How's work been?

Infyrnos wrote:
boogle wrote:

Take the new job don't take the counter even if it's better.

Accepting a counter offer is just giving them time to find your replacement..

This.
You played your hand already, just follow through.

f*ck work. Not enough and struggling to find more. Need alcohol, but that doesn'thelp anything.

boogle wrote:
Infyrnos wrote:
boogle wrote:

Take the new job don't take the counter even if it's better.

Accepting a counter offer is just giving them time to find your replacement..

This.
You played your hand already, just follow through.

Fourth, fifth, whatever to this. If you've asked for some kind of advancement, either position or salary, and they say "sorry, we can't", but then you say you're considering another offer and suddenly, they're finding a way to give you what you asked for, then you want to bail. Either they don't value you as highly as you deserve, or they think you're bluffing and they can get away with keeping you where you are. That's not the kind of company I want to work for. I'd rather be at a place that actively works to keep me feeling valuable and wanted.

Unfortunately, that's hard to come by, and many/most companies are happy to keep progression as slow as possible. A good employee that's in a position lower than what they can handle is cheaper, so may as well keep them there if you can. I get it, it's business. Likewise, if you're not moving me up the way I want and can handle, and I can find another company that will give me that, then I'm happy to take the new job. It's business. Remember, the company (not necessarily your supervisor, but those are different things) would be totally willing to get rid of you if your services were no longer required.

Thanks for the advice, everyone. You're all right, of course. My boss pushed our meeting back twice. When we did finally meet yesterday, all he wanted to do was talk about why I was leaving and say that as a friend he wouldn't tell me not to take the new job. He still hadn't bothered to talk to his boss, and said he was going to meet with her Monday now. Seemed like code to me so yeah, I'm out of there. As soon as the official offer comes through...any day now...*drums fingers anxiously*

See, that's good. I'd rather have, or be, the kind of boss that recognizes when their people have a legit better opportunity elsewhere, and don't try and bullsh*t or guilt them into staying.

Can we take a moment to vent about all the work surrounding GDPR? Because holy sh*t have I been inundated with requests for architecture, process documents, and retention policies. My team is literally juggling day to day requests with the ongoing process and project documents. Multiple projects I had scheduled for 2018 are now being rescheduled for 2019 just to support GDPR.

On a personal level I'm happy. I support GDPR and I want services and systems to be accountable for my data.

On a professional level this may be the biggest project I have ever been involved in.

I got pulled from the GDPR thing at the hospital. I'm thrilled, and you have condolences, ThatGuy.

So many brain weasels. All my dramas are in my personal life, so I feel especially blessed that all the staff in my team are awesome and supportive of their pain in the arse boss and they do great work even when I'm not around to drive them.

I really need to get my head right so as to not let them all down but in the last 6 weeks I've had one of my best friends commit suicide, Finding my toddler having a seizure, not breathing and turning blue and getting her rushed to hospital and my wife going to hospital with pericarditis, which has the same symptoms of a heart attack. For anyone that doesn'r know my family history my wife and both children have all had open heart surgery so anything like that is a bit of a trigger.

realising this probably belongs in the depression thread so I'll cross post it there.

Work has been busy like it always is. It's busier for me now that I've been training a new hire for the third week. Eventually the onboarding will pay off and I can truly free up more time to work on cross-training for another position on a new project.

The new guy can't be older than his mid-twenties. He may very well be my first real exposure to the "oh, the problem with millennials" tropes that have been so popular on social media. He's an eager and impatient one, almost like a walking contradiction. On one hand he's keen to jump in and gets his hands dirty. The flip side of that is he needs everything explained to him in the style and pace of his liking. Which is to say, he needs the full hand-holding tutorial of the task he's going to be doing before he's given the reins to do said task. "Let me do some real work... but be sure to bend over backwards & set me up for success first"

I've set up a safe space for him complete with guard rails and - in my opinion - clear instructions each new day on what I'd like for him to work on. He has access to our schedules, trackers and knowledge base... not all of it yet, but the stuff that really matters for him right now. He's doing... sorta, just fine. I'm taking a lot of mental notes as I watch him work. He's not exactly making the right inferences and connections based on prior hands-on time with our tools nor has he shown a capacity for figuring out small things on his own.

I've intentionally had to leave some details vague due to time and simply to give him the space to learn on his own. And there's a meatier portion to my role (and soon-to-be, his) that I've scheduled into the second month of his probationary period once he's proven he can handle the smaller day-to-day hustle. I'm sensing a defensive undertone with him whenever there's a lesson learned from a mistake and it's along the lines of "oh, I wasn't explicitly told about this beforehand so how could I have known?" or "I wasn't prepared for these odd inconsistencies in the tool I'm using, what's up with that?" The initial phase has already passed, thankfully, when he was being vocal about how he wanted to be trained to the point of subtlety critiquing the instructions he'd been receiving thus far.

