Random thing you loathe right now.

A_Unicycle wrote:

Struggling a little with my fiancee's mental illness. She has Bipolar with 75% of the criteria for borderline PD.

We've had great highs and spectacular lows, but have remained together for close to 10 years now. Nothing major has happened, but I'm just feeling very drained right now. Part of me feels bad, and I often struggle with feelings of being overly controlling when I'm just making sure she's safe. Some things she has to learn/do for herself, but often I'll have to reign her in when her moods exceed the normal.

Support seems to be there when things are really bad, but it's hard to find support for the day-to-day struggles. We'll never have a typically normal relationship and in a lot of ways, that's fine...until it's not.

I love her more than anything, but sometimes things are hard.

My heart goes out to you, brother.

I'm in a similar boat. Sometimes the unpredictability of it is exhausting. Feels like the relationship version of the Sword of Damocles, or having a ticking time-bomb inside my wife.

I try and remind myself that if you pull the camera back, that's life, that we've all got the metaphorical time-bomb inside us - I could be diagnosed with something life-altering tomorrow with no notice. It's just that her ticking is a lot louder.

Mixolyde wrote:

It is getting harder to enjoy the David Attenborough style nature shows as everyone basically ends with, "Enjoy it while you can because it's all going to be gone soon." Sigh.

I’ve been playing a lot of RDR2 lately. I’m really feeling the urge to go visit some real life forests and wilderness areas like the ones depicted in RDR2. It seems to me that those places are disappearing quickly. I want to be in those environments to experience the smells, feel the textures, hear the wind and the birds. I want to experience the heat and the cold. I want to be humbled by trees that are older than the Bible.

Was super excited for 2 new chairs and a new mattress today!

The delivery people took our old mattress and box spring outside first...in the rain and set it down on our muddy driveway. No big deal...they won’t need to ever come back in.

The mattress went upstairs - no problem.

One chair came in - no problem.

Second chair - oops! It’s missing legs. We will bring it next week.

Foundation gets stuck going up the stairs. We will switch it out for a split queen foundation and deliver next week - no problem. Since we messed up the chair, we won’t even up charge you for the split queen.
What to do about sleeping in the meantime? Delivery person says “Oh your bed has slats, you can just put the mattress on it. You may even decide you don’t want a foundation.”

11PM arrives, Mrs. Iso and I are drifting off to sleep and all of a sudden the mattress tried to eat us alive. Mrs. Iso couldn’t get out without assistance.

I guess the foundation is not optional

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Anyone know if there is a benefit to buying 'real' bed slats over pieces of lumber cut to length, other than the fact that the first is more expensive than the second and would need to be shipped to us?

this week just needs to quit already

UpToIsomorphism wrote:

Anyone know if there is a benefit to buying 'real' bed slats over pieces of lumber cut to length, other than the fact that the first is more expensive than the second and would need to be shipped to us?

Lumber should work fine as long as it's got a similar load limit and is properly supported. The bigger issue is that your photo shows that you were missing support legs. The circled holes should normally bolt to a cross-slat which will have legs to support the slats in the middle. It also kinda looks like there weren't any screws connecting some of the slats to the rails? If that's the case, make sure every slat is screwed in on both sides when you replace them.

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Something like this is what it should look like, with legs underneath the vertical center slat.

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Think I had a mild case of food poisoning or something. Fine now but operating on no sleep.

My wife and I are both overweight, and further we can be very active in the bed. None of the box spring or slat support bed frame combos we had used over the years worked for us. Then we bought a steel bed frame that could sit inside the nice wooden bed frame we used, with the mattress sitting right on top of that. Solved a ton of problems for us.

ThatGuy42 wrote:

My wife and I are both overweight, and further we can be very active in the bed.

ThatGuy42 wrote:

My wife and I are both overweight, and further we can be very active in the bed. None of the box spring or slat support bed frame combos we had used over the years worked for us. Then we bought a steel bed frame that could sit inside the nice wooden bed frame we used, with the mattress sitting right on top of that. Solved a ton of problems for us.

When my wife and I first moved in together the bed we were sleeping on was killing us (she had been sleeping on it for years and just dealing with back pain) and that we felt very cramped in it together (queen). We went to one of the stores and laid on this bed with pressure sensors and a Kinect mounted up above it and they told us what kind of mattress we should get. We ended up spending like $5000 on a great mattress and an adjustable base and I have to say it was worth every penny.

Thanks everyone. We will get set of metal slats, two metal middle legs, and our new split box spring next week. Until then, camping in my wife’s office, the only place with enough floor space to put the mattress.

Stele wrote:
ThatGuy42 wrote:

My wife and I are both overweight, and further we can be very active in the bed.

RawkGWJ wrote:
Stele wrote:
ThatGuy42 wrote:

My wife and I are both overweight, and further we can be very active in the bed.

