"To Catch A Predator"

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Anyone else catch the latest iteration on Dateline? I think, should I ever have a daughter, i'm going to lock her in her room until she's 18. No computer.

Jesus.

Anyone else catch the latest iteration on Dateline?

I was following this story through Dateline's last few installations. I don't have children, and part of the reason is that I knew I'd be an annoyingly strict and overprotective parent. No cellphone, no un-monitored computer/web access, no posting internet photos, nada. And this is part of the reason why. When I first started hanging out live on the web in wide-range chatting groups (and games), I was eighteen, and I met people that would have had my father with his gun in hand. Pedophiles, animal-lovers (and I mean this literally), abusive and cheating spouses... just telling people I was a barely-legal girl on the internet, not living with parents, was like painting a target on myself.

What is also kind of scary is how clueless some of these guys seem to their own motives. "I'm not a predator, I was just a lonely guy going to meet someone I met on the web." (Who you happened to believe was fifteen, and who was on the receiving end of your disgusting sexual commentary) I'm sure some of them even believe that. And once you're caught, especially on a show like that, you're branded for life. I hope Dateline never stops while this trap is still working.

Prederick wrote:

I think, should I ever have a daughter, i'm going to lock her in her room until she's 18. No computer.

Yeah, you never know when one of these is around...gotta be careful!

Prederick wrote:

Anyone else catch the latest iteration on Dateline? I think, should I ever have a daughter, I'm going to lock her in her room until she's 18. No computer.
Jesus.

Growing up, I personally knew one person who'd fallen victim to a successful online predator. He was an eleven year old boy, the brother of one of my best friends. He'd obviously never been taught to recognize the signs of an online predator, so when the boy went to meet his new friend--who he thought was his age, with a shared love for skateboarding--at a secluded pond near my house... well. He's lucky he survived. This all happened right back when the Internet first started to gain steam, too, so it caused a giant furor in my neighborhood.

Moral of story: The media focus is usually on sick older men trying to seduce naive little girls, but sons are no more safe than daughters. Best to teach both how to properly handle themselves on the Internet.

What ever happened to parents telling children not to take candy from strangers? I find it stupid that someone would fall for this over the internet, meanwhile they would avoid the dirty old man watching the cheerleaders (or the players) at the football game like he was carrying the plague.

Am I too old, or am I too behind the curve here to understand the naivety that teens have about this internet thingy?

If it bleeds, we can kill it.

Am I too old, or am I too behind the curve here to understand the naivety that teens have about this internet thingy?

Not at all. It seems beyond reason, doesn't it? But that naivety leads most back to that long debate about how parents don't want to have to be horribly honest with their kids anymore. What surprised me all those many years ago wasn't that these things existed (I was actually warned in graphic detail by most of my guy pals)... it was the sheer volume of it. Kinda spooky, and that was over ten years ago.

Still, I have hope, and I think it can and will be given enough attention to help keep more kids out of harm's way.

Like Dragonfly, I'd probably be a little overprotective regarding Internet use as a parent myself.

My parents were always upfront with me about the fact that there are some sickos out there and armed me with enough common sense to not get into too much trouble. I know if we'd had a computer in the house while I was growing up, I wouldn't have been allowed to chat on the internet period.

I hope this Dateline series keeps catching these perverts and sends a message to the young people these jerks prey on. Maybe it will make them more wary and less eager to assume that everyone chatting on the Internet is a representing themselves truthfully.

God, that's just unreal. Thank gods I didn't have access to the internet as a kid.

I think we need to teach children to be more cynical bastards. I grew up with the internet, and being a horriffic cynical asshole trolling 15-year old little sh*t kept me safe.

FOLLOW-UP QUESTION:

This week, I learned about Lolicon (THANKS AGAIN JAPAN).

What do we do with those who are into "Simulations"?

The theory being that simulations hurt noone, may provide a safe release for those in question, and it's not like Japan's the Rape/Sexual Assault capital of the world (at least, physically. In the media is a whole different thing).

The argument against being... well...

The meaning of "lolicon" has changed in the West (as have the meanings of words such as anime, otaku and hentai). As evolved in the West, "lolicon" is anime or manga that contains sexual/erotic portrayals of children or childlike characters, and is thus it is close cognate to the Japanese term loli-manga. The use of the word lolicon is an indication the material is overtly, even if not explicitly erotic. [3]

Most lolicon images are produced in Japan. They are usually of females between the apparent ages of 8 and 13, though sometimes much younger. (This is also true of loli-manga.)

between the apparent ages of 8 and 13,
between the apparent ages of 8 and 13,
may provide a safe release for those in question

So is seeing a psychiatrist.