Questions you want answered.

maverickz wrote:

Our entire household was very sad when Cameron Boyce died.

I didn't notice until recently how phenomenal of a dancer he was. He was a real talent.

Thanks Malor for looking that up.

Malor wrote:
Robear wrote:

Filmed, what, a few days or weeks before he died?

I did some digging, and June Carter Cash (the lady on the stairs, looking at him) passed away about three months after the video was shot, and Johnny followed at about seven.

Trent Reznor wrote:

"I'd been friends with Rick Rubin for several years. He called me to ask how I'd feel if Johnny Cash covered Hurt. I said I'd be very flattered but was given no indication it would actually be recorded.

"Two weeks went by. Then I got a CD in the post. I listened to it and it was very strange. It was this other person inhabiting my most personal song.

"I'd known where I was when I wrote it. I know what I was thinking about. I know how I felt. Hearing it was like someone kissing your girlfriend. It felt invasive".

It was the moving video, though, that made it all fall into place for the Nine Inch Nails star: "It really, really made sense and I thought what a powerful piece of art.

"I never got to meet Johnny but I'm happy I contributed the way I did. It felt like a warm hug. For anyone who hasn't seen it, I highly recommend checking it out. I have goose bumps right now thinking about it.

"Having Johnny Cash, one of the greatest singer-songwriters of all time, want to cover your song, that's something that matters to me. It's not so much what other people think but the fact that this guy felt that it was worthy of interpreting.

"He said afterwards it was a song that sounds like one he would have written in the '60s and that's wonderful".

From: https://www.musicradar.com/news/guit...

ClockworkHouse wrote:
Mantid wrote:
ClockworkHouse wrote:

As long as people understand that MBTI and similar tests are basically Buzzfeed "Which Descendants character are you?" quizzes in kicky heels, I don't see the harm in them.

Oh! Carlos!

Really, I'm a Doug.

I thought the only Descendents character was Milo.

What game fills the hole in my gamer soul?

I want a rpg game like new vegas but I also want a game with the economics planning of X3tc. I am not sure what games would fill this hole.

I don’t know of a game that can scratch both of those itches. I can say, though, that I’ve been playing X4 for a while now and it’s a return to form for Egosoft.

Kenshi, maybe?

Stealthpizza wrote:

What game fills the hole in my gamer soul?

I want a rpg game like new vegas but I also want a game with the economics planning of X3tc. I am not sure what games would fill this hole.

Ultima 7

bekkilyn wrote:
Mixolyde wrote:

Can't believe that MBTI throwaway joke spawned so much discussion. Then again, it's GWJ. This is the way.

My wife is the ENTJ that knows ENTJs are "the best" type and wants to talk your ear off about it and, oh, did she mention that female ENTJs are super rare because society beats down talkative assertive women, etc.

I am the type that thinks all personality type stuff is BS and hate being put in a box. INFP, I think? ISFP some days.

You could look at it as putting you into a category or a box OR you could instead view it as a way of looking at yourself (or at least the persona you tend to use to make your way in the world), your strengths, weaknesses, etc. and using it a stepping-stone for making positive life changes. Everything doesn't need to be purely scientific to be useful in life.

Of course, I primarily responded to your post to say that your wife IS (mostly) right! :)

ENTJ wife here. Rebecca, I think we can be friends.

Anyone use those plastic door cover decorations? Are they hard to put up? I'm not talking about the vinyl ones that stick on like giant stickers.

Boss wrote:
bekkilyn wrote:
Mixolyde wrote:

Can't believe that MBTI throwaway joke spawned so much discussion. Then again, it's GWJ. This is the way.

My wife is the ENTJ that knows ENTJs are "the best" type and wants to talk your ear off about it and, oh, did she mention that female ENTJs are super rare because society beats down talkative assertive women, etc.

I am the type that thinks all personality type stuff is BS and hate being put in a box. INFP, I think? ISFP some days.

You could look at it as putting you into a category or a box OR you could instead view it as a way of looking at yourself (or at least the persona you tend to use to make your way in the world), your strengths, weaknesses, etc. and using it a stepping-stone for making positive life changes. Everything doesn't need to be purely scientific to be useful in life.

Of course, I primarily responded to your post to say that your wife IS (mostly) right! :)

ENTJ wife here. Rebecca, I think we can be friends.

Welcome to GWJ, friend!

maverickz wrote:
Stealthpizza wrote:

What game fills the hole in my gamer soul?

I want a rpg game like new vegas but I also want a game with the economics planning of X3tc. I am not sure what games would fill this hole.

