Pen and Paper RPGs: Finding a group

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Compulsion's picture
Location: Sterling, VA

Most people who've played Pen and Paper RPGs will have had, at some point, "The Group". The Group managed to get together regularly, didn't fight over who was bringing pizza, and contained the perfect mix of personalities (your definition of "perfect" is probably different than mine).

I found my Group in college. It consisted of the Anchor, his Accomplice, the Quiet Guy, the Lifelong-Player, and me. We had a Powergamer off-and-on, too.

Most of my best roleplaying experiences came out of that time. Everyone usually showed up, the GM had his stuff together, and we were always going to have a good time.

One day, the Anchor told me he got a job in another state. Less than a week later, he and his buddy (the Accomplice) were gone. The rest of us tried to keep it going, but there was something missing after that. It all fell apart.

So my question is, when did you find your Group, and who was a part of it?

Also, Rich Main (otherwise known as the Anchor) formerly of Gainesville, FL: if you happen to read this, send me an email.... ron-at-hockman.org

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Location: San Bruno, CA

My "The Group" is actually my current one, which is also the first one I've really had. There are currently five or six of us in a weekly game. The remarkable thing about this group is that we play in a local bar & grill, taking over a few of the tables in the back every Monday.

The Group first got together going on (geez...) two years ago, when a friend of mine mentioned that a D&D game was being organized at this one particular bar. Most of the people in the first game never really got into it, but a few core players have stuck around. The role of DM has shifted around, and no one player really runs the show. The game is invariably D&D, but we've switched back and forth between 2nd and 3.5th editions, and have twisted and changed the rules in occasionally drastic ways. (One of our DMs, for instance, has completely thrown out the arcane magic rules, and replaced them with something cribbed in equal parts from Warhammer and Magic the Gathering.)

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The closest thing to a group I currently have is a great diaspora of folks I started playing with about 10 years ago in Boston. We're all over the northeast now, and meet mostly at Gencon or rabbitcon (twice a year at my house). We tend not to RP because who has time to prep, so we play boardgames instead.

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My group was some of guys I know from the game industry. We meet up at GenCon every year for the D&D Open. Our note of game is rocking it two years ago and getting in Dragon Magazine. We are uber nerds.

Outside of that, I have stopped RPing just because it's so hard to find a good group of guys and to spend the time it takes to run the game. I'm like Rabbit, when we meet up outside of Gencon, we play board games. We love Titan, Catan (with expansions), and Cities and Knights.

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Location: Cary, NC

I forged my group out of my friends. I have a second group that was organized through a local area guy I met at an RPG.net meet up.

Check out the Gatherings forum at RPG.net.

Check out the Meetups forum at Story-Games.com.

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Location: Straight Outta Arkham

And indie-rpgs.com, primarily for "social contract" advice for creating a new group. There's also a link to an RPG player finder, which was a broke-ass buggy thing when I tried it.

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Yeah, but then you get those filthy Forge-ites. (Just kidding, I know and have gamed with many Forge-ites.)

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Location: Wisconsin

I've had several groups over the years.

My first group were a few friends I'd made on the swim team in high school. We played D&D and Shadowrun, both of which I have fond memories of. I took over running the Shadowrun campaign after we got tired of just shooting stuff and turned it into a much more epic and interesting campaign.

My second group was a handful of guys I worked at the grocery store with. We started off with Star Wars, then move into Marvel Superheroes, which was the best campaign I'd ever played in. We split up when the GM went off to college. I went on an RPG hiatus for about 2 years.

I spent the summer after my freshman year in college on campus working as a janitor. I hooked up with a few guys who were into Magic and Shadowrun. It was a great summer. The girlfriend I hated was still at home 2.5 hours away, I got drunk every weekend and played a ton of games. The group fell apart when classes started up again. I went on another hiatus for about 5 years.

I started getting the itch to play some sort of RPG about 3 years ago. Some of the guys I was working with at the time also expressed an interest. I ended up running a D&D campaign which met about 2-3 times a month for about 8-9 months. It was pretty fun, but in the end I was getting fed up with one of the guys' wife who was playing with us. She has no sense of humor and never put anything into the game other than saying she didn't know what she was doing. I couldn't stand being around her in general, so when I said I was done the group split up. Some of us continued to meet and play Magic once a week, which is still happening.

