The only manual you need:

Don't stick your dick in the crazy. (corollary for women: Don't let the crazy stick its dick in you.)

You, sir, are violating this precept. Sad, clingy, and wasted? That's the crazy. Dating four dudes at once, expects you to infer the unspoken rules? That's the crazy.

Get out now and call the waitress.

My wife is swearing by this book at the moment, and keeps telling me I should read it so I understand her better.

I can't really offer any dating advice though, since I've been married for nearly 6 years and never really dated before that. I consider myself one of the luckiest men on the planet.

Hmm. No matter how "extremely open" your relationship is, did 28 Year Old really need to hear about your exploits with Bar Girl, or were you just trying to get a reaction out of her? Back in my dating days, oh-so-many moons ago, I don't ever remember divulging my exploits with one guy to another, even when I was dating simultaneously. At the very least, it's extremely tactless, and it doesn't exactly present you in the best light.

Think from the reverse: Would you have wanted to hear the nitty gritty of how she hooked up with another guy? Especially some drunken man-slut who basically hurled himself at her while she was on the job, who she made out with over the comatose bodies of her co-workers? That's not exactly something I'd want to hear, even if I did have a non-exclusive relationship with someone.

ETA: Brennil is wise. Don't stick your dick in the crazy (or the corollary). It's never worth it. Something to keep in mind, you burgeoning rock star, you.

Oh god, I'm so happy I never really dated. I would be so lost if I ever had to find someone else (some 14 years and still going).

That said, sounds like self-inflicted woe to me to first see several ladies at the same time and then tell them about each other.

I agree with you completely on this point, and feel like a complete jerk for mentioning it. As soon as it was out there, I did a mental head slap due to me wanting to take that back right away. She however did ask how my date went. We have had numerous conversations about the exact same events that happened this weekend, recalling previous bar exploits. I was stupid and let the conversation in my head move more towards joking around with a friend than a relationship interest. I also did not inform her on the entire event of our making out. All she knows is i made out with the girl. The location and witnesses were added in for the enjoyment factor for all who read here.

This is actually the first time I have been in the whole dating multiple people game. I'm normally a stick with one person type of guy. There seems to be much more work involved when dealing with multiple women. Plus, I seem to have to tell half truths, or keep certain things hidden to ensure that I don't hurt anyones feelings. This is the point where my honest nature gets me in trouble, as can be seen in this post.

Dishonesty is more likely to make you feel bad afterwards than being truthful. Just say nothing unless someone asks, and if she asks, tell her the truth. Also mention that you are in a band, and that women will always be throwing themselves at you. What are you supposed to do, you ask, turn them down and have them leave the venue in a bad mood?
They're paying customers. You have to do whatever to please them.

Sorry, you can't "date" other guys and get offended when one of them kisses another woman. Seems like 28YO doesn't get that relationships are a two-way street. And clearly there's some kind of communication problem. If the two of you can't get on board with a definition of your relationship, then it's probably best to end it.

I went on to read the reviews of that The Female Brain book, and all of the actual specialists who cared leave the feedback are panning the sh*t out of it. Looks like the author has an agenda to promote the treatment methods at her private clinic rather than to actually make a coherent picture of the gender-specific behavioral differences and to further the understanding of differences actual and stereotypical.

As far as 28yo is concerned, it seems obvious that she feels she married too young, missed out on her youth and is looking to make up for lost time, while not getting too attached. At the same time she's not accustomed to sharing. Have fun, but don't expect it to go anywhere. It's obvious she doesn't want it to.

I don't think you're getting that hoodie back, mate.

Brilliant.

Manual = Way of the Superior Man by David Deida. Nuff said.

I'm not much for the phone. I will be doing most discussions face to face, there fore cue cards will only work if you can position yourself behind the female I'm speaking with. Then I will just have to be really careful while reading.

Being as we need to clean up all our crap at the end of the night, including the full PA, and light set up, I too have not had many experiences with the bar slut. Most of the time, they have up and left by the time we are done. This one just so happened to be getting a ride back with us to her house.

It looks like you really didn't miss out on too much Podunk

No problem, just copy these onto a note card and read it in front of them.

28 woman: Can we take your vagina back? (Pause for odd look or question as to why) Well, it's just, being a gamer, I'm more used to a system where if I get something used, I can take it back if I find out it's scratched and covered in fingerprints.

Bar Girl: So, how long are we going to keep playing this game until I get to pee on you? (wait for her to act appalled and leave, if she answers in the affirmative, say you were joking, act appalled and leave)

Yeah, a manual won't help you where crazy is concerned. And you don't really need one with the non-crazy variety.

Hey, it doesn't sound like one out of the bunch is going to be good for you, might as well go out with smile on your face.

And, the faces of everyone around when you say these things in a public place.