:hump:

Darts on tv/movies. Just once I’d like to see them showing somebody hitting treble twenty instead of bullseye.

Clumber wrote:

Darts on tv/movies. Just once I’d like to see them showing somebody hitting treble twenty instead of bullseye.

It'd be nice to see someone in a movie win at poker through clever bluffing or something. Or, any method other than "randomly get dealt a royal flush just when the other guy randomly gets dealt four of a kind", really.

Clumber wrote:

Darts on tv/movies. Just once I’d like to see them showing somebody hitting treble twenty instead of bullseye.

With a beer and cigarette in the other hand just like the professionals.

People who don't play darts regularly wouldn't see that as impressive, though. I think they may also think the bullseye is worth 100.

fenomas wrote:
Clumber wrote:

Darts on tv/movies. Just once I’d like to see them showing somebody hitting treble twenty instead of bullseye.

It'd be nice to see someone in a movie win at poker through clever bluffing or something. Or, any method other than "randomly get dealt a royal flush just when the other guy randomly gets dealt four of a kind", really.

That’s one of the reasons I like Rounders. It’s at least _better_ poker than the usual fare.

Clumber wrote:

Darts on tv/movies. Just once I’d like to see them showing somebody hitting treble twenty instead of bullseye.

Darts in soap operas, oh, so wrong, oh so wrong
No-one’s scoring and there’s too much chat between each throw
Worse than this though is when cheers are raised for the bull
Granted, bull’s a double and an out, but I know that they don’t
Know, therefore
I propose
No Soap Darts

"Surging out of convalescence" - Half Man Half Biscuit.

Serengeti wrote:

Good advice

We paid $600 for an as-is floor display. Was missing the center rail and the center legs. Never an issue until two nights ago.

Got the covid shot so went downtown for the first time in a long time. The number of people living on the streets is insane. I already knew that was the case but seeing it first hand is different. So sad.

Interviews doing coding questions. Online stuff that in a normal work with resources environment I could handle no problem. Under time a time limit with no outside resources. Spelling errors and forgetting common things I've used a thousand times.

Positive side, its decent practice at least.

master0 wrote:

Interviews doing coding questions. Online stuff that in a normal work with resources environment I could handle no problem. Under time a time limit with no outside resources. Spelling errors and forgetting common things I've used a thousand times.

Positive side, its decent practice at least.

If it's an option, I am of the "walk out of an interview that asks you to write code in an artificial environment" opinion. I have a public github repo with all the code you could ever want entirely written by me. Don't waste my time and yours.

Yep those type of interviews are 15-20 years out of date. You don't want to work for that company.

Thanks, everyone. Yeah I agree although I understand why they want to use it. It's another filter that's easy for them to implement. Even if I don't agree with it overall.

I'm nearing (way past really) the point where I should interview again and I'm pretty curious what the coding part will be like. I've worked in a big silicon valley company before, but entered under weird circumstances so I've never done a proper coding interview.

Part of me wants to apply to Google just to try the puzzles.

fenomas wrote:

I'm nearing (way past really) the point where I should interview again and I'm pretty curious what the coding part will be like. I've worked in a big silicon valley company before, but entered under weird circumstances so I've never done a proper coding interview.

Part of me wants to apply to Google just to try the puzzles.

Two seperate interviews used the same site: HackerRank

About 3-4 questions and an hour for the lot. Usually had trouble with the last question. With an online IDE that allows for a bunch of languages. Limits what you can do. No copy pasting and probable some other checks. You're suppose to do it independently. One interviewer watch me via skype while I worked...

The site itself actually pretty solid to use overall. The IDE has some autocomplete and decent to use. Might be missing some libraries. Has a few puzzles and lessons you can do for fun/study. Although I used a few other sites to refresh my C#. Had a little trouble getting the angular working in it though.

Thanks, that's very useful info! I've only really used leetcode for that kind of thing, but if companies are on hackerrank I'll go and get used to the interface there.

It looks like the "interview prep kit" section is HR's version of "do a bunch of sample problems".

I wish actual programming jobs were as clearly defined as codingame.com problems...

I love what you all have to say about programmer interviews, but what I really need you to do is convince all the employers in Western Australia that this is the way. It seems like everywhere I go, someone wants to do some ridiculous test. And I do not do well at all on surprise tests.

I stand by requiring some amount of coding in a developer interview. I'm not looking for syntax perfection, I don't need something that compiles first time. I do need to know that actually know the basics of how to code. The fact that people apply for dev jobs without being able to write a six line method with a for loop or follow a simple spec is why actual live coding is important.

I honestly don't understand the "I want a job writing code, how dare you ask me to code" mentality.

EDIT: If your code interview consists of trick questions that have a very specific answer, especially ones that have nothing to do with the environment you work in, you're doing the interview wrong.