Ultima 7

Suikoden 2

Sometimes on this forum I will have read all threads on my "recent activity" tab that show new replies, and yet the icon on the top right will remain highlighted in red. Typically, I finally manage to clear the highlight by looking through my recent activity for a thread which has a "Last Reply" date that does not appear to be in chronological order (e.g. thread 1 last reply is October 21, thread 2 last reply is October 4, thread 3 last reply is October 20). Even though that thread does not have a red highlighted icon on the right side and does not have a "new reply" indicator on the right, once I visit the thread, it will finally clear the red highlighted icon on the top right. Yet though that method usually works for me, it doesn't always, and sometimes I'll see a last reply date that's wildly out of sequence (on my second page of recent posts I have one thread where the last reply is from July while all the rest are October, but clicking on that thread did not clear the flag for me), and sometimes I'll just have to click on the last page of a dozen or so of my recent activity threads at a time until something finally clears that top right icon. Does anyone have an explanation for why this happens?

My theory is it is a result of something happening on the back-end that causes a thread to not be highlighted as having a new reply on the line item but doesn't reset my account's overall "new activity" flag. For example, that post in my recent activity with a last reply date in July, there was a spam post in that thread a few days ago, and I imagine it got flagged and removed, which updated the last reply date but did not change its position in the sort order. I had seen that spam post, so perhaps that's why it was not the cause of my most recent issue, and maybe the post that did turn out to be the culprit similarly had a removed post that I never saw which caused the confusion?

Anyway this is something that happens to me every month or two and I spend an unreasonable amount of time thinking about it but then I clear the flag somehow and forget about it, but this time I remembered to ask if anyone else notices this and knows what's happening.

mrlogical wrote:

Sometimes on this forum I will have read all threads on my "recent activity" tab that show new replies, and yet the icon on the top right will remain highlighted in red. Typically, I finally manage to clear the highlight by looking through my recent activity for a thread which has a "Last Reply" date that does not appear to be in chronological order (e.g. thread 1 last reply is October 21, thread 2 last reply is October 4, thread 3 last reply is October 20). Even though that thread does not have a red highlighted icon on the right side and does not have a "new reply" indicator on the right, once I visit the thread, it will finally clear the red highlighted icon on the top right. Yet though that method usually works for me, it doesn't always, and sometimes I'll see a last reply date that's wildly out of sequence (on my second page of recent posts I have one thread where the last reply is from July while all the rest are October, but clicking on that thread did not clear the flag for me), and sometimes I'll just have to click on the last page of a dozen or so of my recent activity threads at a time until something finally clears that top right icon. Does anyone have an explanation for why this happens?

My theory is it is a result of something happening on the back-end that causes a thread to not be highlighted as having a new reply on the line item but doesn't reset my account's overall "new activity" flag. For example, that post in my recent activity with a last reply date in July, there was a spam post in that thread a few days ago, and I imagine it got flagged and removed, which updated the last reply date but did not change its position in the sort order. I had seen that spam post, so perhaps that's why it was not the cause of my most recent issue, and maybe the post that did turn out to be the culprit similarly had a removed post that I never saw which caused the confusion?

Anyway this is something that happens to me every month or two and I spend an unreasonable amount of time thinking about it but then I clear the flag somehow and forget about it, but this time I remembered to ask if anyone else notices this and knows what's happening.

I've started seeing this again as well, after a bit of a hiatus - used to be that it seemed to happen any time there was new activity in a certain thread. I never did figure out a way to clear it, it just seemed to resolve itself periodically after more activity or something.

benign1 wrote:
mrlogical wrote:

Sometimes on this forum I will have read all threads on my "recent activity" tab that show new replies, and yet the icon on the top right will remain highlighted in red. Typically, I finally manage to clear the highlight by looking through my recent activity for a thread which has a "Last Reply" date that does not appear to be in chronological order (e.g. thread 1 last reply is October 21, thread 2 last reply is October 4, thread 3 last reply is October 20). Even though that thread does not have a red highlighted icon on the right side and does not have a "new reply" indicator on the right, once I visit the thread, it will finally clear the red highlighted icon on the top right. Yet though that method usually works for me, it doesn't always, and sometimes I'll see a last reply date that's wildly out of sequence (on my second page of recent posts I have one thread where the last reply is from July while all the rest are October, but clicking on that thread did not clear the flag for me), and sometimes I'll just have to click on the last page of a dozen or so of my recent activity threads at a time until something finally clears that top right icon. Does anyone have an explanation for why this happens?

My theory is it is a result of something happening on the back-end that causes a thread to not be highlighted as having a new reply on the line item but doesn't reset my account's overall "new activity" flag. For example, that post in my recent activity with a last reply date in July, there was a spam post in that thread a few days ago, and I imagine it got flagged and removed, which updated the last reply date but did not change its position in the sort order. I had seen that spam post, so perhaps that's why it was not the cause of my most recent issue, and maybe the post that did turn out to be the culprit similarly had a removed post that I never saw which caused the confusion?

Anyway this is something that happens to me every month or two and I spend an unreasonable amount of time thinking about it but then I clear the flag somehow and forget about it, but this time I remembered to ask if anyone else notices this and knows what's happening.

I've started seeing this again as well, after a bit of a hiatus - used to be that it seemed to happen any time there was new activity in a certain thread. I never did figure out a way to clear it, it just seemed to resolve itself periodically after more activity or something.

