The Final 36 Hours of Singledom

I get married tomorrow evening at 6pm. Last night, I went to bed early just so as not to kill any of the 11 people staying at my house for this particular shin-dig.

And while I suffer now, I know the end result will be worth it. Honeymoon in Mexico! We leave Sunday for a 7 day cruise out of San Diego that goes to Cabo, Mazatlan and Puerto Vallarta.

I also know I did good in waiting a bit and finding the 'right' girl. Although, like I said, I could have strangled some family members last night not for anything they did it's just there's so many of them.

My family is local where Missy's is not and she is much closer to hers than I am.

I'm not yet nervous about the whole thing but much like the day that I proposed, time has this funny way of being so relative. You set a date that seems far enough off and before you know it, here it is.

Anyways, I didn't want to blog this particular thing since everyone visiting reads it and just wanted to share.

Congratz

Just remember, tomorrow is for YOU and HER... not anyone else. We made that mistake trying to please everyone...

PAR

Heartiest congratulations, man!!! Be sure to post the whole wedding story.

Exactly how long was your ""waiting"", btw?

P.S. Also, be sure to post up a link to your wedding registry here. Maybe if we contribute, your new wife take a page from Certis/Hoochie book and will feel happy enough to pose for a softcore shot!!!

Congratulations!

Have a GREAT day tomorrow, and enjoy your cruise!

Best wishes.

Yay! Congratulations!

Congratz

Just remember, tomorrow is for YOU and HER... not anyone else. We made that mistake trying to please everyone...

Close but not entirely accurate.... Tomorrow is about her....

"Garrad" wrote:
Congratz

Just remember, tomorrow is for YOU and HER... not anyone else. We made that mistake trying to please everyone...

Close but not entirely accurate.... Tomorrow is about her....

Common Garrad, lets not sound so bitter... I wholeheartedly disagree with you here (and I''m the one getting seperated hehe.. I should be jaded).

yes, it is mostly about her but we don''t live in the middle ages anymore and it should be as important and meaningful to the groom as it is to the bride.

PAR

We met in June of 2001. We got engaged in February 2003 on this trip to Astoria.

I would love to post the registration but don''t want to make the process cliche, I also have this feeling that although I knew about GWJ since its inception I only started posting in the past months and don''t think I''m worthy. Flux can be the next contestant on show us your wifes face.

Tonight, everyone starts sleeping in the motel though so there should be less stress even though I''ll be that much closer to *gulp* marriage.

Congrats! Enjoy it, and do keep in mind that it''s your day, and that your guests are there to celebrate with you - you''re not playing host. It''s fun; you''ll enjoy it.

"Par" wrote:

yes, it is mostly about her but we don''t live in the middle ages anymore and it should be as important and meaningful to the groom as it is to the bride.

I dunno, Par. Not saying that it wasn''t an important day for me, but my wife constantly says that if she could relive a single day, that''s the one she''d pick. I thought it was a fantstic day, and I''m thrilled to the gills with the result, but for me, the wedding was great because it means we''re married. She loved it because it was Her Wedding (and because it means we''re married :)).

"Eezy" wrote:

Flux can be the next contestant on show us your wifes face.

Face? FACE? That ain''t the show I''m waitin'' for...

Best advice I can give you is during the ceremony make sure you breathe! Sneak a few deep breaths in there once in a while and dear god don''t lock your knees, stay loose and keep your stance relaxed. The minister told us that and it ensures you stay on your feet and don''t pass out. Do a little leg shaking hokey-pokey a few minutes before you head out to take your place, it helps

Good luck and make that first kiss as man and wife count!

yes, it is mostly about her but we don''t live in the middle ages anymore and it should be as important and meaningful to the groom as it is to the bride.

sorry, if it came across the wrong way. I wholeheartly(sp) agree with you. It was as important to me, and meaningful. What i meant is that the day, the wedding, the ceremony, the pomp and pagentry is all about the bride. This is her day, her moment on the pedestal.

I can''t believe I am going to say this, but I agree with what Chumpy sez.

