years back when an article written by one of their vile columnists caused a bunch of "concerned parents" to pile on the pressure to get her fired from her job because of how "confusing" she would be to children.
I've not seen the show but it sounds cool. Good on the BBC for sticking to their guns on it.
Also...
The CBBC show Just a Girl has been highlighted as inappropriate for children by select parents.
That makes it sound a lot more official than it is. What really seems to have happened is a couple of ignorant parents have made a few uneducated, reactionary posts to mumsnet about it (with plenty of people saying it's a positive thing in return). Hardly something Ofcom needs to worry about, but then that's the way the Mail works...turn a vague, obscure forum discussion into a "national crisis OMG!"...sell more papers to idiots. Job done.
Also... "11-year-old who takes sex-change drugs", MSN? Really? Could you have maybe made that sound a bit creepier and more sensational, it is Halloween after all. *rolls eyes*
Oops. Apologies for the misplacement. I should tag or favourite the D&D thread.
That's soul crushing to hear about a woman taking her own life because of "concerned parents" when the children would have been fine, would have learned, and would have grown as individuals, whilst helping their teacher fulfill her purpose to impart knowledge. With or without the topic of gender identity coming up.
I put Just a Girl CBBC into Google and it returns a few hits. As always one MP or another weighs in like a moron. I'll leave it out seeing as we're not in the corresponding thread.
This was to be a brief response out of courtesy. I ramble too much. I've been moving house and had this reply pieced together amidst shifting furniture. I added a little each time until finally I realised editing was in order.
no problem It's just helpful to keep this thread more about the personal experiences rather than a news thread, especially when some of that news can be pretty grim at times.
Pyx, you have killer brows and I'm excited for you that you took the leap to get them fine tuned by a beautician. I'm currently looking for one in my area. Get them professionally done once, take some pics, and tidy up using the pics for reference. I'm a recent convert of the Anastasia line of brow products and can't stop sharing this brow pencil to anyone who says the words "eyebrows."
OMG. My surgery date is now November 30th.
Yes. Twenty-two days from now. O_O
Excited. Scared. Jittery. OMG OMG OMG.
Congrats, Hypatian! Don't forget your mandatory vajazzling a month later.
Omg congrats :O
Hyp, that is, hands down, the best news I've seen all day.
Congratulations. I'm so happy for you.
oh my gosh! Yay, Hyp!
Yes, I got bumped up from May.
And now of course after tonight I am doubting my choices because even though insurance will be covering the surgery, plane tickets and lodgings will not be cheap, and what if Hannah and I need these resources to help get by.
Things change fast. :X
Hyp, if you need money, do something crowd sourced. We got you. Don't be afraid to ask for help.
Hyp, if you need money, do something crowd sourced. We got you. Don't be afraid to ask for help.
This.
Other people need that sort of help more than I do. You can be sure that if things get desperate, I'll reach out. But for now... I can afford this. I just hate that this election has made me have to reconsider so many things.
Like whether Hannah and I should get married legally while we can, even though we'd rather wait until we can be secure in our vows.
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