Parenting Catch-all

I feel for you. We had an issue eventually diagnosed as a milk protein allergy (just based on trial and error, observation) that had some of the same issues you described. Eliminating dairy (and soy, and beef) eventually helped the issues, but not until 8 sustained weeks of the diet. We get to do this for the first year and hopefully it will be cleared up by then.

Wow, it took 8 weeks to show improvement? That is sort of depressing and encouraging at the same time. I want it to start getting better immediately, so the fact that it isn't doing so after probably 8 days milk-free and maybe 2 days avoiding other allergens is making me worry, so it's good to have confirmation that the fact that it's not improving so far doesn't mean it won't. But also waiting 7+ more weeks to know whether any of this will have been worth it is not an exciting prospect either.

Did you see an allergist? Were they able to confirm the milk protein allergy by their own tests, or was that only confirmed by the results of 8 weeks off of milk? My hope is we'll bring him to the allergist, they'll do a scratch test, and then say "okay, you need to avoid X and Y but the rest should be okay," but I suspect it's probably not that easy...

We did not see an allergist. My understanding was that it is not easy to test babies for allergies the way that it is for adults. It was just an elimination of things and it ended up working (stopping the microscopic amount of blood in the stool that they can test for). Things did get better after a couple weeks but not all the way (the blood, which indicates inflammation) until 8 weeks.

Good luck.

My wife has both gluten and dairy allergies. It can be avoided and still breast feed well, but I imagine it would be tough to start in the middle.

We're mildly concerned if our daughter has inherited those allergies but we won't probably find out for months

Our son, now 16, was diagnosed with a dairy allergy at 3 months. Then he had a biphasic anaphylactic reaction to cashews at 5. I got the horrid experience of injecting him with an Epi-pen while on the way to hang out at the ER while we watched to see if the reaction was serious or not (it was....hives lasted 3 days).

I'm happy to answer any questions about our allergy journey. Just toss me a PM.

In the past 16 years a LOT has changed in terms of recommendations. They had us do complete avoidance, but that isn't generally the advice any more.

FARE (food and anaphylaxis network) is an EXCELLENT resource.

We did a scratch test once when boy was 6. Otherwise we've done blood tests.
Most food allergies aren't as severe as ours are and the majority of kids outgrow their allergies.
Our son hasn't, but he's still doing okay. We chose to homeschool (for a number of reasons) but he's chosen public high school and is a junior and is doing fine.

It's hard for me to type this out. My daughter was just diagnosed with autism today.

My daughter is almost 2.5 years old. She's an awesome, happy little girl. She makes everyone smile. When she was 1.5 years old, we started to worry that she didn't speak yet. She wouldn't make any consonant noises at all. Most of her sounds consisted of a cooing, hoot like sound. Her pediatrician wasn't too concerned and told us to wait a little while longer. Her older brother also was delayed in his speech.

We ended up taking her to two different appointments to determine if maybe she had an issue with hearing. The first one was inconclusive and recommended we go into Boston for a more thorough exam. At the Children's Hospital they confirmed that her hearing was fine.

We had Early Intervention services through our town come in and evaluate her. They weren't certain, but signed up her up for some free speech therapy. So we had her come to our house once a week for a few hours and work with our daughter.

But it was more than just her not talking that was making us concerned. She wouldn't respond to her name right away. You had to really get into her face before she would fully acknowledge us. Little things like that. She always lined up her toys. She sort of kept her toys categorized in sets and would always try to play with them like that.

Flash forward to today. We had another appointment with Child Services. The doctor was amazing. She explained all of her behaviors thoroughly before giving us the diagnosis of autism.

We knew in the back of our heads that it was a really strong chance of it. But to hear the words was really hard. We're still not entirely sure how to feel about everything.

She's happy. She's healthy. She's awesome. But it's still so hard to hear it.

I'm not overly familiar with autism and how to handle it. But my wife and I are very compassionate and intelligent. I'm sure we're going to be fine. I'm sure my daughter is going to be fine.

But it's still scary and I can't stop crying tonight.

I'm so sorry, astral. Thank you for sharing that with us.

Astral, your posts grieves me, but perhaps not for the reasons you think.
We have a dedicated autism thread where you might find resources.
Remember that for people on the spectrum, eye contact isn’t everything. We don’t need to look at you to acknowledge you, and it doesn’t mean your daughter hasn’t heard you. It’s going to be a learning process for the whole family.

