This is Not the Boogle Memorial Dating Advice/Tips Thread, No

Well, no, dating some street-corner worker would be ill-advised, but it doesn't sound like this is quite that situation. No need to be derogatory just because you don't like her line of work.

clover wrote:

Well, no, dating some street-corner worker would be ill-advised, but it doesn't sound like this is quite that situation. No need to be derogatory just because you don't like her line of work.

+1. I know a few people in that business, and they aren't what you'd expect.

clover wrote:

Well, no, dating some street-corner worker would be ill-advised, but it doesn't sound like this is quite that situation. No need to be derogatory just because you don't like her line of work.

I'm not trying to be flippant or derogatory. I'm sorry if it came off that way. I am a little surprised that I appear to be the only one that thinks this is a bad idea.

Trophy Husband wrote:
clover wrote:

Well, no, dating some street-corner worker would be ill-advised, but it doesn't sound like this is quite that situation. No need to be derogatory just because you don't like her line of work.

I'm not trying to be flippant or derogatory. I'm sorry if it came off that way. I am a little surprised that I appear to be the only one that thinks this is a bad idea.

I'm actually curious why you feel escorts are disqualified from having relationships.

Trophy Husband wrote:
clover wrote:

Well, no, dating some street-corner worker would be ill-advised, but it doesn't sound like this is quite that situation. No need to be derogatory just because you don't like her line of work.

I'm not trying to be flippant or derogatory. I'm sorry if it came off that way. I am a little surprised that I appear to be the only one that thinks this is a bad idea.

I think the key is that dating a sex-worker is not universally a bad idea. Sometime it is, sometimes it ain't. Depends entirely on the sex-worker in question. They're far, far, far from a monolithic group.

Truth told I've never been quite clear on what separates escorts from other aspects of prostitution aside from the obvious "one is more classy". Escorts are sometimes just arm candy, or paid companionship, and typically have an agency rather than being self-employed or having a pimp. And evidently there are rules. But other than that I'm not sure what makes one legal and one illegal as from what I understand escorts can do the sex stuff as well.

Maybe there's an assumption that an escort is just a classy prostitute.

Trophy Husband wrote:
clover wrote:

Well, no, dating some street-corner worker would be ill-advised, but it doesn't sound like this is quite that situation. No need to be derogatory just because you don't like her line of work.

I'm not trying to be flippant or derogatory. I'm sorry if it came off that way. I am a little surprised that I appear to be the only one that thinks this is a bad idea.

I think there are a lot of good reasons not to date a hooker. Of course, those reasons may not matter to everyone. Also, all rules fall by the wayside if a girl is hot enough.

Jonman wrote:

I think the key is that dating a person is not universally a bad idea. Sometime it is, sometimes it ain't. Depends entirely on the person in question. They're far, far, far from a monolithic group.

RoughneckGeek wrote:
Trophy Husband wrote:
clover wrote:

Well, no, dating some street-corner worker would be ill-advised, but it doesn't sound like this is quite that situation. No need to be derogatory just because you don't like her line of work.

I'm not trying to be flippant or derogatory. I'm sorry if it came off that way. I am a little surprised that I appear to be the only one that thinks this is a bad idea.

I'm actually curious why you feel escorts are disqualified from having relationships.

I don't think I said that either. If a friend or family member said they were considering dating a prostitue, I would tell them it's a bad idea.

Well, "hooker" is every bit as insulting of a word as "tranny" is. You were putting her down right out of the gate with that.

No doubt there are plenty of sex workers who have not got their sh*t together and you should not be dating them and no doubt there are sex workers that have got their sh*t together and would be perfectly fine to date. I'd probably agree that given how our society is structured the likelihood is that sex workers may more often fall in the former category. But being mindful of that shouldn't mean that you don't give other human beings a reasonable chance to prove that they are perfectly datable people.

clover wrote:

Well, "hooker" is every bit as insulting of a word as "tranny" is. You were putting her down right out of the gate with that. :(

That's because they're only hookers when they're dead. Or tranquilized and rolled into a carpet.

cube wrote:
clover wrote:

Well, "hooker" is every bit as insulting of a word as "tranny" is. You were putting her down right out of the gate with that. :(

That's because they're only hookers when they're dead. Or tranquilized and rolled into a carpet.

Thanks Archer.

Trophy Husband wrote:
clover wrote:

Well, no, dating some street-corner worker would be ill-advised, but it doesn't sound like this is quite that situation. No need to be derogatory just because you don't like her line of work.

I'm not trying to be flippant or derogatory. I'm sorry if it came off that way. I am a little surprised that I appear to be the only one that thinks this is a bad idea.

Actually, I think that it bears a bit of careful consideration, which I would advise regarding several lines of work.

I would not be able to handle dating someone in that line of work; not because they're doing something wrong (I have no objection to voluntary sex workers, I just have no interest in being a customer), but because I could not handle having my partner being emotionally or physically intimate outside of the relationship.

Farscry wrote:
Trophy Husband wrote:
clover wrote:

Well, no, dating some street-corner worker would be ill-advised, but it doesn't sound like this is quite that situation. No need to be derogatory just because you don't like her line of work.

I'm not trying to be flippant or derogatory. I'm sorry if it came off that way. I am a little surprised that I appear to be the only one that thinks this is a bad idea.

Actually, I think that it bears a bit of careful consideration, which I would advise regarding several lines of work.

I would not be able to handle dating someone in that line of work; not because they're doing something wrong (I have no objection to voluntary sex workers, I just have no interest in being a customer), but because I could not handle having my partner being emotionally or physically intimate outside of the relationship.

