F*** You, Cancer! Catch all

So my mom had the PET scan. The nodule showed up as a bright spot on her lung, meaning it's growing, and the thoracic surgeon recommended surgery to remove it. She goes under the knife in two weeks. They're going to segment out the tumor rather than remove the entire lobe of her lung because doing that would mean she would have to be on supplemental O2 for the rest of her life.

This will be the 3rd surgery my soon-to-be 82-year-old mom has had to have in the past year to treat various cancers. Luckily all of them have been caught relatively early and haven't spread anywhere. The tumor in her lung is just over the size that triggers concern.

But the past year had been very hard on my mom and now we have another surgery and weeks, if not months, of recovery. Hell, I'm still shuttling her to follow-up appointments and therapy from her December surgery to remove a tumor from her ear. There hasn't been a week where she hasn't had at least one doctor's appointment and most weeks there's been several. Now she's going to have months more of that.

It's taking a toll on me and I'm not even the one who's had to go through all the hard stuff.

After chemo last summer, my dad’s cancer came back (never left??) and he now just finished a second round of chemo/radiation therapy (25 days, every weekday) to try to shrink it so they can operate.

mudbunny wrote:

After chemo last summer, my dad’s cancer came back (never left??) and he now just finished a second round of chemo/radiation therapy (25 days, every weekday) to try to shrink it so they can operate.

f*ck
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Had a chance to sit down and talk to my dad.

The MRI before the radiation/chemotherapy regime (5 weeks, 5 times a week) showed the cancer had spread. As of that date(mid January) the spread was to the point of 50% survival beyond 1 year.

He’ll have another MRI at the end of March after the inflammation from the radiation/chemotherapy has gone down. Then mid-April they will open up his leg (??) near the ileal vein to see if surgery is possible.

Edit to add - my dad just called to tell me the surgery is “very risky” they won’t know until
They open him up if they will even be able to do the surgery at all.

Hoping for the best Mudbunny.

f*ck. I'm sorry mudbunny.

I'm sorry mudbunny. Hoping for good news for you guys in the coming weeks.

Tomorrow is take my mom to get COVID tested day so she's ready for her thoracoscopic lobectomy on Tuesday. This sh*t sucks.

I just opened up the thread and saw Mudbunny's post. I haven't read any of the previous posts, but along with my sympathies I'd suggest having a discussion about paperwork. It's good to discuss things now before it becomes too stressful.

Thanks to all that offered sympathies. It truly helps.

1Dgaf wrote:

I just opened up the thread and saw Mudbunny's post. I haven't read any of the previous posts, but along with my sympathies I'd suggest having a discussion about paperwork. It's good to discuss things now before it becomes too stressful.

We are in the process of discussing it. I know where his and his partner's wills are. I know where he is getting buried and what he wants done. (His options are limited, as he is getting buried in a military cemetary). We are going to be discussing over the upcoming weeks/months who he wants me to contact, what social media groups he wants me to post on, etc.