Midlife Crisis...Does it really exist?

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At the ripe old age of 35 I guess I'm experiencing what some might call a midlife crisis. I have the sudden urge to trade-in my paid off truck to get a sportscar, move to a more hip part of town, and buy new furniture and stereo equipment. What the h*ll is wrong with me? I always heard about 30/40-somethings going through some phase where they get a little loco. I just thought it was because they had been married to long

Anyone else gone through midlife chaos and lived to tell about it? I always thought it was bunk but now I'm starting to wonder.

It's starting to sink in that you're getting older. So, men tend to make some sort of desperate attempt to show the world that they're still young. Sportscars, new clothes, chasing after 21 year old women, etc... Anything to show that they're still virile and able to compete with the men in their 20s. It'll pass, and you'll wonder why you ever wanted to be that young, or hang out with that age group again.

kellmeister wrote:

Anyone else gone through midlife chaos and lived to tell about it? I always thought it was bunk but now I'm starting to wonder.

I think you're too young to be going through a mid-life crisis. What you have is the garden variety desire to get laid.

Nope. i'm in my early 20's so I get to chase young college girls all day long...*if my gf lets me*

It does exist- just check towards the end of the Burnout Thursday Stew thread in GAMESP/PLATS for proof. ( *the part about showtunes )

Oooh... a DDT in disguise!

Splurg a little, but don't let yourself get into debt.

Think about what thoughts or happenings in your life are triggering these new thoughts for you.

Perhaps you need a vacation.

At 38, I got my (left) ear peirced.

At 40, I had a kid. Well, my wife had a kid for me.

At 44, I got my first motorcycle and started longsword fencing.

I'm 45 and can't wait to see what'll happen next!

I'm only 26 and can't relate to the mid-life crises' but I've been kinda of going through a quarter-life crisis for lack of a better phrase. I'm starting to feel like I'm wasted the past 5+ years at my dead end job, I'm not sure how I'll break into the video game industry, and I'm starting to get into a marriage/family situation that's requiring a lot of time and effort. At this point, I want to start making changes in my life now so I can avoid a WTF do I do know type of crisis later down the road but my time is spead so thin that it's tough to do any real thorough planning. *stops rambling*

Marsman wrote:

At 38, I got my (left) ear peirced.

At 40, I had a kid. Well, my wife had a kid for me.

At 44, I got my first motorcycle and started longsword fencing.

I'm 45 and can't wait to see what'll happen next! :D

Penile enlargement?

Gorilla.800.lbs wrote:
Marsman wrote:

At 38, I got my (left) ear peirced.

At 40, I had a kid. Well, my wife had a kid for me.

At 44, I got my first motorcycle and started longsword fencing.

I'm 45 and can't wait to see what'll happen next! :D

Penile enlargement? :)

He's already into longsword fencing...

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I don't need a mid-life crisis to buy more toys. I'm a total technology whore already, so it kind of scares me what I'll be looking at when I hit my crisis. Maybe a speedboat with front mounted machine guns? A house-trained tiger?

I'm hitting 30 in 2 weeks and don't feel weird at all. If anything, it's all the other people around me going "wow, 30.. yikes", as if it's some scary, terrible experience.

My hair started receding several years ago, and I've already put on a bit of "office worker chub", so I guess that means I'll probably end up with some weird growth on my body the second I hit 30.

Swat wrote:

My hair started receding several years ago, and I've already put on a bit of "office worker chub", so I guess that means I'll probably end up with some weird growth on my body the second I hit 30.

Check your ears and back. I hear hair likes to migrate, not recede.

Chumpy_McChump wrote:
Gorilla.800.lbs wrote:
Marsman wrote:

At 38, I got my (left) ear peirced.

At 40, I had a kid. Well, my wife had a kid for me.

At 44, I got my first motorcycle and started longsword fencing.

I'm 45 and can't wait to see what'll happen next! :D

Penile enlargement? :)

He's already into longsword fencing... :twisted:

I got a good chuckle out of that...sig worthy

I'm 29 and I'm freaking out the closer I get to 30. I don't know if it's just a matter of hitting that age or what, but I have this urge to get a flashier car, flashier clothes, that sort of thing. I already have a tattoo (the Symbol of Torment from Planescape: Torment!) and an ear piercing from back when I was in my early twenties so I can't do that. And I get told by lots of people that they're surprised at my age since I look and act quite young.

But still, I'm scared as hell about getting older so I do think the midlife crisis does exist it just hits us at different ages. I'd say it's when we realize we've hit a certain age and that can be different for everybody.

I f*cking hate ear hair. I f*cking f*cking hate ear hair. The ones I get grow about 2 1/2 inches overnight, and grow by themselves. f*cking hair, f*cking sh*t f*ck.

*edit I feel like I should paint myself green, talk backwards, and give sage advice to whiney Jedi padooin sh*tters.

MaxShrek wrote:

I f*cking hate ear hair. I f*cking f*cking hate ear hair. The ones I get grow about 2 1/2 inches overnight, and grow by themselves. f*cking hair, f*cking sh*t f*ck.

Amen. Don't forget the random eyebrow hair that grows three times longer than it's buddies, and it grows in a different direction.

You mean like when you lay in bed at night unable to sleep, fearing when you are going die and realizing that you really haven't done anything with your life to improve the world around you?

RichyRambo wrote:

You mean like when you lay in bed at night unable to sleep, fearing when you are going die and realizing that you really haven't done anything with your life to improve the world around you?

Nope, we call that Sunday. It's just the fear of the work week approaching.

Hemidal wrote:
RichyRambo wrote:

You mean like when you lay in bed at night unable to sleep, fearing when you are going die and realizing that you really haven't done anything with your life to improve the world around you?

