I am VERY confused... *Demos Dating Thread!*
Ok... so... I've only been on campus for a few days now. I gave up on dating... and, of course, only then did I get any girls who seemed to be interested.
So anyway, this girl and I are partners and have to introduce each other to the class... we get to talking and have a lot of stuff in common.
Anyway, we continue talking during each group activity. Discussing what we wanna do after college, what kind of stuff we do in our free times. I find out some stuff about her sorority and the like...
Anyway, this girl ASKS ME for my number and screenname. Forward? Yes, but I like that in a woman. So, of course, I give them both to her and she gives them to me.
Anyway, after a failed attempt to hang out with my friends (who were actually at the hospital, one of them became an uncle tonight), I came home and there was a message from her on my computer. I started talking to her... sorta playful, still cracking my lame ass jokes...
And, I decided to ask if she'd be interested in getting dinner... she says YES.
We are officially in an area without precedent. Anyway, I tell her I have to leave because my friends are bugging me to visit now that they're home... and she says... "Yea, I've gotta leave too... my BF is calling."
...
What... what... what the hell? I'm officially VERY f'ing confused. Did this cute lebanese chick like flirt with me and ask for my number and agree to get dinner... only to drop a bombshell like that?
This is exactly why I gave up on dating! Goram jingya.... bah!
I'm headed back to my friend's place to get drunk... I expect answers when I wake up in the morning with a hangover!
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Females under 30 and logic are not mutually compatible. Also, it is possible that she's, uh... polyamorous. Not that I approve of that particular concept, but it can be fun for a short while. A very short while.
Did she ask you to fix her computer?
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It can be fun for about as long as you don't really give a damn what she thinks or feels.
I watched a friend go after one of these "polyamorous" college girls and let me tell you that it is a form of modern torture.
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I think it sounds more like she's a cheating . Well at least it sounds more likely than Mex's idea. Which BTW makes me want to drill a hole in my head to let that horrible, horrible image out.
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Maybe by bf she didn't mean boyfriend and this all a horrible misunderstanding.
BF could mean anything.
Bad Ferret?
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Hit it, and then never talk to her again.
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Bannana Farm! Her family owns a farm and there must've been some sort of problem that needed addressing, so they called her at college.
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I hate saying this but maybe you're trapped in the "Friend Zone". She may have taken your dinner invite to be merely two acquaintences/collegeues getting together to communicate and consume mass quantities of pizza & beer.
Of course, maybe she's trying to get the BF jealous which means you could be on the receiving end of an asskicking if the two of you decide to play with fire.
Man, I miss going to college. The frat parties, the hot coeds, the complete disregard of morals and relationship mores.
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When a girl says "girlfriend," we don't immediately think of "lesbian girlfriend." It used to be (and is still quite common to infer) a friend that is a girl. When a girl says, "oh, I'm out to hang with my gf," I usually think, "oh, that's cool, friends' night out." Unless of course, her Myspace profile says she's lesbian or bisexual.
So with that in mind, if she logged off quick enough, the three options are:
1) She views the term "boyfriend" as the equivalent to "girlfriend."
2) Typo, as the G-key is just above the B-key.
3) She's getting ready to dump him.
I know (and dated) a few girls in high school who were warming up to me as they were cooling down with their current boyfriends. Usually, after the friendship and flirting started heating up, a few hang-outs (it was hard to go on a date-date in my no-horse-town), I would eventually get a call announcing her single status.
While my college relationship life last year was at null - I was trying to start something with a hometown girl that failed just recently - I noticed this trend continuing.
Don't think of it as polyamorous, or at least, don't assume she's just looking to mess around. She may have seen the call from her boyfriend as an obligation so that she could just avoid a fight and subsequent break-up.
I have to say stay with it, Demos, and ride it out until you know for certain that she's completely happy with her boyfriend (or if she's just in the love-hate relationship that's never healthy but never ending). I just can't see myself cutting loose the Middle Eastern women. Years and years of breeding only the beautiful (because the uglier ones would never get a hefty dowry and never get a chance to reproduce) has proven to be a gift from Allah to us the infidels.
EDIT: I am now and forever calling these threads and their ilk "DDTs," even if they're not of Demos.
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I will second the notion that BF does not neccessarily mean boyfriend. It probably does, in this case, since she just casually tossed it out there. But I have used BF to describe my best friend before - usually only with people who know what I mean and won't be confused. I am also fond of calling my girl friends my girlfriends, with minimum lesbianness implied.
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*edit: Okay, thought about it a little bit more, and what would make me casually drop "my BF" in conversation with a guy? I think she's trying to be tactful. I think she's probably recognized your interest, but she had friendly intentions from the start, so she's trying to cover her ass by mentioning her boyfriend. You did, after all, set up a date. She's probably trying to make clear to you that nothing can come of it, but that she does still think you're a cool guy and would like to be your friend. I say go on the "date", have fun, and don't be a doof by blowing her off because she's not interested in you that way. We can always use more friends.
Maybe she can introduce you to some hot sorority girls. And who knows, maybe one of them will be a gamer too
. It has been known to happen.
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Yeah, I gotta say, I'd need some supporting evidence (lots of incidental touching when we hung out, her trying to cram her tongue down my throat, that sort of thing) for me to think it was anything more than just "Hey, I'm back at college, let's make new friends."
Of the 5 girls currently online on my buddy list, I have talked on the phone with all of them, and only f*cked... well, ok, one of them. Fine. You have a 20% chance that this girl wants your DDT writing ass. Good luck to you.
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Demo, don't sweat it. Just take her out, have a nice dinner, talk about school stuff. Don't bring up girlfriends, boyfriends or polyamorous friends and have a nice time. If she ODs on herion after dinner, give her a shot of adrenaline in the heart, it should help. Seriously, who really cares if this is a booty call? Go make a friend who lacks a penis, it won't hurt, and it could lead to meeting other people. The main thing I took away from college was the networking.
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I'm going contrary to what pretty much everybody else says. Girls in university are not understandable creatures, like strong and weak nuclear forces, and yet, also like strong and weak nuclear forces, they make the world go round. And they're cute. They look nice in small t-shirts. They... where was I going with this?
Right. Girls, university. Do you know her boyfriend (if he exists)? If you don't, does it matter to you that she has one? I'd say it sounds like she's interested, and it's not like no girl in university has ever gotten together with *gasp* somebody other than her current SO. Go on the date, push it a little if you're interested and she seems interested, and let her make the decision. If she's into you, I see no reason not to hit it. Being too timid (although at the time I figured it was 'polite') in university is one of my few regrets.
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Find out where she lives. Then go there and wait for her "BF" to show up. It might take days, so be prepared. If she goes anywhere keep a relative safe distance (some girls think this is creepy) to find any contact she might have with the opposite sex. Get some binoculars. And a hooded sweatshirt so you can pull the hood tight to... keep warm.
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She's got doubts about her boyfriend and is in the process of switching over to someone new. Fill the gap!
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