29yo SWM whos been single for 3 years looking for some interfeedback
because all of the heartbreak of my late teens and early 20s i decided i needed to be celibate for a while. i didnt expect three years to go by though. for example, my last ex has been married and divorced in teh time since we seperated.
ive had many lovers, am decent looking, and even fairly skilled at approaching an attractive female and just talking to them. i used to be a popular local rock band and that was the easiest time. thats when i met my last ex.
i belong to a couple dating sites and have met a few girls from there and am currently dating one now but i dont think shes "the one". i think my standards are way through the roof, because in the past 6 months that ive been actively seeking out a companion, i havent found one that ive wanted to stay with. the girl im dating now is just a tiny bit heavy, and as shalllow as that is, it turns me off a little...
also, i dream of various exes from time to time. i think once i let you into my heart you aint getting out one thing about my brain that really bothers me is that there are like 3 exgfs that id rather get back with than someone new. that isnt normal, is it? i actually brought up this conversation with one of the exes that i still talk to (shes seeing someone) but that was a fruitless endeavor.
so ill be going out to the only club i like tonight, and there will be plenty of sexy scorpions there. ill probably talk to a few of them... but im afraid that i prefer something familiar (an ex) to something new (random sexy girl in club).
if reading this inspired any sage wisdom in you, or advice, or anything youd like to feedback, please do so... i need to talk about this. its been weighing heavy on my mind for days... and i cant just forget about it. my desire for a companion is higher even than my expectations.
so lets hear it! and thanks in advance...
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Umm, see a psychologist?
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Get a chick friend. They can't get enough of this kind of talk. Also, they will hook you UP with their hot girlfriends.
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Use capital letters.
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Quintin_Stone wrote:
lunabean wrote:Well, that's the problem with women who put themselves out there as one of the hive minded, Paris Hilton wannabe "hot girls".
More often than not they have little else to offer for various reasons. (they only work on improving/maintaining their looks, they've never outgrown using their looks to get what they want)
I have two pieces of advice:
The first is when putting yourself out on the market, concentrate on improving yourself first. (read more, exercise out in the open more, organize and manage your responsibilities better or add some responsibilities if you have too little, do something spontaneous and nice for someone else) The better you are and the more you know how to deal with and strengthen your weaknesses, the more better people will be attracted to you.
The second is to try out the girl who's not one of the "hot chicks" but is cute, is easy to laugh with and you like listening to. I'm not telling you to lower your standards, I'm telling you to start valuing women's other attributes.
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The problem is you are using Vista Home Premium. Windows Vista has compatibility issues with its owners having meaningful relationships. Microsoft assures us, though, that this will be fixed in an upcoming patch.
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Use capital letters when you post, please. It's in the Code of Conduct.
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excellent advice my friend. thank you.
i apologize.
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certis, i just read the code of conduct and i still have no idea what you guys are talking about when you say use capital letters when i post... what the hell letters am i supposed to capitalize? the first letter of every word? all the letters?
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At an absolute minimum, you'd do well by to capitalizing the letter "C" in "Certis".
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cartoonin99 wrote:
Darn, beat me to it...
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I didn't fully realize the demise of public education until I read this post.
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Perhaps you could try to find examples in the world around you. Try any book. Or any article. Or any post in this forum. Take this post, for example!
"PEACE ON EARTH. GOOD WILL TO MEN. PUBLIC SHELTER. ADMISSION 50¢"
Is this a joke? I'm starting to feel like this is a joke. The first letter of every sentence would be a good place to start.
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Here's something to refresh your memory: Capitalization.
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Do they keep asking you to use capitalization? That seems like a deal breaker with you.
This can't be real...but with that said, if you're looking for a serious relationship - and assuming you have female friends (not past conquests) - talk to them. I'm pretty sure we can all give an example of what not to do...but they can help with the do's.
As for the previous comments...do you honestly not see a difference between "ive" and "I've"?
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You're definately looking in the right places for advice.
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What a funny thread! As others have said, sometimes it best to start with yourself. You said your current girl is a little too fat... how's your body composition doing? It's a two way street. Also, you're 29, used to be in a band, and you still go to clubs. To me this does not sound like you were very focused on setting yourself up for a good career when/if you were in college (definitely could be wrong that's just my impression).
Focus on making yourself a more interesting person and attractive (physically and financially) potential husband and the rest is easy.
There's no clear point to your post. You ask for advice, but it's hard to discern what people are supposed to advise you on.
From what I understand, I can say this:
Your ex girlfriends don't want you anymore. Forget about them.
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I will third (fourth?) this and add punctuation to the list of things you need to use properly. Allow me to demonstrate with a diagrammatical model.
Here's what you're doing:
hi mom im going to the store brb
Here's what you SHOULD be doing:
Hi, mom. I'm going to the store. I'll be right back.
Note the differences. Print them out if need be and circle said differences. Use this as a cheat sheet for the next internet conveyance you intend to foist upon the unwary.
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Fixed that for you as an example. Proper nouns (names etc), the word "I" and the beginning of sentences/paragraphs are supposed to be capitalized when presented in the written form. We try to avoid "l33tsp34k" and other abuses of the English language here
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