I dunno, Par. Not saying that it wasn''t an important day for me, but my wife constantly says that if she could relive a single day, that''s the one she''d pick. I thought it was a fantstic day, and I''m thrilled to the gills with the result, but for me, the wedding was great because it means we''re married. She loved it because it was Her Wedding (and because it means we''re married ).

I know what everyone means by the ''it''s for her'' thing and that''s cool.

This is probably the one day every girl looks forward to from the time she is a little girl.

And before I look like a total dick, thanks for all the congrats and advice.

Thats cool Garrad

I know what you and Chump are saying. It''s not as important for the groom as the bride but it is still one of the most important days of any guys life.

Maybe I mis-spoke what I meant to say. Don''t worry about anybody else but yourselves. All the guests, all the family, all the people working that day (officiator, flower people etc etc) will barely remember it a couple months down the road. You and your wife on the other hand will remember it forever. It never goes perfectly as planned, but its how you deal with the little things that dont go right that you will be remembered for (by both your wife and yourself).

i.e. I was the one to light the candle.. that was my job. Everything up to that point went flawlessly except my wifes father rushed her down the isle faster than the music played. Anyway, when I went to light the candle, there was nothing to light it with I had to ask the audience if I could borrow a lighter. Rather fond memory

PAR

"Par" wrote:

i.e. I was the one to light the candle.. that was my job. Everything up to that point went flawlessly except my wifes father rushed her down the isle faster than the music played. Anyway, when I went to light the candle, there was nothing to light it with I had to ask the audience if I could borrow a lighter. Rather fond memory

PAR

...Just about to place the ring on my wifes hand, when the minister says, ""oops, I have to bless those don''t I"".

There''s liable to be a small hiccup in every wedding, but I find them possitively memorable honestly.

Someone told me a few weeks ago, you remember your wedding for the little flaws that make it unique than for the stuff that it seems everyone likes to do.

The scariest part of my wedding was near the beginning. My (soon-to-be)wife had just finished walking up the aisle and the ring-bearer (Frodo?) had just sat down. Not two minutes later, I hear the distinctive sound of a ring hitting a church floor and rolling... I tried to ignore it, and just hoped that my ring would be ready when I needed it. (Thankfully, it was. :))

I got married about 2 years ago...From what I remember, the best thing about the day was when it was over & we came to the realization that all of the pain of planning and making the day happen was behind us.

A couple words of advice:

1. If you are having a reception, *MAKE SURE YOU EAT*. Everyone I know (Including my wife and I) forgets this, and you wind up incredibly hungry late at night. Case in point: We actually went through a Del Taco drive-through about 11:30 that night...not really what we had planned for the evening, if you know what I mean:)

2. Something major *will* go wrong...expect it to happen, and just be happy if it happens and nobody gets hurt. Smile:) Example: Walking down the aisle after the big moment, a friend caught my eye and gave the ""Good goin!"" head nod. Seeing this, I returned the nod, stepped on my wife''s dress, started to fall & pull her down with me. I *almost* grabbed for one of the candle stands to balance myself (lit candle falling on the ground would not have been good...plus, the stand was tied to all the others & would have pulled them down domino-style), before I was able to step out of the fall & save the day:) My wife of 2 minutes then announced to the crowd ""He''ll do anything for attention!""

Good luck to you!
-Fan

Grats man, that is awesome.

I will post pictures and a lengthy story of my ""weddingmoon"" in October.

I keep telling my fiance that it will here before she knows it and I think she finally started to believe me when we went to finalize our choices for wedding bands.

Best of luck and have a great time.

Best advice I can give you is during the ceremony make sure you breathe! Sneak a few deep breaths in there once in a while and dear god don''t lock your knees, stay loose and keep your stance relaxed.

Since I will be barefoot and standing in the sand during this part, I can only hope that if I pass out,the sand will make the fall a tad bit softer.

"Fanatka" wrote:

Seeing this, I returned the nod, stepped on my wife''s dress, started to fall & pull her down with me.

YOUR WIFE? Perhaps I was mislead by your forum name, but I thought you were a female.