Allergist appointment was encouraging. His skin was looking way better this morning, so we were feeling pretty good about things, but as we fed him while we waited in the allergist's waiting room, it got pretty bad again. Fortunately the allergist was able to do a scratch test to check him for milk, egg, wheat, soy, and cat allergies, and he came up positive for milk and negative for the rest. Very good to get confirmation the milk is indeed the issue. We're getting some very expensive milk-free formula (going to do that alone for a week or two and slowly reintroduce breast milk after that as my wife will continue to avoid drinking cows milk), and also got some additional tips for skincare in the meantime (different type of moisturizer and twice weekly baths with a bit of bleach in them). Glad to have a clear plan of action now, particularly one that does not involve a whole bunch of guesswork and wait-and-see.

Feels good to have a plan, with knowing you can adjust from there.

Both my daughters have some kind of food allergy, one worse than the other. The youngest, when she was a little one, was allergic to dairy, wheat, peas, avocado, banana, peanuts, tree nuts.

Most we discovered after introducing solid foods and having her break out in hives, so a bit older. I'm not sure how we navigated the dairy and breastfeeding thing, I don't think my wife went off dairy, but I can't remember now.

As some have said, they can grow out of their allergies. Mine did lose some, now in her teens, but is still allergic to wheat, dairy, peanuts, and some tree nuts.

Follow the advice of your doctor, if you can find a pediatric allergist that would be good too. Follow their advice and hope for the best. I found the most difficult part was teaching my parents how to deal with food safety practice.

My first had an apparent intolerance to milk proteins so we had to switch to soy for the first few months. When it was time to switch from formula they drank whole milk without any issues so... *Shrug* Humans are weird.

And Best of Luck astralplaydoh! You have some challenges ahead of you, but it sounds to me like you and your partner are doing this right! Lean on the experience of others! The agency I work for is part of the support network for parents in my state facing the challenges you will likely encounter and all I can say is that there are folks out there that will go the extra mile for you and yours if you can connect with them. If you reach out there are caring professionals whose job it is to get you the help you need.

Convinced my 5yo daughter she was charmander tonight and needed to eat her pancakes so she could evolve into charmeleon. Got a pretty elaborate evolution dance out of it, too.

And today we built starter Pokémon out of duplo legos


In the ongoing saga of my now-12 week old son's allergy issues, at the end of last week we found that his weight had dropped even further, but the pediatrician felt like we were probably on the right track now that we're going dairy free and had purchased Neocate, the milk-free formula. And that seemed okay, until we gave him the Neocate and he completely hated it.

We started with half and half Neocate and breastmilk, and he screamed his head off. We diluted that with more breastmilk, but he still hated it. Finally we just added about a half ounce of neocate to a four ounce breastmilk bottle, and he continued to scream bloody murder. A real Princess and the Pea situation. My wife was especially distressed about this, as she's going back to work in a couple of weeks and was worried she wouldn't be able to pump enough to give daycare a full supply of food for his first few days. Then, for whatever reason, after a day or two of not trying any formula, I just gave him 2 oz of pure Neocate without any breastmilk mixed in, and...he just ate it. I gave him another 4 oz, and he ate that too, and now he's gotten through the whole long weekend drinking mostly formula. I don't know if he just objected to the taste made by the mix of the flavors, or if he just got used to the taste over time, but, whew. Keeping my fingers crossed that his weight will be back on track by the end of the week.

His skin isn't all the way better, but it is dramatically improved from before. We're slightly concerned that there's still anything there at all, but it so much milder now that, if this was what it had been like at the beginning I don't know that we ever would've even asked the doctor about it. I would like to see if the last of his skin issues resolve themselves if we totally stopped giving him any breast milk at all, but for now my wife would rather nurse him when he's hungry and she would otherwise need to pump.

Congratulations on finding a solution! On to the next problem!!! I kid. Enjoy the family life.

CW - Child exploitation, child porn, language (swearing - F-bombs)

If you have kids (young girls) posting videos on Youtube. Delete them. (Note, linking, not embedding)

Some of the highest grossing YouTube channels are basically parents exploiting their children.

mudbunny wrote:

CW - Child exploitation, child porn, language (swearing - F-bombs)

If you have kids (young girls) posting videos on Youtube. Delete them. (Note, linking, not embedding)

Is the linked video a video about this issue or is it a video example of the issue? One is something I might click while the other I'd prefer to keep out of my video feed.

