Random thing you loathe right now.

My lack of practical or useful intelligence and talent compared to my other family members.

We had to say goodbye to our oldest dog, yesterday. He was a good boy and we had him for 12 wonderful years. His decline was both rapid and drawn out, and at times, especially yesterday, we worried if we were making the right decisions. He had been yo-yo-ing for months, but yesterday, after deciding to commit, we got proof that it was the right decision. Spoilering for graphic medical description:

Spoiler:

when his bowels went about 5 minutes after his passing, it was just a stream of blood. Not much of anything else.

. Because of what was mentioned in the spoiler, we can at least rest easy knowing we let him rest at the appropriate time, despite him having a last hurrah a few hours before, jumping a 4 foot gate and eating all of our muffins. I know I mentioned this on the discord but I know some of the goodjers who know him don’t frequent the discord (afaik) so I thought I’d post here as well. He even got to have his favorite non family human present.

Sorry for your loss Doc. Give my best to Ro and Kiri as well

I'm so sorry Dr.Incurable. Sounds like he had a great life.

I have frozen shoulder. It's super painful and apparently not a quick thing to go away. No idea what caused it. As what may be a coincidence it started a couple of weeks after my second Pfizer shot. I could tell right where the shot was. The pain got worse and eventually went from shoulder to elbow. Since I thought it was "Covid arm" I dealt with it until it really started getting worse. I go to PT twice a week but sleep has been a huge issue. And to learn that this could last 1-3 years ... WONDERFUL! (ugh)

DeThroned, I had that happen after a flu shot that was given by a person standing over me while I was seated. Apparently, it happens when something is injected too high up and pierces a bursa in the shoulder. Took me about 18 months for it to mostly calm down. You should be able to get your elbow above your shoulder in a few weeks, though. Oh, and the big pain goes away fairly quickly as I recall, it's more of a motion/weakness problem after that.

Sorry you are dealing with this.

Is that what a frozen shoulder is?? I had it for about 12 months after I had my gallbladder out. I was quietly worrying that it was an undocumented long-term surgical complication but over time I started to be able to lift my arm higher and higher…. Now I only get a twinge when I fully extend my arm out and move it directly up.

I’ll be doing some reading on that tonight, thanks for the educational loathe!

I have not heard it called that myself, but it fits the symptoms of damaging a bursa, at least the ones that I underwent. I am not a doctor but I did live with this for a few years (and it went away).

Nope. Turns out that "frozen shoulder" is adhesive capsulitis, while what I had was a bursitis. The good thing is that the former seems to be a bit easier to treat with therapy and drugs, while it lasts about the same time.

See? I really am not a doctor. :-0

Robear wrote:

Nope. Turns out that "frozen shoulder" is adhesive capsulitis, while what I had was a bursitis. The good thing is that the former seems to be a bit easier to treat with therapy and drugs, while it lasts about the same time.

See? I really am not a doctor. :-0

Today has been an especially bad day. It hurts a lot. It's also pretty crappy weather out so I don't know if that has anything to do with it. Nothing has really helped. However, I'm wondering if in the future I'll be able to tell it's going to rain before it does. I guess I can consider that a superpower, right?

Mildly tmi stuff

Spoiler:

I was a stupid idiot and guilted myself with 'you better do this all right now instead of leaving it until later' and went to pathology to get the pee cup when I'll just have to go back after I've filled it, I should have just gone right home and come back when the pee was ready. Also I have a back injury and can't drive and I want to pick up something important from the post office today as well and they close early. Wahwahwah woe is me.

Got a friend I care a lot about. Sorta delt a short straw in a lot of ways, and I want to be there to help.

But every time we chat, it's always "woe is me", "my life is so hard", "I'm so poor" etc. They don't really take any steps to better themselves or do anything about the situation they are in, and there's only so much I can say or do. There's often an underlying thread of them asking for money or food, and at first I was happy to help, but it's just constant now.

If not that, it's just a torrent of memes and deflections. It's really draining me, and their constant negativity is so fatiguing. They often complain that their friends abandon them and this is exactly why.

Just....Ugh, pulling my hair out trying to both be someone they can come to for help, but also trying to keep myself afloat. I'm starting to just distance myself from them which makes me feel awful.

A_Unicycle wrote:

Just....Ugh, pulling my hair out trying to both be someone they can come to for help, but also trying to keep myself afloat. I'm starting to just distance myself from them which makes me feel awful.

Set some healthy and firm boundaries with this person. Healthy for YOU not for them. Though in the long run it will be healthy for the both of you.