Nope, we call that Sunday. It's just the fear of the work week approaching.

Exactly.

CrashTesla wrote:

I'm 29 and I'm freaking out the closer I get to 30.

Same here. Being 29 really sucks. Being 28 was ok. Being 29 means I am 30. This means, next July my family is going to sit around the table and my aunt is going to make some sort of toast while my younger cousins will get all depressed because I'm freaking 30. During the toast she will say something like "I wish you would find yourself a nice Russian girl", and many other nice things that I really don't want to hear.

Everyone is so concerned about me "finding the right girl", they all assume that I'm desperately sniffing out every corner and not finding any. I get phone numbers that some girl's mother gave to my mother, and Emails that some girl's grandma gave to my grandfather. They don't know anything about these girls, but "here's a random girl's phone number. call. please.". And they don't understand why I take is as an insult. Still, they get all upset, so I call/Email the girl only to discover that she's some generic putz. Is that what my family thinks of me ? Really ? Frak that.

kellmeister wrote:

Anyone else gone through midlife chaos

Yep.

kellmeister wrote:

and lived to tell about it?

Too soon to know.

does it count if you just crossed 30 and you're afraid you'll never grow up to be a "real" person?\

IDUNWANNA!

Dr.Ghastly wrote:
Hemidal wrote:
RichyRambo wrote:

You mean like when you lay in bed at night unable to sleep, fearing when you are going die and realizing that you really haven't done anything with your life to improve the world around you?

Nope, we call that Sunday. It's just the fear of the work week approaching.

Exactly.

Thanks, I've been trying to peg down that horrible, nauseating feeling I get about mid-afternoon every Sunday.

I'd get a Tattoo or something, but i have this really weird aversion to doing so. I don't like to follow the crowd, so by getting a tattoo, I'd feel like I've conformed to every other person born between 1976 and 1990. It's kind of ironic when not getting a tatoo is more of a non-conformist statement!

Ah who am I kidding. I'll probably get Mario on my ass cheek or something.

pol wrote:

does it count if you just crossed 30 and you're afraid you'll never grow up to be a "real" person?

No, that's something different from a midlife crisis. When are you young whippersnappers going to understand that each age carries its own peculiar form of ennui or agony? Life is suffering. If God didn't want you to suffer, He wouldn't have invented tequila to ease the pain. Or the women to cause it.

Swat wrote:

I'd get a Tattoo or something, but i have this really weird aversion to doing so. I don't like to follow the crowd, so by getting a tattoo, I'd feel like I've conformed to every other person born between 1976 and 1990. It's kind of ironic when not getting a tatoo is more of a non-conformist statement!

Your aversion is not weird. Or at least, not unique. This is the same reason why I'll never get a tattoo. Unless they go out of style and everyone becomes straightedge, or something.

MaxShrek wrote:

I f*cking hate ear hair. I f*cking f*cking hate ear hair. The ones I get grow about 2 1/2 inches overnight, and grow by themselves. f*cking hair, f*cking sh*t f*ck.

I hear ya. Also, the eyebrow hairs are starting to get uppity.

Hemidal wrote:
RichyRambo wrote:

You mean like when you lay in bed at night unable to sleep, fearing when you are going die and realizing that you really haven't done anything with your life to improve the world around you?

Nope, we call that Sunday. It's just the fear of the work week approaching.

Yep Sunday nights are the worst. Its when it starts creeping in regularly that I feel half way done.

pol wrote:

does it count if you just crossed 30 and you're afraid you'll never grow up to be a "real" person?\r

IDUNWANNA!

You're as young as you want to be. This site pretty much epitomizes that! Losing the desire to play, or feeling you have to stop to be an 'adult', would be the worst.

I turned 30 in October, and the whole thing didn't phase me. I guess for me, since I'm still just a big kid at heart, none of this getting older crap phases me. I love my wife, job, home and life. I don't think I would trade any of it in. Well, maybe a game that I'm done playing, but other then that. One thing that I have learned being a geek means is that I am living in an extended childhood. I don't really think I'm ever going to grow up and worry about getting older.

I do hate the ear hair though, especially when we are out and my wife says something like "Remind me to trim your ears tomorrow." Then I'm all self conscious about it. But, what bugs me more then ear hair? Nose hair. Those things are so annoying. I am very OCD about trimming them.

shihonage wrote:
Swat wrote:

I'd get a Tattoo or something, but i have this really weird aversion to doing so. I don't like to follow the crowd, so by getting a tattoo, I'd feel like I've conformed to every other person born between 1976 and 1990. It's kind of ironic when not getting a tatoo is more of a non-conformist statement!

Your aversion is not weird. Or at least, not unique. This is the same reason why I'll never get a tattoo. Unless they go out of style and everyone becomes straightedge, or something.

That's good to know. My girlfriend has a few tattoos, as does her mother, father and sister. It's a tattoo family. I constantly get "why don't you just get one", which is probably why I resist so much.

Plus, like every goddamned crime show out there talks about "he was identified by his tattoo", so if I ever want to "go off the grid", having a f*cking picture the size of Texas doesn't exactly help. Not that I think about these things.. much..

I personally think the coolest people with tattoos are the ones who got them before they become such a hipster/punker fashion statement. The ones they got in prison, they got their buddy to do when they were drunk, or at least if they were in the f*ckin' marines, then it's ok by me. I think it's the mass of suburban tweenies getting all these new tats that causes my bile to rise.

/Lewis Black Off

Back on topic though, does anyone else have abnormal back hair? Like on the top, big patches on the side, but none in the middle? You'd think we'd be designed with a more fuller coverage at least!

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