Sparhawk: just let him know you're around and willing to help in whatever way you can. Chances are he doesn't have much more of an idea about what that might entail than you do at this point, but if he's the pragmatic sort of fellow you describe, he'll take that for what it's worth at face value, which is actually quite valuable when you get down to it. It's just cancer, not ritualistic courtship. ;)
Yupz, pretty much what I will do.
Ian, have you tried asking the Oncologist about a prognosis? Sometimes doctors just keep doing their thing and it doesn't occur to them that you might want some kind of progress report that's not about white blood cell counts and the like.
Sparhawk: just let him know you're around and willing to help in whatever way you can. Chances are he doesn't have much more of an idea about what that might entail than you do at this point, but if he's the pragmatic sort of fellow you describe, he'll take that for what it's worth at face value, which is actually quite valuable when you get down to it. It's just cancer, not ritualistic courtship. ;)
As much as I keep offering to help, I do have an ulterior motive; I've yet to actually meet you, and you seem like a pretty cool kid.
Yeah if your really want to know then prod your oncologist for it, repeatedly if necessary. I know I had to keep after mine for months before they would finally give me their estimate based on the specifics of my case, I suspect some of them presume no one wants to hear such things and so avoid it unless the prognosis holds some sense of urgency.
In the meantime I suspect you'll find people start to lose that "so.. still dying?" vibe as you get further along in and beyond your treatment, some wont because that's just how they are but in general (purely anecdotal) the more you're able to return to normal life the more people around you do likewise, for better or worse it seems to be something they'll follow your lead on.
Are you back on your bike yet, Ian? Plans for spring riding?
Perhaps you might check in on resources available to folks who deal with things like dialysis because one way to look at it is that the cancer didn't get you at the beginning and maybe for a while this is your new normal. I hope it's understandable in the way that I'm hoping you'll get a signal of full remission soon but in the interim you are one step towards being back to where you were before all this started. Namely that anything can happen to us as we live our lives (today's news sadly underscoring that point) and unless you have a cool time machine or something, the future is falling back into that space of things you can't control.
I would totally understand if that isn't what you are looking for but you are clearly already doing everything you can. Going forward, each day is an important step. When my dad reached his five year mark we celebrated not just because that meant something statistically but because personally we'd all gotten five more years from that first scary day. Closing in on thirty years later we still count them but we count a lot of other things first.
We'll have your back if there's more we can do.
Glad to hear it. Hope you are enjoying the summer and are back on your bike a bit.
Sounds great!
That's great, Ian, take care of yourself and keep getting better!
Missed this update when it came out, but I've been thinking about you and am really glad to hear things are under control. Like Robear says, keep getting better!
Just remember dude, SPANIKOPITA!
SPANIKOPITA!
Work has been bonkers of late, and the latest round of chemo has been harder on me than the previous ones. The past couple days have involved coming home from work and collapsing into bed.
Undergoing chemo while still being able to work and the major effect is you're tired? I'd say that's a win! You're back in the world, man, enjoy it even when it hurts, because it's been worse.
SPANIKOPITA! Time for goat races!
I don't really know where this spanakopita talk is coming from, but as a resident of Greektown, I heartily approve.
I don't really know where this spanakopita talk is coming from, but as a resident of Greektown, I heartily approve.
Just don't look when Quintin goes sponge diving.
wordsmythe wrote:I don't really know where this spanakopita talk is coming from, but as a resident of Greektown, I heartily approve.
Just don't look when Quintin goes sponge diving.
My new goal in life is to invent a new depraved sexual act that I can term "sponge diving" in Stone's honor.
wordsmythe wrote:I don't really know where this spanakopita talk is coming from, but as a resident of Greektown, I heartily approve.
Just don't look when Quintin goes sponge diving.
What? It's how the ancient Greeks did it.
Love is having my "...vs. cancer" thread derailed by Venture Bros. references. You guys are the best. :D
We are all momma's boys.
wordsmythe wrote:I don't really know where this spanakopita talk is coming from, but as a resident of Greektown, I heartily approve.
Just don't look when Quintin goes sponge diving.
My wife works at an adult shop and they sell sanitary sponges (primarily to sex workers) so that they can still undertake their chosen line of employment during that... period... when they might otherwise be indisposed.
I'll just leave that image of Quintin sponge diving there for you
Stop making my sweet, innocent venture brothers references dirty!
You should listen to me. Harryhausen is a friend.
Love is having my "...vs. cancer" thread derailed by Venture Bros. references. You guys are the best. :D
So does that mean that the summation of what everyone's been saying is that cancer has no authority in Fort Kickass?
So sorry to hear that, man. Much love.
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