A personal announcement, emphatic thank-you, and cheers to Fedora.

For a long time I've known I was gay. I've never been open about it (or ashamed of it), I don't define myself by my sexuality but I'm starting to realize coming out doesn't have anything to do with the sexual side of it. It's about being able to let other people know about who you are and doing an extremely difficult (and somewhat awkward) thing so that you don't have to feel like you are hiding something anymore. About not having to get really uncomfortable not having a response to a family member making a joke that would require me to like women to make sense. Not having to worry about what is the right time, or missing opportunities to meet somebody because I'm worried about how awkward it will be to explain to my friends and family.

As somebody who really doesn't have many people I can feel like I can talk seriously to, a thread like this that pretty much answers and solves problems very similar to my own because a guy on the internet gathered enough courage to do something I was too nervous to do myself.

At the same time as I write this I'm making a Facebook post to fully come out to my close real life friends and family (kind of a stupid way to do it, but that's where most of them will see it the easiest!).

You have no idea how much your post means to me and how powerful it really is and how much it puts things into perspective (if a guy can come out to the entire internet, why can't I do it for the people who I already know will accept me?).

I don't mean to hijack your thread or be the one up guy and I was planning on putting this all in a PM but I think at this point the GWJ community consists of some of my closest friends.

That's all.

(5 minutes later: HITTING POST IS HARD)

Mike, this was a big step, and you are to be congratulated for it.

Let me say that over time you will find such liberation in coming out. You won't have to worry about saying the wrong thing. And, hopefully, over time, you won't care that people know nor will you care if people think differently of you.

Rubb Ed and I are here for you should you need to talk.

Ah, so you were distracted at the con, that's why I pwnd you in Mortal Kombat.

Awfully dusty in here. Albeit fabulous dust!

Rock on. To both Mike and Fedora. And to this community. You guys and gals are awesome.

To quote one of my favorite films...

"S'alright, Captain. We always knew you were a whoopsie."

Not that we did, but it makes as little difference other than how happy it makes me feel that you're free to be yourself, and how proud I am to have this place as an internet home.

Fedora: What I said to Mike? Same goes for you. Good for you, man.

FedoraMcQuaid wrote:

For a long time I've known I was gay. I've never been open about it (or ashamed of it), I don't define myself by my sexuality but I'm starting to realize coming out doesn't have anything to do with the sexual side of it. It's about being able to let other people know about who you are and doing an extremely difficult (and somewhat awkward) thing so that you don't have to feel like you are hiding something anymore. About not having to get really uncomfortable not having a response to a family member making a joke that would require me to like women to make sense. Not having to worry about what is the right time, or missing opportunities to meet somebody because I'm worried about how awkward it will be to explain to my friends and family.

As somebody who really doesn't have many people I can feel like I can talk seriously to, a thread like this that pretty much answers and solves problems very similar to my own because a guy on the internet gathered enough courage to do something I was too nervous to do myself.

At the same time as I write this I'm making a Facebook post to fully come out to my close real life friends and family (kind of a stupid way to do it, but that's where most of them will see it the easiest!).

You have no idea how much your post means to me and how powerful it really is and how much it puts things into perspective (if a guy can come out to the entire internet, why can't I do it for the people who I already know will accept me?).

I don't mean to hijack your thread or be the one up guy and I was planning on putting this all in a PM but I think at this point the GWJ community consists of some of my closest friends.

That's all.

(5 minutes later: HITTING POST IS HARD)

Wow dude. No, don't worry about hijacking things. This just makes this even more worthwhile.

LouZiffer wrote:

To quote one of my favorite films...

"S'alright, Captain. We always knew you were a whoopsie."

Not that we did, but it makes as little difference other than how happy it makes me feel that you're free to be yourself, and how proud I am to have this place as an internet home.

I f*cking love that movie.

Wow. Thanks, Mike. You're already helping others.

Safarihat, same thing as Mike. You need anything, we're here for you.

So happy for you two guys. Makes me proud to part of a community that supports its own like this and feels like such a home. Best of luck going forward.

Every one of you deserves a medal!

/soldier quote

Congratulations!!! That was a huge step and might have been the most difficult click of the Post button in this site's history.

I wish you the best and happiness as you move forward!

