Master of my domain. Sex stuff thread, I imagine

Weird topic ahead, I imagine. Ah, not that weird, but it's something I'd discuss with my friends when we're drunk.

I have not... ah... lost mastery of my domain since March 15. Anyone ever tried not having any sex or sexual stuff and see how long they last? I'm trying to reach at least 40 days, what with that whole easter and meditation thing that everyone here in Mexico seems to promote in this religious season. I'm not religious, I'm just exercising my willpower.

It's strange. I just seem to notice how sex is so tied into every interaction we have in society. Ads are incredibly sexual, it seems that, really, everyone's ultimate goal in life is just to have sex and have kids. Good thing, but it's strange seeing how primal we can be, pretending that this social construct we call civilization is not constantly being brought down by this same primitive tendency to just go "Ah, screw it all, I want ass!". Credit cards, food, cards, even computers are ultimately advertised as a way to get sex. And power. But power ultimately leads to the availability of sex, and perhaps that is the deeper lure there.

Also, I have developed an obsessive impulse to constantly and forcefully clean the silverware in my house.

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How about that Battlefiled Vietnam!? I love the Lang Vei map.

[edit] just kidding, Mex, didn''t mean to seem crass. I like sex. I recommend trying to have it often.

2 days and counting here!!!! 8)

He he. I''m suffering from lack of sleep (almost 24 hours straight, thanks to work), so maybe I don''t make any sense. I mean, I make less sense than usual. Which is not that easy to accomplish.

40 days.... bah,

I have been with my wife 15 years, I have 3 boys 6 and under...

once every 40 days is a great average

Another shining recommendation for marriage, I see

This thread puts the T in TMI.

Hell. I''m not married and once every 40 days is a pipe dream.

Your seeing sex ingrained in everything because you''ve been without it.

When smokers quit they notice people smoking and ads EVERYWHERE.

I''ve been married for some time now and it''s rare if we go more than five days.

My last marriage was at least every other day or she would get upset.

I''d love to say I''m a super great in bed, but that isn''t the case. Nothing to brag about there.

Before I wrote ""How to get your significant other into gaming"" I created ""How to get your woman to have more sex with you"".

It''d post it up, but it doesn''t seem the right place for it.

"Garrad" wrote:

40 days.... bah,

I have been with my wife 15 years, I have 3 boys 6 and under...

once every 40 days is a great average

That''s funny as hell you poor bastard!

I am definitley not master of my domain, but then like Kramer, I sure sleep good at night.

I did go a stretch about 4 years ago where I had no sex, no dates, couldn''t get a woman to look at me, nothing for about a year and a half. I don''t know what happened. I just seemed to lose my mojo for a stretch. It goes without saying that becoming master of my domain at that point was not even an option.

It''d post it up, but it doesn''t seem the right place for it.

gamerswith****jobs.com

Umm so what exactly is ''master of your domain''. At first I thought it was masturbation, but now that everyone is saying 40 days is no problem I am thinking it is refering to sex. So which is it?

"Ridlin" wrote:

Before I wrote ""How to get your significant other into gaming"" I created ""How to get your woman to have more sex with you"".

It''d post it up, but it doesn''t seem the right place for it.

Send it out in the Xbox Club newsletter or something. The important part is, post it somewhere. TIA.

Mex, I see no need for you to deprive yourself like this. I think this world would be a lot less messed up if people could just get some or at least ""release"" that pent-up energy.

Mex, I see no need for you to deprive yourself like this.

I think a periodic test of willpower is a good thing. In my idealistic youth I fasted once to better sympathize with those around the world less fortunate than I. Then again as an adult, but only to see if I had the same power of will.

After all... a mans got to know his limitations...

I think a greater show of respect is to not deprive myself of things I''m fortunate enough to have. I can promise you that those who do not have, would not choose to go without.

What does that even mean?

[size=5]Translation: I have no willpower[/size]

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What a way to go over the 1000 mark...

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Wheeeeeee!

What a way to go over the 1000 mark...

Rock. Grats.

Before I wrote ""How to get your significant other into gaming"" I created ""How to get your woman to have more sex with you"".

It''d post it up, but it doesn''t seem the right place for it.

I have no problem with it so long as the thread is clearly labeled as not work safe and everyone knows what they''re getting into.

Not that I need advice of course, I''m a super-stud.

"Certis" wrote:

Not that I need advice of course, I''m a super-stud.

Judging by your avatar, you are quite horny...for a Canadian.

Chicks always dig the bad guys...

