Questions you want answered.

No worries, it’s hard to get some of this stuff across clearly. But it’s fun digging back into it. Except phonology. That’s not fun. It’s tedious.

Jonman wrote:

Dick pics.

It's good to be back!

Is surgery...painful?

I'm not sure how to really ask that. I've had minor surgery on my bum, but this is different. There's a good chance I'll need some of my thyroid removed. I know I'll be unconscious, but the idea of my neck being sliced open is really making me nauseous with fear.

Then I do a complete flip and think "I'll be asleep, who cares!"

My brain won't settle on a stance.

A_Unicycle wrote:

Is surgery...painful?

I'm not sure how to really ask that. I've had minor surgery on my bum, but this is different. There's a good chance I'll need some of my thyroid removed. I know I'll be unconscious, but the idea of my neck being sliced open is really making me nauseous with fear.

Then I do a complete flip and think "I'll be asleep, who cares!"

My brain won't settle on a stance.

I had a thyroglossal duct cyst removed from my neck at 17. It had swelled to the size of a baseball. Pain management is a top priority in these things. There was zero awareness during surgery, and no pain at all afterward. In fact, I was fully numb from the bottom of my chin to the incision for years as it took a long time for the nerves to get sorted out. I still have reduced sensation there 30+ years later.

A_Unicycle wrote:

Is surgery...painful?

Short answer: No

Modern anesthesia ranges from simple local numbing to regional nerve blocks to various combinations of dis-associative/hypnotic, amnestic, sedatives, muscular blockers, and general anesthetics. If you're under a general anesthesia, you shouldn't have any experience of the surgery at all. In fact, there's usually sufficient retrograde amnesia effect that you probably won't remember anything after the pre-op area, let alone the surgery itself. For you, the experience should go from watching someone administer a small amount of IV medication in a pre-op chair to waking up groggy in post-op saying "I'll have another one of those, bartender!"

Done properly, the surgery should be something you're told about, while the recovery is something you experience. Be prepared for some disorientation when you wake. Happily, modern medical practice tries to have a family member or someone else of your choosing present in the recovery area to you have a friendly face to wake up to. Modern technique is light-years better than it was even 30 years ago. Being nervous is normal, but don't be scared. I'm sure you're in excellent hands.

Good luck!

It's true. Also, you can usually ask them to play music you like. I always have a good chat with the team as they wheel me into the room. I mean, why not? We joke around and have a good time. It's not like *I* have to do anything hard for the next hour or so. I almost always drop off to laughter.

Oh, and for me, the first drug they give me (about a minute or so before a second push and consciousness vanishes) gives me a strong smell of cardamom. Something I always look forward to, oddly enough. You ever run into that, Coldstream? It's remarkably cozy and comforting.

Robear wrote:

Oh, and for me, the first drug they give me (about a minute or so before a second push and consciousness vanishes) gives me a strong smell of cardamom. Something I always look forward to, oddly enough. You ever run into that, Coldstream? It's remarkably cozy and comforting.

I haven't run into that one personally, but the next time I'm hanging out with some anesthesiology types, I'll ask them! Almost sounds like a bit of synesthesia as the medication takes hold. Now you have me curious.

Can 2020 be made into a hallmark movie love story? What would be the plot? I feel like we had so many subplots in a short period of time.

Stealthpizza wrote:

Can 2020 be made into a hallmark movie love story? What would be the plot? I feel like we had so many subplots in a short period of time.

One of the people is running from murder hornets and they spot the object of their affection running the other direction from a horde of right wing insurrectionist... wacky hijinks ensue.

Coldstream, I’ve asked a few times and it’s Propofol (which fits with the minute or so timeframe I recall). I know people report a metallic taste sometimes with anesthesia, but for me, it’s a great smell.

Robear wrote:

Coldstream, I’ve asked a few times and it’s Propofol (which fits with the minute or so timeframe I recall). I know people report a metallic taste sometimes with anesthesia, but for me, it’s a great smell. :-)

Propofol is great stuff. I had never experienced it until my recent colonoscopy. Previous surgeries where I was under were 40+ years ago at this point. I remembered recovery taking forever and being out of it for hours after waking up. With propofol, I felt mostly normal within 15 minutes of waking up, I was out of the hospital and stuffing my face at a mexican restaurant (because hey, clean colon, why not) in under an hour. While I didn't drive for the entire afternoon, I probably could have in an emergency.

Uni,

Like Robear said, turn on the charm and make lighthearted jokes with the doctors before the procedure. In hindsight, I realize that that’s what I’ve done before every surgery I’ve had. On one occasion I kept on cracking jokes long after I was asleep. Apparently I was hilarious!

After the surgery I’m out of it. They usually have to give me extra anesthesia as I’m very tolerant to it and I often wake up mid procedure, though I have never remembered waking. For the rest of the day and sometimes the next day I’m sleeping it off.