Exactly. Hence my original comment:

I think it sounds pretty good so far, if you're OK with how she makes her living.

Because not everyone is, like you said. And there's nothing wrong with that either as long as one's not trying to have it both ways. There are a lot of people that delude themselves into thinking that their own hangups are all the other person's fault somehow.

clover wrote:

Because not everyone is, like you said. And there's nothing wrong with that either as long as one's not trying to have it both ways. There are a lot of people that delude themselves into thinking that their own hangups are all the other person's fault somehow.

Gotcha, I wasn't thinking of it that way; I take full ownership of my hangups and won't lay them on someone else's back.

It's cool, I'm actually agreeing with you... I meant you were the good, self-aware example

GROUP HUG!

Jonman wrote:

GROUP HUG!

Group'll cost you extra.

clover wrote:
I think it sounds pretty good so far, if you're OK with how she makes her living.

Because not everyone is, like you said. And there's nothing wrong with that either as long as one's not trying to have it both ways. There are a lot of people that delude themselves into thinking that their own hangups are all the other person's fault somehow.

Honestly, what percentage of people do you think are ok with having a person they care for leave for the night to have sex for money with several random strangers. My opinion is that the number is extremely low. Maybe 2%? I think people who are ok with it, know they're ok with it. People who think it might be ok are fooling themselves.

edit - I'd consider it human nature, not a hangup.

Tanglebones wrote:
Jonman wrote:

GROUP HUG!

Group'll cost you extra.

Trophy Husband wrote:
clover wrote:
I think it sounds pretty good so far, if you're OK with how she makes her living.

Because not everyone is, like you said. And there's nothing wrong with that either as long as one's not trying to have it both ways. There are a lot of people that delude themselves into thinking that their own hangups are all the other person's fault somehow.

Honestly, what percentage of people do you think are ok with having a person they care for leave for the night to have sex for money with several random strangers. My opinion is that the number is extremely low. Maybe 2%? I think people who are ok with it, know they're ok with it. People who think it might be ok are fooling themselves.

edit - I'd consider it human nature, not a hangup.

Lots of blanket statements in this post.

Trophy Husband wrote:

Honestly, what percentage of people do you think are ok with having a person they care for leave for the night to have sex for money with several random strangers. My opinion is that the number is extremely low. Maybe 2%? I think people who are ok with it, know they're ok with it. People who think it might be ok are fooling themselves.

edit - I'd consider it human nature, not a hangup.

Yeah, you're probably right, that percentage is low. It's certainly a darn-site higher than zero though. That's the point.

Taking a different tack, given how prevalent infidelity is in Western culture, I would hazard a guess that the number of people who have a partner who is or has been boning random strangers is a lot higher.

To whit, which is preferable? That your partner lies to you about their infidelity, or is honest about their sex-work? I realize that's not an either/or situation, just an interesting thought experiment.

SixteenBlue wrote:
Trophy Husband wrote:
clover wrote:
I think it sounds pretty good so far, if you're OK with how she makes her living.

Because not everyone is, like you said. And there's nothing wrong with that either as long as one's not trying to have it both ways. There are a lot of people that delude themselves into thinking that their own hangups are all the other person's fault somehow.

Honestly, what percentage of people do you think are ok with having a person they care for leave for the night to have sex for money with several random strangers. My opinion is that the number is extremely low. Maybe 2%? I think people who are ok with it, know they're ok with it. People who think it might be ok are fooling themselves.

edit - I'd consider it human nature, not a hangup.

Lots of blanket statements in this post.

And again, we have been here before.

cube wrote:

And again, we have been here before.

And look how that turned out.

...

Oh wait, we have no idea because that jerk Mex stopped keeping us in the loop.

Man, I WISH my friends would pay for my hookers u_u

Wow that old thread... Coincidentally I just saw that girl today, she's a good friend now. Haha, I remember how she even tried to turn it on me when I found out, like "Well, why did you come to this place? Are you cheating on me? Etc. Fun times

Ehhh I'd do it again if just for the experience, just not get too attached or think that it's ever gonna change. And honestly I wouldnt date seriously anyone who was "working".

I don't believe you can turn a hoe into a housewife, speaking from personal experience >_>

But sex is like, totes fun, sooooo...

Edit: Besides, if you don't date much... It would warp your ideas of what a good relationship is, etc. Just keep it casual...

Kids, this is how I met your mother...

Best Thread Derail Ever

I think if you're willing to be open minded and put in the effort to not project your hangups onto someone in the escort or sex work industry (and unless you had a more revealing series of first conversations than it seems, you're already making assumptions as to which she falls into, although neither precludes her from being a good potential friend) then why limit yourself in bringing cool folks into your life?

Who knows, it may end up being an experience that changes your outlook.

I'd say the same to Cces on the non-Christian girl thing. Although if those are values that are vitally important to you, then ruling out Christian oriented stuff just because of its marketing seems silly. Would you find a nerd/geek/video game oriented service as unappealing?

I also think if you tend to get along better with the members of a social demographic you exclude yourself from as opposed to the one you identify with, it may be worth examining why.

I was a virgin much longer than most of my peers. Honestly, for me personally, I made too big a deal about it. And the longer I waited, the more dramatic I thought it would finally be.

I don't regret losing (such a weird phrase) my virginity to the girl that I did, but I do think that it influenced my expectations for that relationship, in a negative way.

I'm glad I waited until I found someone I care about to share that experience with, but I'm not so naive as to think there weren't other women before her that I also cared about who I could have shared in a fulfilling sexual relationship with, without having to build it up so much, for so long.