Feminism Catch-All (with FAQ)

Yeah, the Catholic Church is getting more and more seriously conservative. :l I'm always interested in how the Catholic people I know are feeling about things. Mostly it sums up as "For f*ck's sake."

When will people realize NO ONE wants to hear "X is a gift"?

It doesn't help how badly they misunderstand things. Surprise: Trans* people don't choose our gender! But good-meaning asshats try to choose it for us by stuffing us in little boxes where they imagine we belong, because they haven't got a f*cking clue. And ill-meaning asshats, well, yeah. You can imagine.

SixteenBlue wrote:

When will people realize NO ONE wants to hear "X is a gift"?

What if I got you a gift?

Edwin wrote:
SixteenBlue wrote:

When will people realize NO ONE wants to hear "X is a gift"?

What if I got you a gift?

I'll just take back this Ferrari California. I mean, the original paint is in perfect condition, and it is blue, so fairly rare.

If it weren't for Pope John Paul I suspect the Catholic Church would have faded into obscurity decades ago. It's sad to see things backsliding with the new Pope(s).

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Maybe something happy?

An arrest has been made against the person who made rape threats to a feminist asking for the new bank note of the UK to feature a woman.

http://news.sky.com/story/1121399/ar...

Edwin wrote:

An arrest has been made against the person who made rape threats to a feminist asking for the new bank note of the UK to feature a woman.

http://news.sky.com/story/1121399/ar...

Following Ms Criado-Perez on Twitter today has been one of the most profoundly depressing experiences.

Re: Caroline Criado-Perez

Having just reported one abuser to his employer I see this from the economics editor of Newsnight:

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And his reply, in which you can almost hear him staring at his shoes.

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"Yoohoo! I'll make ya famous!"

I think we could use a misogyny version of Yes, you're racist.

It's always kind of funny to see the "this isn't the place for it" argument waved around when it comes to feminism and gender issues. There always seems to be someone who tries to play the concern troll or "enlightened mediator" who points out that all this srs bsns talk is ruining everyone's good time. So there was a panel at SDCC about "Women Who Kick Ass", and somehow even that is apparently not the "right venue" for discussing women in Hollywood/Gaming. Somehow.

http://geeksout.org/blogs/amberhardf...

According to more than one reporter, the Hall H brohive was not receptive to such a frank discussion of how it can suck to be a woman in Hollywood. Todd VanDerWerff chronicled the devolution of some members of the crowd into knuckle-dragging troglodytes that ruined the chances of those hoping to get pictures after the talk with their favorite actors:

The final question — from a young woman about what aspects the perfect kick-ass woman would have — turns into a digression about the many roles that women play in real life and the few that they are asked to play onscreen. It’s all fascinating stuff, with Sackhoff talking about wanting to see someone as kind and strong as her mother onscreen, and Walking Dead’s Danai Gurira talking about the effectiveness of female political protestors in her native Zimbabwe, the sort of story that would almost never appear in a Hollywood film — but the longer it goes on, the more restless the crowd gets. When Rodriguez grabs the microphone again to follow up on a point made by another panelist, for the first time, the audience ripples with something close to jeering anger. When the panel finally ends and the five women on it proceed off to the side for photographs, something done at the end of most Hall H panels, someone shouts something from the audience, to a mixture of supportive laughs and horrified gasps, and the women quickly leave the stage. (I was not sitting close enough to hear what was said, but I confirmed with several people sitting in the immediate vicinity that it was a young man shouting “Women who talk too much!” after the loudspeaker asked attendees to voice their appreciation for the participants in the “Women Who Kick Ass” panel.)

edit: Also, hilariously enough - I've already seen some comments in my Facebox feed about people blaming the panelists for this one to the tune of: "They made themselves victims by leaving. They're fake kick-ass women, obv."

Just amazing.

In the "double standards" and "slut shaming" departments:

We Pardon Spitzer, But Still Judge Former Sex Workers (Like Me) (New York Magazine)

Five years ago, Eliot Spitzer got caught paying women like me. And now he is stumping, smiling for photographers, and topping the political polls for New York’s next comptroller.

Meanwhile, here I am, working on building a living as a former sex worker, with no full-time job since I lost mine as a schoolteacher three years ago. Today, I spend a lot of my time writing about being a former sex worker (which I have done many times by now). I also teach new writers, including those at risk of sexual exploitation, on how they can tell their own stories. I would be fine with Spitzer’s return to politics if sex workers were allowed the same dignity of returning to normalcy. But apologizing and getting my career back wasn't exactly an option our society supports.

Hypatian wrote:

In the "double standards" and "slut shaming" departments:

We Pardon Spitzer, But Still Judge Former Sex Workers (Like Me) (New York Magazine)

Five years ago, Eliot Spitzer got caught paying women like me. And now he is stumping, smiling for photographers, and topping the political polls for New York’s next comptroller.

Meanwhile, here I am, working on building a living as a former sex worker, with no full-time job since I lost mine as a schoolteacher three years ago. Today, I spend a lot of my time writing about being a former sex worker (which I have done many times by now). I also teach new writers, including those at risk of sexual exploitation, on how they can tell their own stories. I would be fine with Spitzer’s return to politics if sex workers were allowed the same dignity of returning to normalcy. But apologizing and getting my career back wasn't exactly an option our society supports.

You know what's interesting to me and vaguely related to this - Channing Tatum's former job as a stripper was in the news a whole bunch while Magic Mike was a thing. It was discussed as a fun little factoid or cute joke, and not much else. I wonder if we would have made so little of it if it turned out that Rinko Kikuchi or Amy Adams had been strippers.

