I stayed away from watching this show but I happened to flip through the channels last night. Ok so the tension grabbed me of the showdown between the last two girls.
The crazy bit is I can see why the show is a big success. In just one episode they managed to cram in so many real life emotions and situations it was like watching a whole season of some of the other fictional dramas.
In one episode, (mind you I'm sure the framed, edited and staged a lot of the content) there were so many themes and life messages introduced.
When the women meet the bachelors family, the posturing and communication lend clues to the real nature of the people involved. One of the girls is asked what she thinks of her rival. She is evasive yet polite, a 4 star performance. A very mature way to handle a difficult situation. Life lesson #1: Speaking ill of someone else in turn reflects poorly on you most of the time if you do it frequently or with zeal.
The next scenario involves one of the women and the discussion of an ex boyfriend with the bachelor's elder brother. The woman admits that she handled the break up poorly (a very mature reaction to an immature act that is well within a 23 year old's reality) In other words you cant really blame a 23 year old for handling a break up poorly as they are just coming out of a brutal stage in their life with regards to relationships. So, she gets points for acknoledging a mistake that a lot of people experience.
However, what words follow causes major damage to be done. It is insinuated that the girl does not have any plans to completely sever ties with the ex until her relationship with the bachelor is finalized. She is compounding a mistake she has previously acknowledged. In the woman's defense, things may have been blown out of proportion. Life lesson #2: If its not important dont mention it. Or, if you mention it, it is probably more important than you think and you should address it soon.
This same situation extends further as the elder brother is obliged to give his perspective to his brother, the bachelor. Its amazing for in this instance the elder brother with a mere couple of minutes of screen time becomes the hero. This show is almost staged like real world Shakespeare. Someone like Mercutio jumps into my mind. He grasps center stage, delivers the voice of reason and dies, or in this case is never in any more clips of the show. Life lesson #3: Your family knows you.
The bachelor is torn by this evidence and per his brothers advice confronts this issue. He has stated in numerous side clips that this woman shares a great amount of chemistry with him. No more does this become apparent than when he is discussing the ex boyfriend situation with her. The woman explains a little and downplays the situation. Shes feels the situation has gone out of control. But at certain points she feels threatened and is defensive. Honestly, this seems her true nature and makes her seemingly pleasant demeanor stick out like a sore thumb. Life lesson #4: people's reaction to adversity can tell you a lot about them.
Unfortunately, when shown clips of the bachelors response to the conversation, he feels much more comfortable about the situation and reminds us what great chemistry exists. That chemistry is blinding him. You can see it in his responses to the woman when she is being defensive and is on the verge of insulting the bachelor's family. You can tell she knows this would spell doom and is very uncomfortable resisting the temptation. Life lesson #5: Hormones taint perspective. See Life lesson #3
The climax to the show is every man's struggle. Do I marry for friendship or for chemistry? Do I follow my heart and my mind, or do I follow my heart and my hormones? Is chemistry physical and mental?
The bachelor chose wisely. He chose frienship. He chose a woman who changed her perspective when the evening dealt them bum deck of cards. He chose a woman who refrained from insulting someone she didn't care for. He chose upbeat and intelligent over spicy and youthful.
His family knew the right choice and trusted the bachelor to come to the decision on his own. He did. Kudos to everyone involved, this is a true happy ending.