What he hasn't fully grasped yet is that mistakes and little oopsies are entirely expected and acceptable because I've shielded him from making the actual grave mistakes that will make the entire team's day go bad. He hasn't grasped yet that I'm not grading him on his ability to grok our tools the moment he lays hands on them. BUT... I AM observing his behaviour in the face of obstacles and looking for proof that he's understood something beyond his affirmation that he does.

All of this is to say, I'm not thrilled with him so far but his tenure is still quite young and I'm not quite done with him yet. Hey, I continue to be very busy and maybe I'm being a dick when I should be coddling him more. I sincerely hope he does work out as he came highly recommended from my counterpart on another team who I also trained a couple years back. Discovering some deal-breakers a few months in and having to cut him loose might be a touch awkward and definitely, definitely a nuisance.

ThatGuy42 wrote:

Can we take a moment to vent about all the work surrounding GDPR?

Sounds like the Euro version of HIPAA, which on the face of it sounds like an innocuous piece of legislation that accomplished the laudable goal of requiring privacy and accountability for health data, but in reality is a monstrous beast that chews up stunning amounts of time, resources, and personnel, to the point of actively interfering with healthcare activities.

Good luck!

I had a meeting today with just myself and a roomful of upper management folks. Long story short, there was a lot of tension leading up to this meeting because a VP from another group had gone behind my VP's back and not invited him, so when he found out about it my VP had me forward him the invite so he could crash Shady VP's meeting.

Everyone was already in the room from a previous meeting when I arrived. As I sat down, Shady VP tries to play it cool and says, “now don’t worry, this isn’t the Spanish Inquisition.”

As I opened my laptop I deadpanned, “nobody expects the Spanish Inquisition.”

Eight other people in the room, and only my VP laughs. He earned some respect from me today.

Coldstream wrote:
ThatGuy42 wrote:

Can we take a moment to vent about all the work surrounding GDPR?

Sounds like the Euro version of HIPAA, which on the face of it sounds like an innocuous piece of legislation that accomplished the laudable goal of requiring privacy and accountability for health data, but in reality is a monstrous beast that chews up stunning amounts of time, resources, and personnel, to the point of actively interfering with healthcare activities.

Good luck!

GDPR is arguably a lot less complicated overall than HIPAA, but its still new enough that there is a lot of fuzziness around the edges. It also has a potentially much wider scale, as any organization that does business with anyone in the EU, or has EU citizens visiting any portion their website, should be figuring out whether they need to comply and if so what that means for them (well, they should have figured that out long ago, but its been my exerience that there are still plenty of organizations who are either completely ignorant of GDPR, or just hope they can ignore it and it will go away).

Rewind a month ago. Work was super busy as our project was winding down. I do project management putting whole businesses in place. I got a new project at that time and a new partner leading it. The last few weeks have gone from me having fun working to being absolutely miserable and stressed. The new leader seems to have communication issues of either thinking they say something or infer things to me and we understand it completely differently. What does this mean? I may be asked to do something out of order so of course I push back letting them know this potentially harms is down the road and I don't understand why we would do this. I am told we just need to and go back to build the ask getting several notices of how it will impact us down the line in the project so I go back again and let them know again we are really facing some bad problems by continuing this process. Not once is it shared in language a good reason why we are doing this. I later vent to management and am informed the reason why and it makes sense that we needed a mock up unrelated to our project.

There was an easy work around the whole time and I could have assisted in this had the leader discussed this with me. It as it as explained we just needed to get the tool up and running regardless of the repurcussions when we only needed a test system to demo the utility to stakeholders.

Now I need to have a good come to Jesus talk with them to figure out why we are having so many communication problems. I only have a few listed above but seriously my work has gone from busy buys but some of the most fun I have had to the most stressed and almost the lowest low I havr had in years of working. I am doing my best job but really feel put down in this all. I was on track for promotion before this and I have no idea now. Idk if it doesn't get better I can always move on to a new job but really liked this department overall. Idk this really sucks and I want my old team back.

Who else in the org shares your concerns about how this "leader" is failing to communicate?

Thankfully all the others do. I have learned by texting a friend who is one of the coleaders. I just now need to simply confront her, document all attempts to comply, and give examples of what I deal with.

Sigh. f*ck corporate America.