Well seeing as this is a place for people like ourselves who enjoy games and gaming and the stereotypes that are often associated with those same people, ie: Nerdy, socially challenged, and so forth, I would have to say from the looks of it the majority of us do fairly well in the sex category.

Speaking for myself if I don''t get it every other day then I am usually not pleasant to be around, and I have been married before and am currently engaged again.

18 years. Beat that guys. (True most of those years I was developing the mental capacity to think)

25 years. I was glad I waited; nothing beats having your first time with a woman who''s totally worth it, and it''s all about the love.

I know, I know; take my overly sappy romantic butt out of this hyper-testosterone thread. Just wanted any women out there to know there are true romantics left in this world of the male persuasion.

Hey, I agree with you Farscry. I''m not getting any until Japan this summer and that''s completely cool with me. I''m waiting till I''m at my girlfriends home country and in a setting where she''s 100% comfortable. I''m the romantic one of the 2 of us too.

That''s awesome, Vector. Good to hear there are other romantics.

We''re a dying breed. Aren''t many left now-a-days.

Maybe us nerds just have the romantic gene. I''ve been with 2 women in my 26 years... both for love.

One is my fiance now... the previous one just didn''t work out after 2 years. And I wouldn''t have it any other way. Highschool and being a player just never appealed to me.

Same here, my time at highschool is almost up and I''ve been with one woman, and that started 6months ago.

"Ridlin" wrote:

I''d love to say I''m a super great in bed, but that isn''t the case. Nothing to brag about there.

Ridlin, because i goofed on the 8086 post, you may not care, but i have to say, making this statement indicates greatness.

aside from that, from now on, i will only be able to think of mex as ""mexual"".

"evilroy" wrote:
"Ridlin" wrote:

I''d love to say I''m a super great in bed, but that isn''t the case. Nothing to brag about there.

Ridlin, because i goofed on the 8086 post, you may not care, but i have to say, making this statement indicates greatness.

aside from that, from now on, i will only be able to think of mex as ""mexual"".

Truthfully, there is no one secret way to be ""great in bed."" It''s all about communicating and learning what your partner likes and what you like, and finding the ways to best satisfy each other.

I find that it turns me on more and makes it far more enjoyable when I focus on my partner; I get off on her getting off. I don''t know; probably has a lot to do with the fact that more than anything, I like making other people happy.

Don''t be afraid to get them talking about what they like; you''re both already about as vulnerable as you''ll ever be when you''re together anyway, so it''s not like you have anything to be afraid of.

Holy crap Farscry, Are You Me In The Future? You have the EXACT same thought pattern and as me when it comes to this.

"Vector" wrote:

Holy crap Farscry, Are You Me In The Future? You have the EXACT same thought pattern and as me when it comes to this.

Hey, cool! At least, I think that''s cool, as long as it isn''t creepy.

My background is from a very sexually repressed culture (southern uber-conservative Bible thumpers, I''m talking the uber conservative types). While I have by no means renounced my faith or anything, I''ve just found that it''s healthier to be open about sexual matters rather than just shoving them under the rug and ignoring them.

Not only that, but in any loving relationship, the other person''s happiness and well-being has to be your priority. It should be that way for both people.

Think about it; if you and your partner are both focused on encouraging, building up, and making the other person happy, then it creates a positive and self-renewing cycle. As opposed to a vicious negative cycle when the two people in a relationship are more concerned about their own needs.

I also believe that many relationships that suffer from sexual problems (including disinterest) is due to a lack of good communication about both people''s desires and likes/dislikes. Granted, there will be people who just aren''t interested in that part of a relationship, and if that''s true for both people, that''s a good thing, as neither will feel neglected or pressured. But I think that a lot of people mistakenly believe they have a lack of interest simply because they haven''t been in a relationship with a truly open and passionate sex life.

Last note: I firmly believe that love, real love, needs to come first before you can have a healthy, positive, affirming sexual side to the relationship. It may sound corny, but the act is as much an emotional one (even moreso) as a physical one for me. If a relationship isn''t secure, than sex can really throw a wrench into things and compound problems. I''ve seen that happen too many times with my friends, and it''s why I''ve been so selective about waiting for the right woman.

As I spoke about in my thread in the P&C forum last month, my relationship went through a break-up and while it may come back together in the future, I''m not going to bank on it. However, while I''m certainly human and have that drive and desire that we all do, I refuse to settle for a temporary physical fix by having a short-term fling with a substitute woman. I don''t want to cheapen it for myself.

There are many folks out there who can engage in casual sex without feeling remorse or other such feelings, and that''s ok. I simply know I''m not one of them; it has to be in the right context or else it will make me feel worse about myself.