Unfortunately, Hall H is the biggest hall at the convention center. Because of that, most if the popular panels are in that hall. The result? People camp inside Hall H hours before the panel they want to see actually takes place.

I imagine the vast majority of people at that panel were not there to see Women Who Kick Ass. They were holding spots for themselves for whatever panel they wanted to see and got their "dudebro feefees hurt by the feminazis". What jerks.

I wanted to see that panel too but Hall H is always full be because of camping.

Bloo Driver wrote:

You know what's interesting to me and vaguely related to this - Channing Tatum's former job as a stripper was in the news a whole bunch while Magic Mike was a thing. It was discussed as a fun little factoid or cute joke, and not much else. I wonder if we would have made so little of it if it turned out that Rinko Kikuchi or Amy Adams had been strippers.

While I certainly would watch both of those ladies on the stage, I'm quite certain that had she been a stripper Amy Adams would not have been in the Muppet movie.

I just read this about the same panel.

As the moderator started wrapping things up, apologizing for having to leave "right as things were getting good," Michelle leaned forward to her mic again.

"We gotta start writing," she said again. She meant women. "Writing, and directing, and producing the kind of content we want to see. Because otherwise, nothing's gonna change."

A few minutes after they left, I was still vibrating with excitement. A dude was back onstage, and I dragged my focus back to him. "I wanted to make another Planet of the Apes," he was saying, "Because I felt it was vital to tell the story from the ape's perspective."

grmbl. I'm so sick of having to scrounge for movies that don't seem like they just flat out hate women.

Feminism on Twitter: you're doing it right! (Stolen from "Post a Picture, Entertain Me!")

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I hope this FML is true.

Today, I was babysitting a kid for the first time. She asked if she could watch a movie, so I downloaded Cinderella for her. An hour later, this 10-year-old girl was lecturing me about unrealistic standards of beauty and abusive relationships, and how I suck for liking the movie. FML

That's cool. I've always found Cinderella disquieting for a variety of reasons.

Many of the old fairy tales are horrifically misogynistic.

Jayhawker wrote:

I think we could use a misogyny version of Yes, you're racist.

There was Yep, You're Sexist, but it hasn't updated for a few months now.

Thanks, Mermaidpirate! Geez, I want that twitter to be active.

(also...is the 11 in "pants11"...the pants?!) :O

Back in the day, playing UT2004, I named my character Squarebob Spongepants, after seeing that being gibbed by the rocket launcher or whatever, you were reduced to a spongy looking pair of pants. In my high school MSN Messenger days, this turned into my nick being Pants with some hideous pictogram after it like this /_||_|. Vanilla Pants was already taken on Origin, so Pants11 was born. I like it because it has both a positive and a negative meaning - you really pantsed that up, v.s. who's wearing the pants in this relationship?

Also, somewhat on topic, in my head, it's gender neutral. It seems like people generally (incorrectly) assume that I'm a male when I use it, though. I started using Mermaidpirate on twitch.tv, and I thought this might expose me to all the 'omg a girl' crap, but it seems like a lot of people still assume I'm a dude. I guess that's the strength of people's default image of a gaming/internet person as male.

I strongly suggest following @CCriadoPerez on twitter. She's been organising a fightback against abusive trolling of women, reporting threats of rape and other violence to the police (which has led to one arrest), hitting all the news shows and meeting directly with Twitter to discuss ways in which they can address the problem in a more timely fashion instead of plugging their ears and singing "la la not listening".

All this under the hashtag #shoutthef*ckback

Just when you thought Anthony Weiner's campaign couldn't get any worse... a campaign aide slut-shames a former intern.

sometimesdee wrote:

Just when you thought Anthony Weiner's campaign couldn't get any worse...

The one and only thing Anthony Weiner's campaign has done well is to fight that delusion.

BTW, I saw footage of his "oops, I did it again" press conference for the first time tonight. If I were his wife, I'd have punched him in his photo opportunity after about ten minutes and walked off. Besides the obvious offense his actions show to her, the ritual of having your wife stand mutely by as you say you're really, truly sorry for making a mockery of your marriage (again) is sick and degrading. No one deserving of respect, having already erred so badly, would ask that of their spouse. One wonders how many men would be willing and/or called upon to be "the supportive husband" in the same way.

But the Weiner campaign did give us Carlos Danger, and this Sexting Name Generator: http://www.slate.com/articles/news_and_politics/low_concept/2013/07/carlos_danger_name_generator_use_our_widget_to_get_a_name_like_anthony_weiner.html

Mine is "Manolo Catastrophe."

So apparently the Communications Director apologized:

"In a moment of frustration, I used inappropriate language in what I thought was an off the record conversation," Morgan said. "It was wrong and I am very sorry, which is what I said tonight when I called and emailed Olivia to apologize."

I'm genuinely amazed. First of all... This person is a Communications Director? I'm not going to quote the language she used, it's in the article Dee linked, and it's downright appalling. I don't care what her issue is with the other party, if she's in the wrong or right, at this point, it's irrelevant. There are just some means that will never be justified by the end.

Amanda Palmer had a wardrobe malfunction at a recent concert. The Daily Mail decided to focus on that, and not even mention her performance.

She wrote a song in response, calling them to task for focusing on her boobs instead of her music. NSFW for language and nudity.

Best line ever:

Amanda Palmer wrote:

When Iggy, or Jagger, or Bowie, go shirtless
The news barely causes a ripple,
Blah blah blah feminist, blah blah blah gender sh*t,
Blah blah blah OH MY GOD NIPPLE