"Flux" wrote:

Since I will be barefoot and standing in the sand during this part...

Was it Hawaii, or Alabama?

"Gorilla.800.lbs" wrote:

YOUR WIFE? Perhaps I was mislead by your forum name, but I thought you were a female.

Hmm....(looks down)...Yep...I''m Male!

Interesting...I''ve never heard that before. Fan is an old EQ alias that stuck around.

""Fanatka"" is a Russian female form for ""fanatic"".
This means you''re a female.
Sir, I''m afraid you have no choice but to comply.

"shihonage" wrote:

""Fanatka"" is a Russian female form for ""fanatic"".
This means you''re a female.
Sir, I''m afraid you have no choice but to comply.

You''re sh*tting me? It was seriously just an attempt at getting past the EQ name creation filters back in 1998....I guess I''m going to have to get more in touch with my feminine side.

I''m man enough. I think.

-Fan

"Fanatka" wrote:

I''m man enough. I think.

Busted!!!

"Gorilla.800.lbs" wrote:
"Flux" wrote:

Since I will be barefoot and standing in the sand during this part...

Was it Hawaii, or Alabama? :P

Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh... you ARE an ass!

"Gorilla.800.lbs" wrote:
"Fanatka" wrote:

Seeing this, I returned the nod, stepped on my wife''s dress, started to fall & pull her down with me.

YOUR WIFE? Perhaps I was mislead by your forum name, but I thought you were a female.

"Flux" wrote:

Since I will be barefoot and standing in the sand during this part...

Was it Hawaii, or Alabama? :P

It is the West Indies and I am from TN. At least we wear shoes in this state, not so sure about ''Bama.

"Fanatka" wrote:

I got married about 2 years ago...From what I remember, the best thing about the day was when it was over & we came to the realization that all of the pain of planning and making the day happen was behind us.

A couple words of advice:

1. If you are having a reception, *MAKE SURE YOU EAT*. Everyone I know (Including my wife and I) forgets this, and you wind up incredibly hungry late at night. Case in point: We actually went through a Del Taco drive-through about 11:30 that night...not really what we had planned for the evening, if you know what I mean:)

2. Something major *will* go wrong...expect it to happen, and just be happy if it happens and nobody gets hurt. Smile:) Example: Walking down the aisle after the big moment, a friend caught my eye and gave the ""Good goin!"" head nod. Seeing this, I returned the nod, stepped on my wife''s dress, started to fall & pull her down with me. I *almost* grabbed for one of the candle stands to balance myself (lit candle falling on the ground would not have been good...plus, the stand was tied to all the others & would have pulled them down domino-style), before I was able to step out of the fall & save the day:) My wife of 2 minutes then announced to the crowd ""He''ll do anything for attention!""

Good luck to you!
-Fan

There isn''t much to add to that! All very excellent advice. It''s been a little over three years here, but it sure as hell doesn''t feel like it. Looking back, it was a great day and all, but I think I''d have rather done it Flux''s way. If it hadn''t been for my wife''s extended family of thousands (haphazard mix of country and cajun... never a dull moment), I would''ve had her talked into it, too!

This is probably the one day every girl looks forward to from the time she is a little girl.

My girlfriend wants to avoid marriage as much as possible. She hates the thought and hates children. She''s constatly told me that she will never get married nor have children. She''s threatened tha she will kill any children that she will have.

She''s constatly told me that she will never get married nor have children. She''s threatened tha she will kill any children that she will have.

Give her a few years.

"Vector" wrote:
This is probably the one day every girl looks forward to from the time she is a little girl.

My girlfriend wants to avoid marriage as much as possible. She hates the thought and hates children. She''s constatly told me that she will never get married nor have children. She''s threatened tha she will kill any children that she will have.

You have a spooky girlfriend, man.

Congratulations man. Have fun on the honeymoon, it sounds like a blast.

yes, it is mostly about her but we don''t live in the middle ages anymore and it should be as important and meaningful to the groom as it is to the bride.

It is for the bride. Girls grow up and plan and think about this stuff. I have never thought about my wedding or anything.