Parenting Catch-all

So, long-time lurker, first time poster.

My name is Brian, and I am going to be a Dad sometime around March. Hi.

I guess my first question is, will I ever stop tearing up when I hear "Cats in the Cradle" on Harry Chapin's Greatest Stories Live album, or is that, like, a permanent thing now?

Mixolyde wrote:

So, long-time lurker, first time poster.

My name is Brian, and I am going to be a Dad sometime around March. Hi.

I guess my first question is, will I ever stop tearing up when I hear "Cats in the Cradle" on Harry Chapin's Greatest Stories Live album, or is that, like, a permanent thing now?

Windex commercials are going to make you teary-eyed now. Congrats.

Mixolyde wrote:

So, long-time lurker, first time poster.

My name is Brian, and I am going to be a Dad sometime around March. Hi.

I guess my first question is, will I ever stop tearing up when I hear "Cats in the Cradle" on Harry Chapin's Greatest Stories Live album, or is that, like, a permanent thing now?

That's just the first rung on the ladder of unnecessary tears that is parenting.

Buddy, let me tell you about Pixar....

The media thing is fun and you just have to figure it out yourself to an extent.
One example from this summer, I pick up my 6yo son from day care and he asks "Daddy, do we have Grand Theft Auto or CDO?" (He meant Call of Duty)
I responded that "I have those, but you do not."
"But daddy, plays those at home."
"That's nice, but you do not until you're much older"
Which he accepted pretty well as I do have games he can play. But I wouldn't worry about introducing things to your kid as everyone else will.

Seriously. Things that would never bother you before are going to make you cry, be scared, and worry for no good damn reason other than you have a little human you're raising.

You'll suddenly realize that your parents were probably saints, because you're going to have the same things that they dealt with with you, with your munchkin.

You'll also realize (hopefully sooner rather than later) that all parenting advice should be prefaced with "if it works with your kiddo. All kiddos are different. This is not gospel."

Thanks everyone for the advice!

Mixolyde wrote:

So, long-time lurker, first time poster.

My name is Brian, and I am going to be a Dad sometime around March. Hi.

I guess my first question is, will I ever stop tearing up when I hear "Cats in the Cradle" on Harry Chapin's Greatest Stories Live album, or is that, like, a permanent thing now?

Since you've already found this thread (and can't remember if I've seen you in the next few...) - may I also recommend the Manly Tears of Manliness thread, and the Medical Quackery thread.

Congratulations!

Yeah. Stupid things will make you cry now. Hell, sometimes I have too much dust in the car while the kid is watching Disney movies in the back.

obirano wrote:

Yeah. Stupid things will make you cry now. Hell, sometimes I have too much dust in the car while the kid is watching Disney movies in the back.

I still haven't seen Toy Story 3. I am not ready.

oilypenguin wrote:

Buddy, let me tell you about Pixar....

And Miyazaki...

Dryden wrote:
oilypenguin wrote:

Buddy, let me tell you about Pixar....

And Miyazaki...

Though word of warning on Miyazaki - his work spans a lot of age-ranges in terms of age-appropriateness.

Don't show Grave of the Fireflies to your 4 year old, is what I'm saying.

Mixolyde wrote:

So, long-time lurker, first time poster.

My name is Brian, and I am going to be a Dad sometime around March. Hi.

I guess my first question is, will I ever stop tearing up when I hear "Cats in the Cradle" on Harry Chapin's Greatest Stories Live album, or is that, like, a permanent thing now?

Congrats!
My antidote for that particular song would be Weird Al’s « Cat in the Kettle ».

Mixolyde wrote:

So, long-time lurker, first time poster.

My name is Brian, and I am going to be a Dad sometime around March. Hi.

I guess my first question is, will I ever stop tearing up when I hear "Cats in the Cradle" on Harry Chapin's Greatest Stories Live album, or is that, like, a permanent thing now?

Welcome!... to a whole new world of terrors and joys like you've never seen.

Personally I got over "Cats in the cradle" because that dad was an asshole, but I can't do 'child in peril' stuff in media at all. I'm also an absolute sucker for any loving family relationship in media, no matter how cheap and manipulative.