I think the scariest part is giving over your self control. Your future quality of life is in the hands of others, and you can’t even be present to supervise the situation. The good news is that your doctors do those procedures all the time. You’ll be in good hands.

Come drop us a note as soon as you’re able to after the surgery.

Is there anything to Roblox besides a Skinner box?

I've been spending time with my niece and nephews again now that all the elderly / vulnerable members of that branch of my family have gotten vaccinated, and they're all obsessed with it, and they keep trying to get me into it, and I just don't get it.

I guess there are different games you can play within it? The one they keep trying to get me to play is called something like "Saber Update Superhero Simulator" and as far as I can tell it consists entirely of punching criminals (who spawn in this parking lot and wander around not committing crimes or fighting back in any way) so you can sell their skulls for gold to buy better superhero outfits to punch stronger criminals harder.

They tell me that it gets fun at some point, but from what I can see, at their level it's the same (lack of) game but with bigger numbers.

Like, I've played my fair share of Diablo, but even that has some skill trees and stats and equipment attributes to try to synergize in order to hide the Skinner box a little.

Roblox is basically an app environment and like you said there are all different games and people and companies make their own stuff. Lots of the games are crap and some are better.

Roblox is a scam for elders and less tech savvy family that use children as a lure. My nephew just went around trying to convince everyone in the family one by one that he needed a face for his character that cost over $400.

I told him I could make that face or any other for free for him. It is seriously a minifig face with fangs sticking out its tongue. It took hours to pick my jaw up off the floor.

My daughter and here friends are all cracked out on Roblox and have been for years. My daughter even makes her own Roblox apps. She makes simple but cool environments which are serve as virtual hang out spaces for her and her friends. Personally, I don’t get it, but as long as it’s a safe space for kids to play, then I can accept it.

RawkGWJ wrote:

My daughter and here friends are all cracked out on Roblox and have been for years.

My 10yo niece visited once and was complaining that my consoles were "old". My collection includes a PS2, PS3, PS4, Xbox 360, and a Switch. She also conveniently ignored a PC that damn near dims the lights when it powers up. After complaining that my stuff was too basic, she whips out Roblox on her XBOne and tried to show me the stuff that was "cool". As far as I can tell, pretty much everything in Roblox could be run on a reasonably capable pocket calculator and the games are simplistic to the point of parody.

But hey, the creators are absolutely rolling in cash spent by parents, so I guess there's something to it.

RawkGWJ wrote:

My daughter and here friends are all cracked out on Roblox and have been for years. My daughter even makes her own Roblox apps. She makes simple but cool environments which are serve as virtual hang out spaces for her and her friends.

fangblackbone wrote:

Roblox is a scam for elders and less tech savvy family that use children as a lure. My nephew just went around trying to convince everyone in the family one by one that he needed a face for his character that cost over $400.

I told him I could make that face or any other for free for him. It is seriously a minifig face with fangs sticking out its tongue. It took hours to pick my jaw up off the floor.

Well which is it, a dystopian cyberspace or a kidz holodeck?

hbi2k wrote:

Is there anything to Roblox besides a Skinner box?

Most Roblox games are terrible, and "Skinner box" is exactly right. Any game with "simulator" in the title, in particular, is just going to be "do a thing over and over again so you can level up and do the same thing faster". There is something about this very simple loop that is catnip to the pre-teen mind, apparently.

(Watching my son play this stuff did, however, make me uncomfortably aware of how many games we play as adults that also boil down to "kill things to get better weapons to kill more things more betterer".)

There are some games on there that can be fun in small doses for those of us old enough to shave, though. I've enjoyed playing Murder Mystery, Shark Bite and Bear with my son. There are tolerable FPS's, too: Arsenal and Phantom Forces the most notable ones.

Danjo Olivaw wrote:
RawkGWJ wrote:

My daughter and here friends are all cracked out on Roblox and have been for years. My daughter even makes her own Roblox apps. She makes simple but cool environments which are serve as virtual hang out spaces for her and her friends.

fangblackbone wrote:

Roblox is a scam for elders and less tech savvy family that use children as a lure. My nephew just went around trying to convince everyone in the family one by one that he needed a face for his character that cost over $400.

I told him I could make that face or any other for free for him. It is seriously a minifig face with fangs sticking out its tongue. It took hours to pick my jaw up off the floor.

Well which is it, a dystopian cyberspace or a kidz holodeck? :D

¿por qué no los dos?

I figure, if the kids enjoy it and can make a space to be creative thats pretty cool. I remember having a lot of fun on awful systems, like the Duke Nukem 3d map creator.

When my son was a child, and didn’t understand the price of things, I’d put it in terms he could understand. “You can have the $400 face, but we won’t be able to buy you mac and cheese for a year. We’ll mark the calendar.” Not that I’d buy it for him under any circumstances, but the awe in his face as he realized what that amount of money meant was a mark of rapid understanding arriving.

