I apologize to all women in advance, I post this to stimulate discussion, not to offend. Another link from reddit.com, 'Stop feminising our schools - our boys are suffering'.
For the story of my son's swimming competition is also the story behind recent figures showing that boys going to university are now outnumbered by girls in every subject, with 23,000 more places awarded to women than to men. I'd like to say the figures came as a surprise. But both as a parent (of a boy and two girls) and as a writer on educational matters, I'm sorry to say the figures are only too predictable. The simple truth is that by the time our boys have done 12 or even 14 years in the feminised environment of today's schools, they all ask: "What's the point?" If boys are not getting into university, or not applying in the first place, it's because they've been turned off learning. They've been given a message that it's not for them. And that's a tragedy for all of us. For I don't want my daughters growing up in a society full of alienated young men and I don't want to live in a society which suffocates all the good aspects of masculinity. Yet that's exactly what is happening in our schools.
The writer specifically equates "winning" as a positive, but he explains himself beyond that term:
Those who do best, who genuinely achieve great things, get hardly any recognition because someone has decided that in the interests of egalitarianism, most certificates should go to the less able. So there are certificates for kindness and certificates for not using bad language. And so there should be, but it's equally important to reward sheer excellence, too. Boys like prizes - but only real ones. Once they are convinced the system is rigged, they don't want to play. Their testosterone and its companion competitive streak need to be acknowledged. If they're ignored, boys get listless and they start retreating into their hoodies and terrorizing the rest of us.
There is wisdom in this article, at least about young men. Males usually respond to stress with aggression and anger, and those forces can be harnessed for great good. I bring this up today, Super Bowl Sunday, because I *still* meet women of my generation (Gen X) who refuse to date a man who likes football. They wear that attitude with pride, even, as if they are overcoming some great injustice. Plus, this attitude is more common that I am comfortable with.
Thoughts? Are your sons and daughters growing up in a society that benefits them?