On another note I don't see an issue with kids posting videos on youtube as long as their parents are aware of what they are doing. With how easy it is to do now that is getting tougher. My son posts videos on youtube that he makes of his gaming on PS4 (almost entirely the game For Honor). I am subscribed to his channel so I know what goes up. On the other hand, our 6 year old has taken photos of his backside. We talked to him and told him he's never to do that. We go through his ipad regularly and photos sync with our phones. With how easy it is to post video to youtube now there's always a chance that he posts something completely inappropriate. Google has improved on their ability to have child accounts recently so hopefully that helps with that fear. It wasn't long ago that child accounts didn't exist.

I had the same question, EvilHomer, but given the second term in the CW, I assume it's just a discussion of those issues rather than a depiction of them. This is often a thing I find confusing about CWs (which is certainly not an objection to CWs, just that I think it is helpful for such warnings to be written clearly).

It’s a video about the issues, but he does show some examples. I will spoiler what they are.


he shows how they will give a time stamp for the video that has the girls in a position that is suggestive.

Edit to add - it looks like, according to Engadget, Yiutube has taken some action by deleting hundreds of channels and closing comments on tens of millions of videos.

astralplaydoh wrote:

It's hard for me to type this out. My daughter was just diagnosed with autism today.

We have an Autism thread if you'd like to post over there. It's a bunch of us that have kids on the spectrum, so basically we've all been there. My youngest was diagnosed at 18 months, was non-verbal and basically only communicated through meltdowns. Allow yourself to grieve, and vent when you need to. It's hard to come to grips with the fact that your child will not grow up in the way you thought they would. It feels like you've lost the child they had the potential to be, and it rips your heart out.

While each kid is different, we've been fairly lucky in that he's about to turn 7, is obsessed with Minecraft, Pokemon, and Portal Knights, and is doing fairly OK being in first grade. He started services around 2 years old, and the earlier you start services the better.

So, I have mentioned in here a couple of times that my youngest daughter has problems dealing with strong negative emotions. She gets very angry and goes from fine to screaming fit in about 0-seconds flat. To figure out how to deal with it, and to provide us (and her) with appropriate tools, we went to see a shrink.

She has met with her 3 times, and after the last meeting, she mentioned that for some reason she never learned how to deal with painful emotions as a child. When I explained that she had constant reflux up until about 2 years old, and only three people would pick her up, the Drs eyes lit up. She said because she was in constant low-level pain as a child due to the reflux, she never learned the techniques that kids normally learn to deal with emotional pain. Because, no matter what she would do, the pain was always there.

It was an eye-opening moment.

Hi All,

Being a new father and new to the forums and wanted to start here. I have a nearly one year old boy that recently got a bit of the flu. My question however is more around the recent Daylight savings time change pushing an hour forward.

I was curious if anyone had any tips if I wanted to get him back on his regular sleep schedule, or should I just leave him as is for my own sanity?


ShadowtheSlayer wrote:

Hi All,

Being a new father and new to the forums and wanted to start here. I have a nearly one year old boy that recently got a bit of the flu. My question however is more around the recent Daylight savings time change pushing an hour forward.

I was curious if anyone had any tips if I wanted to get him back on his regular sleep schedule, or should I just leave him as is for my own sanity?


Back when my daughter was young, we adjusted her wake-up time 10 minutes a day over the course of a week.

Welcome Shadow!

Yep we do the same as Jonman, but we do more like 15 minutes over 5 days. We actually start a few days before the switch by moving bedtime back (so if she is usually in bed at 7:00 then we make it 6:45) and also move wake-ups and naptimes the same amount and decrease it by about 15 minutes each day. So by the time the change hits she is actually already on the new schedule, like Saturday night she went to bed at 6:15, which meant on Sunday she was back to her usual time of 7:00-7:15.

This has worked well for us over the past couple of years (she'll be three in May).

Since this is post change for you, I would start with trying to move the bedtime a bit earlier tonight, like 15-20 minutes, and the naps earlier tomorrow by the same amount, and then do that over the next few days until he is back to his normal time.

For our 3.75 yo, we had a sleepover with his cousins Saturday night, then they ran around like crazy people and he had no problem going to sleep at his regularly scheduled bed time (7pm).

Ear infections since November. Four different courses of antibiotics. My youngest is now augmented with tubular vents. More machine than human.

Apparently hand foot and mouth is going around the day cares here. So happy my daughter was able to stay home for a while.

Ugh, I hated hand foot mouth. PS, you can catch it too. I thoroughly enjoyed having blisters in my mouth/throat.