Random thing you loathe right now.

RawkGWJ wrote:

Jeopardy is dead to me. The former executive producer of the show has appointed himself the new host despite the fact that Levar Burton was the runaway fan favorite. And the woman chosen to be the “backup host” is an anti-vaxxer and a snake oil peddler. Yes, I’m talking about Mayim Bialik.

THANKS FOR RUINING JEOPARDY ASSHOLES

Aaaand... He's gone.

That was a quick "permanent" host.

Mantid wrote:
RawkGWJ wrote:

Jeopardy is dead to me. The former executive producer of the show has appointed himself the new host despite the fact that Levar Burton was the runaway fan favorite. And the woman chosen to be the “backup host” is an anti-vaxxer and a snake oil peddler. Yes, I’m talking about Mayim Bialik.

THANKS FOR RUINING JEOPARDY ASSHOLES

Aaaand... He's gone.

That was a quick "permanent" host.

Wow! What an asshole.

It’s strange because I don’t believe that it’s ok to condemn somebody based on their looks, but I could tell just by looking at him that he’s an asshole. I guess the difference is that I didn’t call him a bigot before the evidence was revealed.

Maybe it’s something like the beer test. Do I think it would be nice to have a pint with Alex Trebek? Yeah. That would probably be good experience. Would I want to have a pint with Mike Richards? No. That sounds like torture. I don’t know.

You know that dude is bitching to everyone around him about how awful "cancel culture" is.

Jonman wrote:
master0 wrote:

As for a loath. A true first world problem. My two week break is ending and I'm dreading going back/starting work. I work from home yet the stress of a 9 to 5 still weighs on me too much. The idea of retirement sounds nice.

I hear ya man. Burnout is real. Longest I've had off work since the summer after I graduated college 22 years ago has been the 5 weeks when my kid was born, and the thing I most want to have is no job.

I’m also experiencing burnout this week. For the past few weeks I’ve had a supervisor that keeps giving me 12 to 13 hour days. He’s only filling in for the other supervisor who is quite a bit more understanding about my desire to work fewer hours.

The other supervisor is young. I’m pretty sure he’s at management training. That’s where they teach the leaders of the company to behave abhorrently.

Overtime is nice, though....

Only if you actually get paid for it.

I got 12 weeks paid for the birth of my youngest last year. It was amazing.

We really should be doing work schedules, holidays, leave, healthcare, so many things more like Europe.

Optional overtime is nice. I’m burnt out from working 13 hour shifts rather than 11 hour shifts. Not that 11 hour shifts are pleasant. They’re not. But they beat the hell out of 13 hours. Nobody I work with gets 8 hour shifts.

4/4 neighbours on this block making me feel unsafe this week and a bit, for different reasons. I should move but I know I won't.

Mermaidpirate wrote:

4/4 neighbours on this block making me feel unsafe this week and a bit, for different reasons. I should move but I know I won't.

I wish we could send a Goodjer posse to straighten them out. That sucks. Stay safe, MP.

13 hour shifts, five days a week? Wow. There was a time when I did that stuff periodically - on salary, no less, which was a mistake - but it would break me now. Take care of yourself brother.

Thanks.

Me: Wow. This week is going to be super busy for me. Please do not ask me to do extra stuff.

Wife: OK.

Also wife: I have decided We [1] are going to stain the deck this week. You need to strip it and neutralize it today, so We [1] can stain it tomorrow during the day.

[1] Experienced partners will recognize the use of the Royal We.

mudbunny wrote:

Me: Wow. This week is going to be super busy for me. Please do not ask me to do extra stuff.

Wife: OK.

Also wife: I have decided We [1] are going to stain the deck this week. You need to strip it and neutralize it today, so We [1] can stain it tomorrow during the day.

[1] Experienced partners will recognize the use of the Royal We.

If you're lucky, she'll let you get more than 50% done with this project before We start another one.

Eldercare.

Not the act of caring for elders in and of itself, but the frustrating point where it's clear to everyone else that the older person is no longer safely capable of certain things and is putting themselves in harm's way by doing them, but said elder clings onto doing those things with a vicelike grip, despite the fact that they will almost certainly eventually come to easily avoidable harm.

Yeah when my grandmother got Alzheimer's, it was clear to all of us that she needed to stop driving but none of her kids could take away her keys, license, car... finally she totaled the car in a wreck. And the was how the problem got solved.

Nursing home not long after that.

Prederick wrote:

Eldercare.

Not the act of caring for elders in and of itself, but the frustrating point where it's clear to everyone else that the older person is no longer safely capable of certain things and is putting themselves in harm's way by doing them, but said elder clings onto doing those things with a vicelike grip, despite the fact that they will almost certainly eventually come to easily avoidable harm.

At 40 years old, I've done something that my 20-something self could never imagine agreeing to: I allowed my parents to buy a house not only in the same town as me (which was a big enough deal on its own), but on the same street.

They're perfectly functional, athletically active, world-traveling (before COVID) people still, but I definitely agreed to it with an eye on what it would facilitate years from now, whenever they do reach a point of no longer being able to manage themselves without assistance.

*Legion* wrote:

At 40 years old, I've done something that my 20-something self could never imagine agreeing to: I allowed my parents to buy a house not only in the same town as me (which was a big enough deal on its own), but on the same street.

I get that. I'm the same age as you, and I live 3,000 miles from my parents. I dread the prospect of their physical and mental decline, and my not being there to help. I have no siblings either.

