Black Desert

Generally, me too. But wow, they've managed to pack a lot into this game. It's the Black Desert experience. I'm thoroughly impressed.

I know this sounds lame and you will probably roll your eyes, but is there an auto-play function? Like, I want to kind of watch a movie while I'm at work. So I want to hit a button, run somewhere for a quest, fight, and then carry on.

I love dad-builds and having to hit the minimal amount of keys to progress in something

Yes

You must like Lineage then.

Do some trading or crafting? You can set you character to run to the other side of the world and trade goods when you get there.

I loaded it and not sure it's for me. There's an enormous amount of things I don't understand. I killed the first boss (red nose I think) and realized I don't know that I have the time to put into it. The graphics were pretty good though!

It's got a ton of moving pieces from having been born from a full fledged MMO and the fact its been out in Asia for a while now. (Something the recent EVE mobile game release also struggles with.)

I find it's best not to stress about the things you don't know or don't know if you're doing right. It's a sandbox-like MMO where you can do what you want. Go around killing stuff sometimes, you'll earn sh*t and maybe one day you'll find a way to use it. Or wander around gathering materials and one day you'll take time to figure out crafting. And so on. I'm not stressing over anything, just doing whatever pleases me at the moment. The main reason is it's a F2P Korean mobile MMO, so I'm trying to avoid caring too much about what I'm doing since that's when the pocketbook comes out and f- that.

You may find Lineage 2 more palatable. It's a bit more of a standard MMO while BD has some strange wrinkles. Both games have autoquesting, autocombat, autogathering, etc.