Middle age - parenting your own parents?
My parents did right by us, my brother and I. They gave us everything they were able to and more. They saw to it that we were better educated and had more opportunities than they ever had themselves.
Now I'm in my late thirties, with two kids of my own, and I live nearly four hours drive away from my parents.
I'm starting to find that they're not living their lives by the knowledge a guidelines they instilled in us, their children.
I'm honestly in a situation where I feel like I need to go back home, sit them down, and tell them that they need to change what they're doing, and how they're living.
Anyone have any experience sending advice, instructions, requests upstream?
It feels unnatural to to be the child giving advice to the parents, and I expect it to be received as an insult.
They do not take advice well. They're Cold War era people to whom there is no worse crime than telling a man how to live his life. My father in particular has has bad experiences with younger, "highly educated" managers in a large company.
Thanks if you can share your experiences and help me come up with a strategy for this.
At the least their health and well being is on the line. At the worst, lives.