Might be that a spammer posted in the thread, and the spam post was subsequently deleted by mods. You wouldn't have anything "new" to look at, since the post is gone, but the thread was still flagged as updated. Just a guess.

What I end up doing is that if I've gone through all the Recent Activity threads and there's still the conversation bubble marked as red, I'll just click on Mark All As Read and that clears it out. I tried figuring it out for a couple days, then realized that it's just easier to click on that Mark All button and be done with it

I just use Favorites and now I don't have to check Recent Activity anymore.

....but the icon...the icon is still red. Judging.

IMAGE(https://i.imgur.com/j7clj04.png)

all the icons need to be grey!

Yeah, that is what happens when a spam post is deleted.

CptDomano wrote:

....but the icon...the icon is still red. Judging.

IMAGE(https://i.imgur.com/j7clj04.png)

all the icons need to be grey!

Exactly!

Which is why I really wish I could remove items from my recent posts (or just remove the icon!) so that I don't keep compulsively returning to threads that are dumpster fires.

I use favorites too. The only red icons I care about is the star and the one for direct messages. Everything else can remain as bloody as it pleases.

bekkilyn wrote:

I use favorites too. The only red icons I care about is the star and the one for direct messages. Everything else can remain as bloody as it pleases. :)

Me too. To be honest, I've been on GWJ for more than a decade now and I've yet to figure out what that second icon is actually for. Or even what the oval-in-a-square symbol is supposed to represent. Clicking on it just seems to take me to some random subset of forum threads.

CaptainCrowbar wrote:
bekkilyn wrote:

I use favorites too. The only red icons I care about is the star and the one for direct messages. Everything else can remain as bloody as it pleases. :)

Me too. To be honest, I've been on GWJ for more than a decade now and I've yet to figure out what that second icon is actually for. Or even what the oval-in-a-square symbol is supposed to represent. Clicking on it just seems to take me to some random subset of forum threads.

Each one of those random threads would contain at least one "EXTERMINATE!" if you were always in character with your avatar. Alternately, hover over the icon to reveal the secret sauce of GWJ icons.

Spoiler:

not trying to go for LMGTFY levels of snark, just trying to tell you it's a list of all the threads you've posted in, sorted by which has the most recent post, in a silly way.

CaptainCrowbar wrote:
bekkilyn wrote:

I use favorites too. The only red icons I care about is the star and the one for direct messages. Everything else can remain as bloody as it pleases. :)

Me too. To be honest, I've been on GWJ for more than a decade now and I've yet to figure out what that second icon is actually for. Or even what the oval-in-a-square symbol is supposed to represent. Clicking on it just seems to take me to some random subset of forum threads.

The oval is square is a word bubble. That is a list of every thread you’ve posted in.

I don't think you can hover on a phone or tablet, but maybe that's another question for this thread.

I’d like to quit alcohol. I’m not even close to rock bottom but I dont ever want to be there. So far I haven’t been able to motivate myself. Does anyone know of any books, audiobooks, podcasts or any other self guided resource that might help? I’m not at all interested in attending meetings.

Try giving these folks a call. They are a part of DHHS, and tied into newer treatment modalities as well as the "traditional" stuff. They can discuss options with you and can give you information on your local treatment centers.

NIAAA also has a good guide to getting modern treatment. Their baseline advice: talk to your primary care physician to start the process.

I agree, the twelve-step stuff is largely BS, but there are more modern approaches that are evidence-based that are worth consideration.

Robear wrote:

I agree, the twelve-step stuff is largely BS, but there are more modern approaches that are evidence-based that are worth consideration.

12 step works for many, so I wouldn’t want to dismiss it completely. That said, an atheist like myself wouldn’t be a good fit. I think it’s fair to say that 12 step has a few good practices mixed in with a bunch of BS.

I will give those resources you provided a look.

In the past I’d tried something else that was evidence based but it was focused on reducing drinking, and it worked, but I think it’s time to just give it up. From what I’ve read, becoming a teetotaler is easier to do than trying the “drinking less” approach.

Do you feel you have dependency issue or problem drinking? You mention you have already reduced. I am trying to gauge are you looking for strategies for how to displace your current alcohol usage (which is less of a psychological thing and more cultural)?

Edit: Sorry, misread your post that you did reduction in the past, not that you have currently reduced. My own alcohol dependence was weak enough that I too was able to reduce to a safer level and that put me in a place where I could use CBT techniques to recognise and avoid the situations where it would assert itself.

Edit 2: Info on Cognitive Behaviour Therapy:
CBT FAQ

RawkGWJ wrote:

12 step works for many, so I wouldn’t want to dismiss it completely. That said, an atheist like myself wouldn’t be a good fit. I think it’s fair to say that 12 step has a few good practices mixed in with a bunch of BS.

If you skip the Jesus stuff then it drops to like 7 steps, it's a common runner tactic for any% speedruns.