Be clear and specific with this person about those boundaries. Clear is kind. Unclear is unkind.

Do this soon. It will be a very difficult conversation. You will need to be brave. Stay kind and firm. If they have a strong emotional reaction, try not to get caught up in that.

Good luck.

They need a therapist, not a friend.

Sigh

I know both of these things. Having a difficult conversation is being a better friend than ignoring it and letting it get me down.

Thanks folks.

DC Malleus wrote:

Is that what a frozen shoulder is?? I had it for about 12 months after I had my gallbladder out. I was quietly worrying that it was an undocumented long-term surgical complication but over time I started to be able to lift my arm higher and higher…. Now I only get a twinge when I fully extend my arm out and move it directly up.

I’ll be doing some reading on that tonight, thanks for the educational loathe!

My wife had her gall bladder out a few years ago, and before that the doctors told her that referred pain to the right shoulder blade was a classic symptom of an inflamed gall bladder. The phrenic nerve runs through the chest into the neck and is apparently the cause.

My new work has four separate places to put in ticket requests for various things. Of which I have to used all four and am still not done. This is probably the least organized I've seen. Anything that should normally be done in a day tops takes extra long. Not a great start. Coworkers are nice though and no one is blaming me for this.

I’m so sorry Doc.

Google Fi ads can go to hell.

Puberty.

SallyNasty wrote:

Puberty.

Wow, you are younger than I thought

Lol, not me going through it. My oldest. She is a monster right now.

SallyNasty wrote:

Puberty.

Hell of a long game, picking that forum name years ahead of this post.

Pres. Biden’s vaccination mandate for Federal workers and contractors looked to be a good thing. But with the recent guidance, it looks like the company I work for will be covered. Maybe a fifth or more of the company, including a number of critical folks, are adamantly against vaccination. Starting to sweat about what they will choose to do. Apparently some have been reaching out to similar companies to see if they will abide by the mandate.

Meanwhile, getting my “at-risk” Pfizer booster this afternoon… I’m always really sad to see some really smart people go along with public madness.

It is down right depressing in a time when things are dire and dour enough on their own.

Robear wrote:

Pres. Biden’s vaccination mandate for Federal workers and contractors looked to be a good thing. But with the recent guidance, it looks like the company I work for will be covered. Maybe a fifth or more of the company, including a number of critical folks, are adamantly against vaccination. Starting to sweat about what they will choose to do. Apparently some have been reaching out to similar companies to see if they will abide by the mandate.

Meanwhile, getting my “at-risk” Pfizer booster this afternoon… I’m always really sad to see some really smart people go along with public madness.

My brother, sister, and brother-in-law are all in this group of morons. Got into a big argument with my sister over it because she is a nurse. I told her if she doesn't trust the medical science then she has no business being a nurse and I hope she loses her job and her license. My brother and brother-in-law are both ex-military and both work as civilian contractors on the local Air Force base and both had to work their asses off to get where they are today and they seem willing to just throw it all away. They both got god only knows what all shot into them when they got deployed overseas during the war in Iraq/Afghanistan and they were all super gung ho about it. Oh yea and all of them are f*cking MAGA/QANON idiots of course.

Yeah, for my Iraq deployment I received five vaccinations in one sitting: Anthrax, typhoid, hepatitis B, small pox, and influenza.

Combat veterans upset over the covid vaccine are idiots.

JLS wrote:

Yeah, for my Iraq deployment I received five vaccinations in one sitting: Anthrax, typhoid, hepatitis B, small pox, and influenza.

Combat veterans upset over the covid vaccine are idiots.

To coin a phrase from Cody Johnston; VACCINES ARE DOPE!!

My best friend is being a sh*thead to his wife and kids. It’s making me very sad. He hasn’t tried to call me which is a good thing because I don’t want to talk to him right now. It’s also an indicator that he knows he’s wrong.

My wife and I are just over 1 week overdue with our second child. This alone is enough for a loathe, but our hospital has screwed us around too. We had an appointment last week - at the end of the appointment we scheduled an ultrasound and another appointment to discuss the results of the ultrasound. Only they completely screwed up the whole thing. They didn't tell radiology what they wanted to look at, they scheduled the hospital appointment with a mid-wife and not a doctor. So we spent the day between appointments, only to find they were entirely pointless. Not only that, but we also apparently require much more urgent and extensive scans and monitoring that was supposed to be scheduled last appointment. As if we weren't anxious enough!

Really hoping that all of this will just be something we either laugh about or forget entirely in a few months time.