Congrats, Mixolyde/Brian! Strap yourself, it's one hell of a ride

We're looking to buy our 2,5y old (by the time she will get it) a kid's camera that can take actual pictures. Any recommendations?

Either an old phone with a case or my wife found a Polaroid type camera that was pretty sturdy and then has instantish feedback for them.

dejanzie wrote:

Congrats, Mixolyde/Brian! Strap yourself, it's one hell of a ride

We're looking to buy our 2,5y old (by the time she will get it) a kid's camera that can take actual pictures. Any recommendations?

We got a Vtech one for her when she was nearly 3, after she had an old obsolete digital camera that didn't stand up to the knocks of a toddler.

My daughter loves it.

The picture quality is garbage.

But then again, she's not exactly a good photographer, so how many blurry pictures of her feet are really a problem?

Spoiler:

"Camera scavenger hunt" is an excellent way to keep the kid occupied when out and about - "can you take a picture of ?"

MrDeVil909 wrote:

Personally I got over "Cats in the cradle" because that dad was an asshole, but I can't do 'child in peril' stuff in media at all. I'm also an absolute sucker for any loving family relationship in media, no matter how cheap and manipulative.

This. Cat Stevens' "Father and Son", though...

Also, I started learning "Married Life" from the movie "Up" on piano. Bad idea, tearjerkwise.

Put an Otterbox onto an old cellphone. That should work well as a toddler camera.

Jonman wrote:
Dryden wrote:
oilypenguin wrote:

Buddy, let me tell you about Pixar....

And Miyazaki...

Though word of warning on Miyazaki - his work spans a lot of age-ranges in terms of age-appropriateness.

Don't show Grave of the Fireflies to your 4 year old, is what I'm saying. :)

My mind went to Miyazaki creator of Dark Souls...Much different version of prepare to cry....

We did the vtech camera for the young kids, too. When my son turned 7, he got a real digital camera for his birthday. It's actually a really nice camera; 20MP plus drop and water resistant, and it runs on AAA batteries. AmazonLink: http://a.co/gsVhWuv He's taken some really great shots on it.

Thanks guys. We're leaning towards the vTech right now, with our daughter being only 2,5.

So, although it's super early, it looks like baby #3 is on the way. We're freaking out a bit because this was not planned! I was not fastidious about contraceptive use one time in my life and this is the result. We did intend to have a third, but weren't going to start trying for another six months or so...whoops. Now a lot of problems that we knew about in theory are feeling a lot more pressing--where are our 3 kids going to sleep in our 3BR house? how am I going to fit 3 car seats in my Honda Fit? who's gonna pay for these little monsters?--but I'm trying to relax and remind myself we've got 9 months or so to figure these details out. As completely impossible a task as it feels sometimes to feed clothe and raise kids on a pretty decent income with a supportive extended family, I remind myself that many many people with way fewer resources handle way more serious difficulties. I know that we'll love our new addition tons and everything will be fine, but as a person who likes to plan things very carefully, this is quite a curveball!

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Hah. Thanks for proving it's possible, Larry! (Now if it turns out we're having twins, however, I'm totally boned)

Roof rack, duh.
Good luck.

Welp, turns out it was a false alarm. Now I'm a little sad instead of extremely anxious. It's okay though, I knew this could happen (and in fact I had initially made a comment in my earlier post about how I'm not entirely sure this isn't a false alarm, but cut it before posting), and now I think my wife and I are a little more mentally prepared for having a third kid and are thinking in much more concrete terms about when would be the wisest time for us to try. Feels weird to be relieved and disappointed at the same time. Oh well.

Wow, what a rollercoaster!

At what age did everyone start potty training their kids? My daughter will be 18 months in November and I've heard the usual window is 18 months to 2.5 years but I'm not sure how true that is.

I think we started around 18 months or so.
For my son, I think we wasn't fully trained until about 4 and then minor issues after/since.
My daughter was pretty well trained by 3 or 3.5 and occasionally has an issue at 4.
This fits with what I've usually heard that girls tend to be a little faster than boys, but it can still be highly dependent on the individual child.
The main thing is starting and getting the kid used to the idea of using the toilet. Also be prepared and accepting of regressing at times, particularly if you have another child after.

We did it when she was around 2 and a quarter. She still wears a diaper at night now at 3.5, but we're about to nix that.