JMJ has brought up the argument several times that the root of many problems in this country is a person lack of shame. I have thought about this for a few weeks because I agree with the sentiment but shame seemed like too much of a repressive word.
Many of us have agreed that there is a near epidemic of shunning personal responsibility. Whether personal or through parenting there always seems to be someone else to blame or society or big business.
So I am going to postulate what is the root of lack of shame and lack of owning up to mistakes; self importance. Self importance is the root since it causes people to have no shame or to not care. Look at Madonna and Brittany Spears kiss on national television. They certainly showed a lack of shame and didnt care about the millions of people who may or may not support lesbian rights but didnt want it shoved in their face on national TV. Madonna and Brittany's combined self importance forced it on the viewers without a care. Its one thing to be proud of who you are. Its another to shove it into the face of everyone you come in contact with.
Self importance also is the root of lack of personal responsibility. It cant possibly be your fault because you're number one and the single most important thing on your mind. I see it all the time on the roads and highways where drivers of SUVs put on their turn signal and just go, forcing others around them to respond. If there is a problem stemming from this, its because others on the road cant handle driving in the same league as you.
Self importance affects parenting as well. You have your mind set that you have raised your child to be perfect and any flaw stems from playing violent video games or TV or the failings of the public school system.
When will we wake up?