My Whole Life Came Crashing Down

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Elysium wrote:

Personally, I like the guy who appears to be pushing the toddler toward the bat.

Danjo wrote:
I'm partial to that Derek Smart looking f*cker who approves of the situation smugly.

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My sincerest sympathies. It''s something that has happened to all of us, but that never makes it easier for any of us.

This too shall pass. It''s just really hard in the meantime.

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Damn Vector, I''m sorry to hear that. It sounds like you got to experience something really special there, I''m sorry it didn''t go the distance.

Tis'' better to have loved and lost... yadda yadda. Just try and stay busy, maybe rent Swingers in a week or two, it''s a great break up movie!

Yeah, it's scary. I'm staring into the abyss right now, and it's staring into me, which I think is kind of a dick move on the abyss's part. - Nyles

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I won''t sugercoat anything, it will take a LONG time to get over it if you really loved her. Also don''t beat yourself up, learn from it but don''t dwell on how you think you screwed up.

In my case it took about 1.5 years for me to even begin to be ok, but it does eventually happen.

Spiderman wouldn't sneak, Spiderman would go. -Elysium

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The first one is the hardest Vec.

Just be happy that in (Time that your relationship lasted) / 2 = the time that you will lay around moping about her.

Best thing you can possibly do is to not hate every other woman just because of her.

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I put more effort into keeping her happy than anything I have ever done. I tired to do everything that was asked of me. It was not enough.

Also, that ""I''ll do everything for you"" deal never works out. Be happy yourself, first of all. And be happy that you had a great time! Some people never even get that.

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What we need right now is a strip club intervention. Seriously.

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Theres a lot of good advice in here.
I would take a lot of it to heart.

And mateo damn you for beating me to the strip club comment.

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Take this time to improve yourself. Nothing will make you focus on learning, physical fitness, diet and health like a broken heart. Use the pain as a motivator. Has always worked for me.

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Yeah, lots of meaningless sex can fix you right up... or break you forever but it''s still lots of meaningless sex and that can''t be all bad.

Do you ever walk alone like a drifter in the dark?

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Two words...Vegas Baby Vegas!

Well....Er... three words, but two of em are the same.

Just take it easy, mope for a little bit, but remember the world keeps going. Sadly, it happens to everyone. It sucks to go through, but you''re stronger at the end. Just smile at the good times, and know that more good times are coming....

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A typical mistake many of us make is sacrificing own integrity for the sake of love.
When I met mine 6 years ago, right then and there I told her ""This is the happiest day of my life"".
And indeed it was a very happy day.
And it was followed by about 2 very happy months.
And about 14 more not-so-happy months but still ok.
And about 2 months of being total emotional wreck after she dumped me.
And then after 6 months of intense moping around I started introducing major changes into my life and worldview.
Still, it took years for me to stop thinking about her.

Recently I saw her on the street, and I was surprised at how ordinary she was. Sure, a cute girl... shorter than I remember her... but she''s no goddess... there''s no white halo around her head... she''s just an ordinary girl and her current boyfriend isn''t looking so hot either.
She is not special, she is just one person in the world with whom I shared too much and yielded too much of my integrity.
This can be done with any other girl, and it would lead to a similar result.

First loves are a unique experience.
There''s a certain naivette and openness with which two people approach it that makes it so.
People never forget their first loves.
But the cold fact is, just because she is your first love, she is not really superior to any other girl.
It''s an illusion that is built around her in your head.
An illusion that is near-impossible to shrug off for a while, and yet it is still a lie.

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Just to re-cap the collective wisdom:

"Certis wrote:
maybe rent Swingers in a week or two, it''s a great break up movie!

Sound advice. I would add something from eth mel Brooks line just to cheer you a tad.

"Mex wrote:
Best thing you can possibly do is to not hate every other woman just because of her.

Don''t second guess Mex and women. It''s like his major and some junk.

"mateo wrote:
What we need right now is a strip club intervention. Seriously.

Again, something well worth while.

Now, onto my simple advice. When trashed by some little hot-n-tot, you need to get right back on eth saddle and try, try and try again. Stewing in your own little misery accomplishes nothing. If you''re at University, then get out and join a fraternity or club and get your life back a bit. You will be amazed at how quickly bleak turns back to ''hot damn''.

Just some words of advice from the older much more married set of the GWJ community.

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Damn, that sucks man. I think we''ve all been there - I know I have. It''s like a right of passage, or something. Keep your chin up and know that you''ll be better prepared next time. I know this doesn''t help much now, though.

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Sorry to hear about your pain Vector. I''m sure almost the entirety of the community can sympathize. I know that I can.
To paraphrase the Maxx, a big part of adulthood is pain management.

Got any toast?

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Few things are worse than being dumped by someone you have strong feelings about. Truly one of the tougher things young people have to face... any they all do. As has been said, this too shall pass. You will find someone else. You will in all likelihood find someone better. Perhaps not the next person or the one thereafter.

Don''t get self-destructive. Stay busy, find some way to better yourself. Get yourself moving, climb out of the pit, don''t look back too much. After a period of time, if you find yourself unable to climb out by yourself, think about seeing a doctor... it''s all to easy to let something like this spiral into full-blown depression. And that''s very tough to get out of. I know, I''ve been there. Following a monumental break up.