Sometimes, these worries keep me up at night. I know they shouldn't. But, damn, the fear weighs heavier with every year.

Prederick wrote:

Eldercare.

Not the act of caring for elders in and of itself, but the frustrating point where it's clear to everyone else that the older person is no longer safely capable of certain things and is putting themselves in harm's way by doing them, but said elder clings onto doing those things with a vicelike grip, despite the fact that they will almost certainly eventually come to easily avoidable harm.

When my grandmother was at that stage, none of her kids were willing to do it, so the grandkids got together and guilted grandma into a home.

Yeah, the person in question (my father) isn't at the point of needing to be in a home yet, but he is clinging onto control of the things that he can keep control of. In this case, it's his little art nook in the attic.

Problem is, the stairs to the attic are incredibly steep and treacherous, even for a young person, and he is no longer anywhere near young. Not to mention he's been on chemo for the last six years (multiple myeloma) and neuropathy in his foot led him to very recently falling in the house, on a completely flat floor and having to be briefly hospitalized.

Despite the fact that he fell into a glass cabinet, shattering a pane and miraculously suffered nothing more than a small cut and some pretty bad bruising, he still insists on keeping his attic art space, even though it is excruciatingly clear that he will fall on those stairs, and the best-case scenario for when he does is several badly broken bones.

But he's aging, and losing control of things and the rest of us are beginning to make decisions for him, and he obviously hates it, so he is steadfastly resisting like he's defending f*cking Stalingrad. And this is before we get to the fact that he's not anywhere near as sharp, mentally, as he used to be.

It's just really frustrating, because we're trying to make simple, reasonable decisions to literally protect his life and well-being, and he's literally (essentially) saying to us "No, I want to be able to break my neck on my own terms."

Tasty Pudding wrote:
*Legion* wrote:

At 40 years old, I've done something that my 20-something self could never imagine agreeing to: I allowed my parents to buy a house not only in the same town as me (which was a big enough deal on its own), but on the same street.

I get that. I'm the same age as you, and I live 3,000 miles from my parents. I dread the prospect of their physical and mental decline, and my not being there to help. I have no siblings either.

Sometimes, these worries keep me up at night. I know they shouldn't. But, damn, the fear weighs heavier with every year.

I really didn't feel this much until my FIL started a sharp decline to eventual death from age related issues, and how hard it was for my wife and her brother to help, even though they are only 90 and 180 miles away, while I'm roughly 5000 miles. At least I have two sisters that live within 15-20 minutes, but it is still hard.

My wife and I have had several conversation about trying to move the MIL to the city we live in now that she is alone to try and alleviate the issue when her health starts failing. But at the moment the MIL is not really interested in considering it.

Prederick wrote:

It's just really frustrating, because we're trying to make simple, reasonable decisions to literally protect his life and well-being, and he's literally (essentially) saying to us "No, I want to be able to break my neck on my own terms."

This is very frustrating, I totally agree.
Trying to figure out where to draw the line with stuff like agency is really difficult. Especially if the rest of the family isn't 100% in agreement.
You have my sympathy. I've been through this with one parent who handled it well, and am actively going through it with the other (with far less success).

Phishposer wrote:

Trying to figure out where to draw the line with stuff like agency is really difficult.

This x 1000.

It's particularly difficult because neither party really wants the transference of agency that needs to happen.

My folks are in to their late 70s and we sorted out Power of Attorney for both myself and my bother a few years back. It’s a simple process here in the UK (or you can pay a solicitor a lot of money to do it) but should one of them be mentally or physically incapacitated, the other parent, my brother and I can take over their affairs.

I dunno how it works in the US but you can do that in the UK before it’s too late. Might be worth investigating?

You might want to consider having a mental fitness assessment done at the same time as the PoA. My mom had a PoA for my grandmother, but her brothers essentially had her sign another one when she was on a "visit" with them well past the time she was cognitively capable of making that decision, giving them all the rights. What ensued was a big battle over her estate and whether to keep her at home vs. whether to put her in a home (the cheaper option which the brothers were really pushing for). Having something from a doctor saying that she was mentally fit at the original signing would have saved a bunch of legal headache.

Minor loath. Getting close to my data cap for the month and it's my fault. From my prior loath about GTA V I uninstalled and reinstalled the game multiple times. Which was dumb cause I forgot I have a cap in the first place. Ah well I can last for a few days not using the internet much right....

Ooo a few things that come to mind so thank you for creating this thread! This is my vent for now of things I loathe

People who still post toxic and negative posts in a games forum for games they either never played or stopped playing

People who do not use car blinkers

People who tailgate

When my manager instructs a colleague of mine to inform me to do something but my manager doesn't tell me directly

People who exceedingly trash talk in games

My neighbor who asked me to cut a healthy tree down because she is tired of cleaning leaves (although she pays for the cleanup, she doesn't do it herself)

Websites that autoplay video's and do not allow me to pause it

People who drive in the emergency lane to bypass traffic

People who cut you off when driving

People who place a huge order at the drive thru

whispa wrote:

When my manager instructs a colleague of mine to inform me to do something but my manager doesn't tell me directly

Yup. That’s a good one.

whispa wrote:

Websites that autoplay video's and do not allow me to pause it

This one, at least, should be simple to fix!

How to Disable Autoplay Videos on Chrome, Firefox and Edge

My old job had this thing called Rally where they'd give you some money if you do health stuff. This year you could go to nine online health classes and get 500 dollars. I changed jobs and was out of their system with exactly one session left. So I get nothing.

Damn.