I don't have an RPG group right now, but I do have a Magic group. We've been meeting for about 3 years and we're still going strong. The skill level in the group has increased dramatically since we began which has alienated one of the members, but we have gained several new members to replace him. A small portion of this group is now going to start an RPG campaign in Ravenloft with the PDQ system. We may also give Shadowrun 4th edition a whirl.

At this point, I'm less about the RPGs and am finding boardgames to be much more engaging. They're quick and easy to play, and most people are willing to try out a boardgame than D&D.

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Location: Sterling, VA

Ah, yes, the group ruiner.

I gamed one time with an established group that I met through a friend. There was one guy who had serious social issues. In my one session with them it became clear that the rest of the group couldn't stand him, and I understood why. He was a long-term friend with the GM/Host, so he wasn't going anywhere. That was unfortunate, because it looks like I would have had fun if not for that guy.

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In your "One Group to Rule them All", what was it that made everything click?

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Location: San Bruno, CA

Compulsion wrote:
Followup Question
The your "One Group to Rule them All", what was it that made everything click?

In my Group, I put it down to everyone being intimately familiar with the game rules (without being rules lawyers), regular attendance of the group's members, and a strict philosophy of not taking ourselves or the game too seriously. That, and the game takes place in a bar.

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My best group ever consisted of my roomie and I, and three of our mutual friends. The roomie was the DM, and a great one. He understood the importance of props (auditory and visual), and used them regularly, and his stories scaled very nicely - blossoming into epic campaigns after nine or ten sessions (assuming we lived that long).

Our group had the new-but-willing-to-learn player, the "note taker/rule nazi", and a pseudo-power gamer that played one of the best obnoxious gnomes (with the most ANNOYING life quests possible) ever.

I suppose a group of that nature seems pretty destined to fail, but given all of our personalities and our mutual friendships, we always had a great time. Tons of inter-character bantering and bickering, and everyone really got into whatever characters they were playing. Everyone showed up every week (three of us actually worked out, got lunch, and then drove back to my place every sunday for months), and made sure we'd keep everything entertaining and light hearted. We got into some serious campaigns and character conflicts, but we always made sure everyone was enjoying, keeping a rule that we would take unanticipated breaks when things got too tense between two or three characters.

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Going back 16 years back to college days. A strange group. A DM who knew his stuff, me as the only other with any kind of pen and paper experience - the rest - well not a nerd amongst them. I would describe these guys as "jocks" and the concept of them playing anything resembling D&D was hilarious - but it worked and it's the only time I've ever had a regular weekly group. It was testament to the fact that you don't have to be part of a steriotyped demographic group to enjoy RPGs. Having said that I can't imagine them discussing it with their friends over beers. It was more their dirty little secret. Was the last time I played pen and paper

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Currently my group consists of an anchor, me (I guess I'd be the accomplice), the Jewish Checkbook (his friggin' aunt is so rich it's not even funny...), the quiet guy, the sexist pig machine, and Jesus. Yes, he is Jesus, I swear to God.

So far we just ended a DnD campaign and are now entering Star Wars D20. I think I'm going to be a Farghul Scoundrel.... or maybe a class that's a bit more creative, I haven't had a chance to sit down and actually READ the books yet though.

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Location: Houston, TX

I only played a little in high school, mostly D&D, though I'm about to join up with a friend from work and his "the group" sometime in the next month, so that ought to be cool. They're playing Traveller (my friend has a long-standing love affair with that game).

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Location: Straight Outta Arkham

Quintin_Stone wrote:
Yeah, but then you get those filthy Forge-ites. (Just kidding, I know and have gamed with many Forge-ites.)

The correct term is "the Forgeoisie".

Mumford! You might be interested in OshCon.

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H.P. Lovesauce wrote:
Mumford! You might be interested in OshCon.

I might be interested. If they get some more stuff up on the schedule then I could say for sure.

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Location: The Eighth Dimension

My PnP group started back in high school, it evolved through college and a little bit after. But then people started moving away, getting married, having kids etc. And it dissolved after that. We had the perfect blend of personalities, archetypes including the Anchor, the Bon Vivant, the Accomplice, the Pacifist and the Curveball. It was the kind of group where you could play all night and not notice the time pass by or even get tired. Break for an hour for some fast food and then caffienate and play through the next day. Our mainstays were Warhammer Fantasy, Palladium Rifts and Heroes Unlimited, Shadowrun, Call of Cthullu and Torg. After real life/growing up scattered us across the country, I tried to recapture the magic by being the new guy in various groups. But it was never the same.

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