Keep your chin up.

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it''s all to easy to let something like this spiral into full-blown depression. And that''s very tough to get out of. I know, I''ve been there.

I knew my face off winning in hockey last night was bad, but I didn''t think it hit you so hard. I''ll let you win a few next time

Yeah, it's scary. I'm staring into the abyss right now, and it's staring into me, which I think is kind of a dick move on the abyss's part. - Nyles

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Yes, keep your chin up like Propa said! Don`t do anything rash or stupid. There are a lot of women out there looking. Sometimes no matter what you do it`s not enough, that doesn`t mean that it is something you did wrong -but perhaps she has other tastes or aspirations that didn`t mesh with yours. Time heals. You will recover. Like you said your ""not sick or anything"" Thank God for that, its more important than you realize!
Having said that, you didn`t by chance mention you were a gamer did you? That would be the kiss of death for most relationships.

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"Mex wrote:

Just be happy that in (Time that your relationship lasted) / 2 = the time that you will lay around moping about her.

My girlfriend and I broke up in April after almost 4 years, I''ve been a wreck ever since and you''re telling me I gotta go through 2 years of this! Blah!!

But anyways if your the moping mood, I recommend listening to The Cure. Distentegration, Pornography and the new album are great break-up albums.
NIN is good too.

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Sorry to hear that.

You have to believe there will be others.

Life will go on. Take this as a learning experience. Make yourself an even better person.

Good luck!

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"Barab wrote:
"Mex wrote:

Just be happy that in (Time that your relationship lasted) / 2 = the time that you will lay around moping about her.

My girlfriend and I broke up in April after almost 4 years, I''ve been a wreck ever since and you''re telling me I gotta go through 2 years of this! Blah!!
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Well, it''s the general rule, but it''s a curve, so after the first year or so you''ll be generally a-Ok, with sporadic pangs of nostalgia. It also has other factors, such as the number of women you date in the meantime, and the number of boobies that you have access to during your first 48 days.

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There you have it, boobies are the solution!

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My sympathies, man. That stuff is HARD. I''m not sure what I''d do if my girlfreind broke up with me.

This may not be the healthiest thing, but it''s what works for me: throw yourself into whatever is handy; in this case school. School it up like a madman. Time heals all wounds, and having something which takes up 100% of your time helps it pass more quickly.
As to not having any freinds around anymore... that''s what the internet is for! Seriously, though, there are people who spend their whole lives without any real freinds. I''m sure you''ll be able to manage until you meet some people around where you are. Also, make sure to keep in touch with your old freinds. Even if it''s just an email every two weeks, it will help. I did a semester abroad before coming back far lack of funds [don''t ask,] and it used to improve my mood exponentially whenever I''d get even the tiniest word from my freinds back home.

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"Certis wrote:
Tis'' better to have loved and lost... yadda yadda. Just try and stay busy, maybe rent Swingers in a week or two, it''s a great break up movie!

Man, swingers was just a hard movie for me to watch. The part with the phone calls Mikey made was physically painful to see.

Unfortunately, if I slash my wrist with my lightsaber it cauterizes instantly. - PurEvil on emo Star Wars plots.

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The part with the phone calls Mikey made was physically painful to see.

I cringed through that whole scene.

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Vector. It sounds trite now, but someday you will see the wisdom in the aold saying ""There''s plenty of fish in the sea"". I know that now it seems really bad, but think of the freedom you have now, to find someone who is a perfect match for you. Someone who you make happy just by being you, not by concious behavior like you illuded to in you note.
The pain will subside, not completely for a long time, but it will, and you''ll have some pleasant memories in exchange for it. And there will be someone in your future that''ll make you wonder why you were bothered at all by this one leaving.

So buck up, little camper!

You don't have to call me Lieutenant, Rosie......

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"CEJ wrote:
Sound advice. I would add something from the Mel Brooks line just to cheer you a tad.

Taggart: We''ll pull a Number Six on ''em!
Lamarr: A Number Six? I''m not familiar with that one.
Taggart: That''s where we go into town. A ridin'' and a whupping and beat every living thing within an inch of its life... Except the woman-folk of course.
Lamarr: The women? You spare the women?
Taggart: Hell no, we rape the sh*t out of them at the Number Six Dance later on that night.

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Now THAT is a top-notch quote.

That movie is chock-full of quotables.

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Each day the pain will fade away a little more Vector, until one morning where you''ll wake up and start singing I feel good. And it won''t take very long trust me.

If you want a new girl though, I heard Edwin could share.

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There you have it, boobies are the solution!

Now that we are in good sports seasons again (FOOTBALL), I''m reminded of some wisdom that one of my coaches spouted upon my team. We were 0-a whole lot on the season, but he said one of the most profound things. And I quote verbatim.

""You guys may not want any games, but when you go out there and see your girlfriends after this loss, just remember one thing. Boobies are undefeated.""

"When will then be now?"

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Elysium wrote:

Personally, I like the guy who appears to be pushing the toddler toward the bat.

Danjo wrote:
I'm partial to that Derek Smart looking f*cker who approves of the situation smugly.

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Try and enjoy the single life man.

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