I'm pretty sure people never fulfill their New Year's resolutions. They're projections of the person we aspire to be, and we're not that person. They're expressions of the want to want something we don't want. We want to want to exercise every day, but oh god we don't want to exercise today. Self-improvement is a quagmire. Changing is hard, and more to the point it's often simply daft. Surveying our lives from the vantage of the New Year's hangover, we tend to adopt the perspective of distant social planners, removed from the lived enjoyment of our vices and failings and so not appreciating how necessary and good they really are. From this far perspective, we might tell ourselves that there's no point in having a couple microbrews after work, and so we shouldn't do it -- a mistake of judgment we'd never make while actually in the grips of something cool and relaxing.
In that spirit, here are some resolutions about the kind of gamer I want to be -- not the one I am:
- Play socially, not anti-socially. A marathon session alone on my couch does nothing to level up my real-world friendships. Try to game with friends in person, or people I know online (not randoms). This has an added benefit: if I find myself compulsively playing something that is not actually worthy, a watching friend can intervene.
- Don't pursue optional goals in games unless they provide concrete value. It's not enough that the gameplay is enjoyable -- it has to be so good that I can't get enough of it playing only the main game, which should be rare.
- Don't play games where the only hook is accumulating in-game rewards. Be suspicious of games that have an especially rich variety of color-coded loot, skill trees, etc., because they are probably trying to trick me into playing more than I really enjoy. Gaming is not my job.
- Write more.
How about you folks? Are you happy with the shape of your gaming habits, or are there things you would change?