Going through "separation" with wife.

1Dgaf wrote:

They may be ready now, but Roo's going through a rough patch and so needs gentle handlin'.

But the school year is almost over! Time is of the essence!

You step away from your thread for a couple days and...

I am so glad that I'm starting my teaching career at age 34. I can honestly say, my general reaction to h.s. girls is, "I can't believe her mom let her out of the house wearing that." So thankfully, it looks like I am cut out for teaching choir, cause we generally have 3 times as many girls in choir as guys. My student teaching break down was:

beginning guys choir: 12 guys
beginning girls choir: 35 girls
intermediate girls choir: 30 girls
advanced mixed choir: 20 girls, 20 guys

Also, the first thing we do is physical warmups, which include: lots of stretching exercises, where as I student taught, many girls realized that those shirts that don't quite reach the waist line, go very high if you're doing this correctly; tall posture with rib cage fully expanded (i know female choir teachers who literally say things like, "get yer boobs up there girls."); and of course back rubs. No, not for the teacher...
One of my challenges as a male choir teacher is making girls *not* self-conscious about all this. It's a whacky, whacky world sometimes.

As for the money bits, you really would have to know my wife and I. If anything she will try to give me too much, as she's been making 10-15k more than me a year since I started going back to school. It will not be an issue. I do not need a lawyer. We are still very good friends in ways that would matter if I was worried at all about that stuff. I'm not. I do appreciate you looking out for me, and I did mention to her that I was getting advice about protecting my interest in house, etc. (which is in both our names, mostly in case one of us died, advice given to us by friends). She had been given much the similar advice. And we both acknowledged...we just don't need to go there. Like I said, if anything she'll be too generous, and already she's talked about direct depositing to an account for *me* should things go that way, until I'm doing well enough as a teacher.

my wife said something (early on) about how this is extra hard cause i'm such a good guy. Which didn't make me feel better. But further that I wouldn't have any problems finding someone. To which I responded, that basically no, it wouldn't be hard for me to find *someone* (and I didn't mention that I do fall in love easily), but I had already found my best friend to marry, and how exactly am I supposed to find a new best friend who is all of the other things to me as well. That will be hard, and I don't know if it will be possible.

Hey wow, First. I hate when women use that line. It's like they're abstaining from blame by saying, hey, it's kewl, he's nice, he'll find someone else so it doesn't matter if I screw him over.

Second... that sounds an AWFUL lot like the conversation me and my ex had at the end of our break up. WEIRD! Hey, Taco, do I get to reach around? I don't know that there'd ever be a time I'd WANT to, but it'd be nice to have the option occasionally.[/quote]

Night of the Living Thread - and the messed up quoting confuses me as to what the post is supposed to be.

Man, I want more pictures of hot Greek babes.

And also Roo back I guess.

*Legion* wrote:

Night of the Living Thread - and the messed up quoting confuses me as to what the post is supposed to be.

Yes, and what does "kewl" mean?

The Fly wrote:

Yes, and what does "kewl" mean?

Ask Demo.

Chumpy_McChump wrote:
The Fly wrote:

Yes, and what does "kewl" mean?

Ask Demo.

Kewl is just a different way to spell cool for me. Something about the spelling cool just doesn't sit right with me. Maybe it's the fact that it shares the spelling with the word meaning to be like colder than lukewarm but warmer than cold. I dunno. It was just something I did one day online that has been continued since without any real reason.

The Fly wrote:
*Legion* wrote:

Night of the Living Thread - and the messed up quoting confuses me as to what the post is supposed to be.

Yes, and what does "kewl" mean?

Helpful context clues contained within.

Gorilla.800.lbs wrote:

Love, in my book, is "desire to sacrifice yourself for the wellbeing of the object of your affection". If you love someone, you NEED, you DESIRE to spend time with them and make them happier.

Gorilla I love your style man. I've only talked to you an couple of times in BF2 and read some of your posts but I can tell that you've got a great soul.

Anyway, back to the issue at hand. I'm sorry to hear that your guts are getting kicked out right now. I've been there. About 12 years ago I was engaged - having just gotten out of the Army - and life was great. My high school sweetheart wanted to marry me and we were young and living life to the fullest. Then I stepped into the Twilight Zone. We were both about 21 or 22 and at somepoint we started to not quite gel. I still loved her to the extreme, which may have been part of the problem. It was almost an infatuation. This made the pain from her deciding that we shouldn't get married all the more unbearable. I sunk into a lot of bad sh*t and it took about two years to get over. The only advice I have is to keep your self respect. Don't forget that you have value and that aside from being open to what she has to say and being a caring person there is very little you can do to "hold on" to someone. This usually ends up with the person feeling suffocated especially if what they want is more space.

I know that right now you are hurting bad. I'm sorrry, I truly am, but if you could have seen me when Mary bifurcated my heart all those years ago you would have thought that I was never going to get over it but I have - in spades. It was the best thing she could have done for both of us. I'm married now to a great little redheaded witch and she has taught me more about love and understanding without even trying than i could have dreamed possible. So in final analysis, it is a cliche but "time heals all wounds."

Podunk wrote:
The Fly wrote:
*Legion* wrote:

Night of the Living Thread - and the messed up quoting confuses me as to what the post is supposed to be.

Yes, and what does "kewl" mean?

Helpful context clues contained within.

How do you find stuff like this?

Markly wrote:

How do you find stuff like this?

It's a gift.

or a curse?

Or both.

Does anyone know how Roo is doing. I didn't start posting on this site until way after this, but I can't recall ever seeing any of his post. I just feel bad for him and was wondering how everything worked out.

He moved to Greece to have sex three times an hour with his high school sweetheart.

Edwin wrote:

He moved to Greece to have sex three times an hour with his high school sweetheart.

Well that would explain why no one has heard from him.

The saga continues here with pictures eventually showing up here.

Certis, Pyro, lock 'er down (please).

Yodha wrote:
Gorilla.800.lbs wrote:

Love, in my book, is "desire to sacrifice yourself for the wellbeing of the object of your affection". If you love someone, you NEED, you DESIRE to spend time with them and make them happier.

Gorilla I love your style man. I've only talked to you an couple of times in BF2 and read some of your posts but I can tell that you've got a great soul.

I've always liked Heinlein's defenition of love: When your happiness is dependent upon the happiness of another.

Morrolan wrote:

I've always liked Heinlein's defenition of love: When your happiness is dependent upon the happiness of another.

That sounds more like co-dependence to me.

Certis, Pyro, lock 'er down (please).

Right away, gov'