I don't have anything witty, or poignant to say, and "congrats" doesn't really cover it, so I'll just echo Cayne's sentiment:

Cayne wrote:

"....mkay so?"

You should be proud of yourself.

Not for being gay, because "...mkay, so?", but for finding the strength to come to terms with what is unfortunately still a difficult truth; the strength to deal with the reactions of idiots; for having the will to learn something about yourself and accept it. That's more than most people can say. I only hope that one day society will consider a person's sexual orientation precisely as interesting as which cheese they prefer on their crackers. Thank you for trusting this community enough to share this with us.

Edit: okay, so like 10 people posted as I was typing this. Oops.

Fedora, the above applies to you as well.

This is so awesome to read. Good on you both for being true to yourselves.

I shouldn't have cut all those onions earlier....

You have the courage of 100 people to make this stand. I commend you.

However, I know that I'm not alone in thinking your sexual orientation has zero bearing on the content of your character. Your true friends will like you for who you are. Period, end of story. Anyone who finds fault with it never really was your friend to begin with.

Carry on!

I'm so glad that this is a place where real people can share real things with 99% confidence that it will be met with open minds, and open hearts. Good on 'ya Mike, and Fedora! Step one is being cool with yourself, it makes me very happy to witness that step - even if it is out here in the wild wide web.

Certis and Elysium better be damn proud of this place.

Garden Ninja wrote:

I don't have anything witty, or poignant to say, and "congrats" doesn't really cover it, so I'll just echo Cayne's sentiment:

Cayne wrote:

"....mkay so?"

You should be proud of yourself.

Not for being gay, because "...mkay, so?", but for finding the strength to come to terms with what is unfortunately still a difficult truth; the strength to deal with the reactions of idiots; for having the will to learn something about yourself and accept it. That's more than most people can say. I only hope that one day society will consider a person's sexual orientation precisely as interesting as which cheese they prefer on their crackers. Thank you for trusting this community enough to share this with us.

+1000.

I got a post in there right at the start of the thread which doesn't exactly say much unfortunately. So many awesome people have said such wonderful things as this thread grows. It's definitely getting dusty in here.

LockAndLoad wrote:

Congratulations!!! That was a huge step and might have been the most difficult click of the Post button in this site's history.

I wish you the best and happiness as you move forward!

Speaking for myself, it was really quite easy and such a huge relief that I was almost giddy clicking the post button. The hard part was getting past the denial, which happened a couple weeks before PenguinCon. I have a long commute, and I spent one of them basically going through this in my mind. I've never been so close to a panic attack. But, I got through it, and Brian (oilypenguin) provided the next key step. I avoided posting this prior to PenguinCon specifically because I didn't want it to seem like an attention grab.

Enjoy life and be happy with who you are. You guys are still the same people as you were before, but happier, so that's pretty cool

That's cool with me man, see you on TF2

Dude, congrats. More booze for everybody!

Jonman wrote:

Awfully dusty in here. Albeit fabulous dust!

+1

Go team Mike:)

Congrats to both Mike and Fedora. I wish you both the best, and it's great to see people be who they really are.

I can't know what it must be like to keep something like that under wraps, and I can only hope that getting it out in the open and living as yourselves with no holds barred is as or more amazing than I can imagine!

Always be who you are and be damn proud of it!

Keep on rockin' Mike! Props to you and Fedora for sharing with us. Thank you!

bandit0013 wrote:

Ah, so you were distracted at the con, that's why I pwnd you in Mortal Kombat. :D

Yeah, I guess you could say that.

What's your excuse for losing the tournament overall, again?

SallyNasty wrote:
Jonman wrote:

Awfully dusty in here. Albeit fabulous dust!

+1

Go team Mike:)

Y'know, contrary to popular belief, when someone comes out, a unicorn does not fart glitter. Just sayin'.

Aww now my sig looks ironic or something

Congrats Mike and Fedora! it sure looks like you went through a lot to get there so kudos

Mex wrote:

That's cool with me man, see you on TF2 ;)

This +1. Good on you guys.

This is awesome. There's two more goodjers I can scratch off my list of people to kill for having impure thoughts about my daughter.

Seriously, it's great you guys can be who you are, especially on the internet where nobody knows you're a dog. All the other kind thoughts in this thread make me proud to be part of this gang. Er, club. I mean, community.