What do you have against mac & cheese?? You monster.

Tasty Pudding wrote:
hbi2k wrote:

Is there anything to Roblox besides a Skinner box?

Most Roblox games are terrible, and "Skinner box" is exactly right. Any game with "simulator" in the title, in particular, is just going to be "do a thing over and over again so you can level up and do the same thing faster". There is something about this very simple loop that is catnip to the pre-teen mind, apparently.

This loop is common to a great deal of video games out there. Sure, there are things or bits that get bolted on, but many, many video games are basically "do thing to get a foozle which lets you do the thing faster".

I love that tactic!

I think I told him something similar. Like "that is the cost of the PS5!" Except he already has a PS5 so I think the point was lost.

Roblox is actually banned in our house. My oldest was acting really depressed and we found that an older kid was messing with his head through private messages (they were talking like girlfriend/boyfriend, talking about sexual stuff, etc... this girl was saying she was 12, my oldest was 9 when this started). I tried a number of different temporary fixes (such as blocking PMs and such) but eventually just URL blocked Roblox in my router to be done with it. Then I used family control to block his phone from accessing it through cellular.

I can see a lot of potential there for creativity, but it's not worth the headache of pulling him out of whatever rabbit hole he's gone down this week. He'd created a few servers that were like obstacle courses that weren't bad. He was bummed for a while, but his mood improved to such a degree that I won't open it back up.

So my 5-year-old nephew is in this virtual kindergarten thing, and he has a tendency to get bored and wander away from the Zoom call if left to his own devices, because even at 5 years old he instinctively knows how stupid a concept a virtual kindergarten is.

So my mother (his grandmother) will sit with him and try to get him to engage with the dumb farce on the screen in front of him, and her latest trick is to try to bribe him by farming gold for him in Roblox while he's in his fake kindergarten. And she tells him, "if you pay attention to your class by yourself I can farm gold for you, but if I have to sit with you and make you pay attention then I can't."

I think I'm about ready to call the entire human race a failed experiment and wrap the whole thing up, who's with me?

PurEvil wrote:

Roblox is actually banned in our house. My oldest was acting really depressed and we found that an older kid was messing with his head through private messages (they were talking like girlfriend/boyfriend, talking about sexual stuff, etc... this girl was saying she was 12, my oldest was 9 when this started). I tried a number of different temporary fixes (such as blocking PMs and such) but eventually just URL blocked Roblox in my router to be done with it. Then I used family control to block his phone from accessing it through cellular.

I can see a lot of potential there for creativity, but it's not worth the headache of pulling him out of whatever rabbit hole he's gone down this week. He'd created a few servers that were like obstacle courses that weren't bad. He was bummed for a while, but his mood improved to such a degree that I won't open it back up.

That seems like a totally reasonable response to me, esp considering you attempted less absolute resolutions first.

PurEvil wrote:

Roblox is actually banned in our house. My oldest was acting really depressed and we found that an older kid was messing with his head through private messages (they were talking like girlfriend/boyfriend, talking about sexual stuff, etc... this girl was saying she was 12, my oldest was 9 when this started).

THIS!!!

I had temporarily banned Roblox from my daughter when she was about 10yo. There is a massive potential for abuse within the Roblox systems. As far as I can tell, Roblox’s owners are spend most of their time swimming in their Scrooge McDuck vaults of riches, and can’t be bothered to implement any kind of abuse moderation outside of f-bomb filters which are easily skirted by little kids.

The Roblox ban lasted a few years but against my better judgment, I let her play it again. I put some conditions on it. If I sensed abuse, Roblox would be banned again. And, she would need to regularly create her own content, not just play the crap that other people put on it. She now creates her own environments and character skins in a regular basis. She does pretty good work TBH. Her latest character skin is a demon girl with three eyes and yellow horns. Yes. I’m a proud father.

The reason I banned Roblox? There was a game in which the “unofficial” goal was to go into a house with another player and take off your clothes together. I couldn’t see it as anything other than a tool to groom children to be sexual abuse victims. The game was sort of like a capitalism simulator, or job life simulator. You could work a job, save money, buy a car, buy a house, etc.

To be fair, the players could only strip down to underwear or bra and panties, but it was enough to make me want to vomit. I actually played this game with her for a while before I saw the abusive stuff. One of the jobs you could choose was to be a cop. You got to drive a squad car and run over robbers then collect some dough.

Merphle wrote:

What do you have against mac & cheese?? You monster.

It is known.

What is the etymology of "Titi" as a nickname for one's aunt?

I'm seeing people say it's Spanish, Puerto Rican, Creole, French, African-American, but it never seems to get used in writing so no one has any source for where it actually originates that I can find.