The story is a pretty simple one.
I'm living with my girlfriend. This is the real thing, we've discussed marriage and starting a family. But the last few months have been pretty tough. We are both late twenties (28 + 29) and pretty set in out ways, so we expected some of our habits to cause issues as we learned to fit together.
But the clashes have been a lot worse than expected. She used to be very carefree and happy. But she has been suffering with mood swings, inconsistent appetite and sleeping and all sorts of issues.
I have nearly packed my bags and moved out twice, even making plans to move to another city, but I'm determined to make this work.
Besides our moving in together she has had her support network of friends disintegrate, a huge fight with her mother and grandmother, her father moved away, her brothers are in trouble due to drinking and drugs and she has a new job with a lot of extra unexpected stress.
So it isn't surprising that she isn't herself. What really worries me is that she keeps saying she needs time in her bubble before she can think about trying to move on from our most recent fight. But I worry that she is pushing herself into a dark place.
I have had a few friends with depression, so I'm shocked that I didn't consider the possibility until one of them said that my girlfriend sounds exactly like this she did before she started going to therapy.
But I'm not sure how to bring it up. We are barely speaking at the moment. Well, I speak but she doesn't.speak to me, except that she doesn't know what to say.
I think the best strategy may be to sit her down, gently go through the issues in her life, and suggest that these may be driving her to depression.
I'm not sure if anyone else would have a better suggestion, but I'm really worried about the love of my life and I don't know what to do. I'm open to suggestions.
Apologies for any incoherence, I've typed this in a bit of a rush.