I was just listening to NPR; they had a very interesting interview with the openly gay bishop in the Anglican Church, Gene Robinson. He was confirmed in 2003, and the controversy is ongoing, to the point of (still) threatening a schism in the church.
One thing he said struck me as quite profound; he believes that men are so homophobic because they fear giving up their privileged status and becoming 'just' women. He believes homosexuality is only threatening if you believe women are inferior to men.
He apparently got married to his long-time (20+ year) partner just recently, and when asked about the timing (right before a major Anglican conference to which he was specifically not invited), he flippantly said, "Well, I always wanted to be a June bride". And that comment was around the world in minutes; it horrified pretty much every conservative on the planet, apparently. He believes it wouldn't have caused such a furor if the thought of being a bride wasn't so threatening to these men... that it's fundamentally misogyny at work here, not just following religious traditions.
I thought that was really interesting, and figured I'd put it up here and see if it made anyone else go, "hmmm, I wonder."
(as an aside: he got married when he did not to be divisive, but because he's had his life threatened, and has constant armed security with him. He wanted to protect his partner as much as he legally could, and in January it became legal for men to marry in New Hampshire, so they wed before he went to the conference.)